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Are Beauty Pageants Good for Little Kids?

My granddaughters, my grandsons, and my niece absolutely love being in pageants.

My granddaughter, Lexi, loves the stage!

My granddaughter, Lexi, loves the stage!

Are Kids Beauty Pageants Good or Bad?

To say that all pageants are bad for kids or all pageants are good for kids would be ridiculous. There are just too many variables involved. These include the pageant itself, the way it’s run, the attitude of the parents, and the individual child.

My granddaughters, my grandsons, and my niece absolutely love being in pageants. They adore dressing up, and the girls like wearing big-girl makeup. At many of the better-run pageants, the directors have costumed characters backstage to entertain the kids. The girls were thrilled when Cinderella, Princess Aurora, and Jasmine read them stories and played with them. The pageant kids also enjoy playing with and getting to know each other. There are rarely any sharp feelings of competition among the younger girls and boys, so they consider each other friends and are always sharing their candy and their toys with each other.

Bad Pageant Moms

When I've observed problems with little kids at pageants, they typically stem from the parents. These are the parents who put too much pressure on their children to win. Some of these kids hate doing pageants and are scared to go on stage, but the mothers force them out there, anyway. Obviously, these pageant moms are more concerned about themselves than they are about their child’s happiness. They’re not entering pageants for the kids—they’re doing it for themselves.

I hate to see a mom backstage scolding or berating her child because the child didn’t do well on stage. What did the mom expect? The kid didn’t want to be there in the first place! I’m not a violent person, but I swear, sometimes I’ve wanted to smack a couple of these pageant moms! Fortunately, this type of pageant mom is the minority.

It’s Not All About Beauty!

What most people who haven’t been involved with pageants don’t understand is the scoring process for most kids’ pageants. It’s not all about beauty. Personality will win out over beauty almost every time. Our kids are beautiful, but that’s not why they’ve been so successful in pageants. It’s because they love being on stage, and the judges can tell this by their behavior.

Pageants are also about creativity and originality, especially in the sportswear, casual wear, costume wear, and swimsuit categories. In these parts of the pageant, the girls get to dance on stage to music they select, use props, and wear really fun outfits— the more original, the better.

What Is the Parent's Responsibility?

Parents who place their young children in pageants have a responsibility to their kids. For example, we never make it about winning, so our kids are never under pressure. We make the event as fun as possible. It’s a way for us to all spend time together, and after the pageant, we all go out to eat as a group and enjoy each other’s company. If we’re doing an out-of-town pageant, the girls spend a lot of time in the hotel swimming pool with their pageant pals.

Our kids have never gotten upset about losing because we’ve never pressured them to win. They like winning, of course, because of all the neat stuff they get. Not once, however, have my granddaughters or grandsons shed even one tear or displayed a sad face because they didn’t win. They enjoy all the fun activities that go along with the pageants!

What Can Kids Learn From Pageants?

From competing in pageants, my grandchildren and niece have learned to be good sports. They can win graciously, and they can lose graciously. They’ve also learned the importance of friendship and sharing.

Another benefit of pageants is boosting self-confidence. Kids get used to being in front of a crowd and interacting with strangers, both in the audience and backstage.

Children also get to use their imagination and creativity. We always let them offer their ideas about their apparel and their routines. This gives the children a sense of ownership, too.

We enjoy doing pageants for charitable causes. When we compete in these, we like to explain to the kids how the money from the pageant helps others. This is another good lesson for children.

Lexi is the little one in the center.

Lexi is the little one in the center.

What Can Kids Win?

Our group has won all kinds of stuff from pageants! These include savings bonds, stuffed animals, cameras, furniture, jewelry, bicycles, dolls, flowers, luggage, televisions, CD players, DVD players, iPods, tee shirts, gift certificates, games, toys, engraved silver trays, and cold, hard cash.

Some pageant directors are getting pretty creative with what they give the winners. For example, a recent pageant in our area gave a registered Shih Tzu puppy to the supreme winner! Some of the big national pageants even award automobiles to the winners.

Of course, the participants can also receive banners, crowns, and trophies.

And it’s not just the winners who get goodies, either. In almost all pageants, all the participants under the age of nine or ten receive a trophy, a gift bag, and/or a stuffed animal.

Some pageants also invite talent scouts and model scouts to observe the contestants. Lots of pageant kids have been scouted by top modeling agencies, including my grandchildren.

The Final Verdict

So, are beauty pageants good or bad for little kids? It all depends on the kids and the parents. Our kids are always begging us to put them in pageants, but for those children who don’t want to participate, the parents shouldn’t force them to do so.

