A Guide to Finding the Best-Fitting Bras for Mature Women

Updated on November 13, 2017
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Where to Find the Best Bras for Older Women

Ladies, I know we all have our favorite bra — you know, the one you're probably wearing right now. The elastic may have stretched, and it doesn't seem to fit as well as it once did, but it is still the first one you grab when you open your top drawer. But, now it is time for a change.

Let's look at a few bras on the market that are targeted to the mature woman. That doesn't mean that they aren't attractive. Don't think that they are all going to look like something you used to see on your grandmother's clothesline. Styles, fabrics, and adornments have all improved, and we are now being offered bras that are not only comfortable but pretty as well.

I'll show you a couple of my favorites and tell you how to get the perfect-fitting bra no matter what size you are at the moment.

Bra Shopping

Bras are not one-size-fits-all. They're not even one-style-suits-all. So, in order to select the perfect fit, we need to look at our own body shape and size and consider the occasion when we want to wear it. Is this going to be worn under an evening gown at a party, or do you want something for everyday wear? Breasts come in all shapes and sizes, and what works for your best friend might not be best for you or your situation.

Different Shaped Boobs

If you have ever changed clothes in front of other women, then you know that boobs come in all shapes and sizes. According to recent research by the company Third Love, there are seven different shapes of breasts. Below is a table that lists the different shapes and the styles of bras that are most suited to that shape.

Bra Guide Based on Breast Shapes

Suitable Bra Styles
These are equally full at the top and the bottom.
Most styles suit this shape, but a balconette shows them off best.
Wider at the top narrowing towards the bottom.
A plunging bra design is best for those with slender shaped breasts. If you want more volume, opt for a plunging push-up style. This will create a cleavage.
East West
Sloping with wide space on the chest, pointing more to the sides.
A smooth T-shirt or push-up bra will minimize the spacing between the breasts.
One breast is larger than the other.
Buy a bra with removable pads or use a gel filled insert.
Bell Shape
Narrower at the top with the weight at the bottom.This is often the case in full-sized women.
Opt for a bra with full coverage to take the weight off your back and shoulders.
Side Set
Similar to the East West sloping but pointing more to the front.
A modified version of a balconette bra is ideal. One which has fabric a little higher will disguise the wider chest.
Tear Drop
Similar to the bell shape but not as heavy.
Best shape for a plunging bra as the breasts are lifted to fill out the narrow portion at the top.

Finding the Perfect-Fitting Bra

For the perfect fit we need to check, the band, the cups, and the straps.

Band Size:

  • The band size is the number 32, 34, 36, and is the measurement around your rib cage. The band is responsible for supporting 80% of the weight of your breasts.
  • When you put your bra on, take a good look at how it fits. If you stand with your side to a full-length mirror, the strap should be level. The band should not ride up on your back. If it is, you need a smaller band size.
  • There should be no puckering along the sides.
  • The center should lie flat between your breasts (no tilting forward or pressing in). If it is leaning forward, then you need a bigger cup size.
  • The bottom should not impede your breathing or be low down on your rib cage. It should be right under the breasts.
  • To have a comfortable band, it shouldn't be too tight, and you should be able to pass two fingers underneath it.
  • Any red marks when trying the bra on will lead to irritation and soreness after wearing it for an entire day.

Cup Size:

Once you know the correct band size, let's look at the cup size.

  • Are you a B,C,D,E, etc.?
  • There are also double digits, such as DD or, in the US, DDD. These are incremental measurements for those who are in between sizes. It is similar to going up a half-size in shoes.
  • Once you have fastened the bra, lean forward, allowing the breast tissue to fill the cup. Check on the side at the seam to make sure all the breast is in the cup and not pinched under the seam. Do this on both sides.
  • Now, look at yourself in the mirror. Does your cup runneth over? By this, I mean are your boobs spilling out and giving you the 'double boob' look? If so, you need a larger cup size.
  • If the fabric on the cup is puckering with gaps and not smooth, then you need a smaller cup size.
  • If you prefer an underwire, then it should not dig in under your arm. If it does, go up a cup size.
  • Most women have one side that is larger than the other. If this is the case, buy for the larger size.
  • If it is a significant difference, then consider using a silicone/gel insert that you place inside your bra to even out your breasts. If you haven't tried them before, they are quite comfortable and solve the problem of lopsided boobs.


  • For the perfect fit, the straps should be wide enough to support your girls without causing indentations on your shoulders.
  • The straps support 20% of the weight, so they need to be up to the job.
  • You should be able to pass two fingers beneath the straps to achieve the correct fit. Adjust the straps accordingly, but don't allow the band to rise in the back.
  • If the straps are digging in or leaving a red mark, then you should go down a band size. For example, if you are wearing a size 38, go down to a 36. Remember the band is the main support, not the straps.
  • Don't forget that the straps can be adjusted to hoist your girls into position, but don't do it in an unnatural way. We don't want pulling or straining; we want them to be supported and coddled.

Selecting The Best Bra Closure

Front-Closing Design

  • If you have always bought a rear-closing bra, maybe it's time for a change. I am a fan of front clasps, but they also make ones with a front zip or hooks and eyes.
  • These are an excellent choice if you have reduced mobility in your arms or shoulders. Sometimes, you almost have to be a contortionist to get in and out of bras, but that isn't the case with a front-closing design.

Pull-Over Design

  • Most compression style bras have no closure, so you have to pull the bra over your head.
  • These are fine for small-chested women but aren't suited, in my opinion, for full-size women, especially if comfort is required.
  • It's quite a workout getting it off, too. And getting a snug one off a sweaty body is... let's just say Houdini would have struggled.

Rear-Closing Design

  • For rear-closure bras, you should buy one that fastens comfortably on the loosest closure setting, so that as the elastic stretches over time, you can get more life out of it by simply moving to the next row of eyelets.
  • Whether you fasten yours in the front and then spin it around or hook it behind your back, this type of closure was the norm for a long time.
  • Check for the number of hooks and eyes. Two is okay, but three is better, especially if you have a fuller figure.
  • If you have a nickel allergy, be sure there is an extra piece of fabric between the closure and your skin. Most good-quality brands have this as standard.

Ask for Assistance in the Lingerie Department

The next time you are in the lingerie department, ask if they have a bra fitter. These ladies know their stuff and will tell you what your correct size is. I used to buy the same size I bought when I was in my 20s, but when I hit 40, I went in to be measured.

The difference in the comfort level was unreal. I had always been purchasing a 34B since I was in high school. Two kids and 20 years later, I was still buying the same style and size. Only when I was fitted for a bra did I realize I needed a bigger cup and a smaller band. Somehow, over the years, my size changed to a 32E.

Picking a Bra for the Right Occasion

At the end of the article, I'll tell you about a couple of bras that I personally like for every day use, but depending on your upcoming occasion, you still have options to consider.

  • If, for example, you have a backless dress and need a backless bra, there are several to choose from, including those that are secured around the waist or at the neck.
  • There are also self-adhesive bras that offer coverage and add a little bit of lift. I would only consider using these if you aren't doing too much dancing. They generally work well under tube tops.
  • Along the same lines, you can buy body tape, which will provide you with needed support. This is a better option than your partner's duck tape (gaffer tape) as it is gentle to the skin.

As we age, our breasts change (as you're aware). It isn't only through breastfeeding. Weight gain and loss also have a big impact, and if you have been on a diet, you know one of the first places where you see a reduction is in the breasts.

My Favorite Styles

It used to be that after a certain age, you were expected to have a 'mom bra.' These were unattractive, thick-sided styles that looked more like they had been designed for military use and less like something you'd find in the lingerie department.

But, I think we can all agree that when we hit 40 or even 50 that doesn't mean we stop being feminine or stop wanting to look pretty. Thank goodness, manufacturers have finally realized that there is a huge market of women crying out for comfort and feminine styling. The manufacturers also know that we demand and pay for lasting quality.

1. Playtex Women's 18-Hour Ultimate Lift and Support Wire-Free Bra

One bra does not suit all occasions, however the Playtex Women's 18-Hour Ultimate Lift and Support Wire-Free bra is one of my favorites for everyday wear. I am a nightmare to go bra shopping with, but I know what I like and what I don't. This one fits the bill.

  • For starters, I love the smooth cups. This make it suitable for wearing under T-shirts and tight-fitting clothes.
  • I have always worn an underwire, and this is as close as I can get without one.
  • The center piece sits perfectly on the sternum and stays put.
  • The first time I bought it, I was unsure about the straps. I normally prefer thinner, feminine straps. But, let me tell you, I don't think I have ever had a strap slip down on this one because they sit close to the neck.
  • The band width is something I always check. Ones that are too wide rub in my armpit area, and if they're too thin, flab (loose skin) spills out. On this one, the width is perfect for me.

2. Wacoal Women's Plus Size Awareness Underwire Bra

The Wacoal Plus Size Awareness Underwire bra encompassed pretty much everything I love in a bra. Not only does it make me feel pretty, but it also makes me feel special.

  • It definitely isn't the cheapest bra one can buy, but, when you reach a certain age, sometimes you've got to say, I deserve this.
  • I love an underwire as long as it is comfortable, and this one is.
  • For me, wearing a quality-made bra isn't so much about how it makes me look to other people. There are a lot of bras that can give a smooth, outwardly profile, but this one feels good on my skin and makes me feel good in my heart.
  • I believe in the company's ideals, and in its support for cancer awareness.
  • Wearing this is just one of the ways I feel I am making a difference to benefit causes which affect women.

There you have it, ladies. Now you can confidently buy online or in a department store knowing which bras best suit your shape and the occasion.

© 2016 Mary Wickison


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      Shauna L Bowling 13 months ago from Central Florida

      Thank you for this information, Mary. My body has definitely changed over the last several years. I've yet to find a bra that is comfortable. To me, if I'm aware I'm wearing one, it isn't fitting properly.

      Now I know what to look for. I'll take your advice and seek the help of a bra fitter the next time I go bra shopping.

      Very well presented article!

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      Mary Wickison 15 months ago from Brazil

      Hi Dora,

      With the different shapes and sizes we can now see why it can be difficult to find the perfect bra. Imagine trying to design them!

      It helps to be measured, although ordering through Amazon allows for returns if it doesn't fit well.

      As always, thanks for reading.

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      Mary Wickison 15 months ago from Brazil

      Sally, that is disappointing to hear. One of the places I used to go, there were two lines, one just to try on and the other were women waiting to be measured. The line to be measured was always the longest as the the lady who was the fitter would make sure you left with the perfect bra. I think she had been there 30 years or so.

      Maybe you can try a different place who are more supportive of your needs. No one deserves to be wearing an uncomfortable bra.

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      Dora Weithers 15 months ago from The Caribbean

      Never knew there so many different shapes. Learned something new about the straps also. Whenever it is possible I asked to be measured again when I'm making a purchase. Thanks for the tips.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 15 months ago from Norfolk

      I did that last year and to be perfectly honest they had little in stock and were not very helpful, except to say that they would pass on my suggestions to the manufacturers.

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      Mary Wickison 15 months ago from Brazil

      Hi Sally,

      If you have a lingerie or department store who has a bra fitter, I would suggest you go there. Trust me there is a bra out there with your name on it which will suit you.

      It could be a different style than you normally buy but there will be one. Also, I didn't mention this in my post but there are sizes called 'sister sizes' which are similar to your current size but are a little bigger or smaller in the cup as the band size alters. It could be a slight adjustment in choice of bra, cup size or band size is all you need to find that perfect fit.

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      Bill Holland 15 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Nothing I say here will be helpful or enlightened, so I'll just shut my mouth. Have a great Monday!

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 15 months ago from Norfolk

      Very useful info. I know I can always get the cup size correct but it is almost impossible to find a bra which fits perfectly around my frame without cutting into my back. I hate the little add-on bits of fastening you can buy. I just wonder why the manufacturers don't start listening to their customers and make the fastener more adjustable than they are already.