If your child wants to compete, be supportive but not critical. Think of pageants as a type of sport or other entertainment. Help them prepare, cheer them on, and allow them to have a good time, whether they win or lose!

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Sandra M Urquhart from Fort Lauderdale on March 09, 2012:

I was entered into a pageant once, but I was in my late teens at that time, so it was fine. I was first runner up. Anyways, I wasn't big into it, but in my mind, for little kids, I do think the parent's attitude about it is a huge factor. I also think that it is incumbent upon the parents, that they focus more on the child's inner beauty, not external.

A child has to have their confidence built on more than superficialities of physical beauty. They must know that they matter and are important no matter how they look. I don't think its wise to create a situation where all of the child's self-esteem comes from how they look, because that breeds vanity, and is like dust in the wind.

But if the child's esteem is grounded in more inner beauty and character, and if the attitude of competition is right, and not selfish, and the child enjoys it, then I see nothing wrong with it. The key is the parent's motivation for putting their child into a "competition" of this nature, and whether or not, as you say, it is about them, or about the child's enjoyment. At 2 years old, a child cannot decide whether or not they enjoy it. I think children should only be entered into these things when they are at an age where they can decide for themselves if it is something THEY want to do, without the coercion of their parents.

deanne STYLINSON on March 08, 2012:

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Jastery Desmin on March 08, 2012:

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gina on February 26, 2012:

how can I get sponcers to put my2 month old on a pagent? if u can look me up on face book

123mmgishere on February 20, 2012:

i love the idea!

Bonnie on January 11, 2012:

You know I think pageants are good for young ladies, when you get down to these babies that have to have their parents carry them on stage sleeping and crying it then bio

S my nerves. I also see these 3-10 year old kids saying anything to their parents and they put it off as the kid being sleepy. It is awful the way the parents make them think they can just say anything and go onabout it. I way he'd a pagent that was to be based on Mardi Grais theme, their was a young 3 year old name Brenna I would like to spend 1week with. I would also take another week with her parents. It is an awful situation when you have to bribe a 3 year old child with100 dollars to go on the stage. As you are watching you see the parent of the child on stage standing in the audience mimicking the dance routines so the kids do exactly the routines. Some of these kids are so disappointed they cry at the end of the pagents. The name of the program ois toddlers and tiaias

malindacs on September 09, 2011:

Children should enjoy there dreams but..i do think that they will grow up so fast they do look beautiful but its a beauty pageant so it should go on there natural beauty.

Also i think its not fair the way the mums all get called child abusers and force there children into doing things they don't want to,children change there minds a lot my daughter has a new dream every week!

Amy DeMarco from Chicago on July 31, 2011:

I admit that I was a bit shocked when I saw these pageants on tv. I was mostly appalled at the mothers who force and practically abuse their kids. I also do not like some of the sexuality that seems to be encouraged by these moms. However after reading your hub I see that not all parents behave that way. Kids should be encouraged to follow their passions. As long as the children want to perform and understand it's for fun and not about winning at all costs, I don't see much wrong with it. Madison is a very pretty girl and I love the white dress. :)

Sun-Girl from Nigeria on May 25, 2011:

Interesting piece of article which i so much enjoyed reading from especially the colorful pics which was included your hub.

nene7884 from Savannah,GA on May 03, 2011:

I think most pageants are bad for kids because kids at that age kids do not know much about the world. Because they are being introduce to the pageant world they may begin to determine their self worth by how these judges decide who to pick. I am sorry I would not enter my kids into a pagenant it cause children to grow up way too fast.....

Steph on April 23, 2011:

I think plain pageants where the girls wear a nice dress and no make-up are lots of fun for the girls and the family that gets to watch them walk out on stage, organically. I think the pageants where the girls are wearing make-up and coached on how to prance around the stage are sick and sad. What a great way to make a young girl feel self conscious about her image! Shame.

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on March 01, 2011:

Hart, glad you found my child pageants hub useful!

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on March 01, 2011:

Pageantmom, sorry it took so long to respond. Glad you enjoyed the hub. I'll check yours out now.

HartMurengu from Nairobi on February 23, 2011:

Great advice. Sometimes the moms make it too serious and about themselves that they forget the child's

needs. Found your hub useful because I have been writing a short story on a beauty pageant and am yet to finish. Am glad I came across this hub. thanks.


Maddy'sPageantMom from Texas on February 05, 2011:

Great Hub, Habee.

My daughter Maddy is involved with many pageants. She does many national pageants, and has won quite a bit. Something that has been bothering us, though, is that people stereotype me as living vicariously through my daughter and forcing her to beautify herself for my enjoyment. This is of course untrue, and I feel like this Hub has given me some fair arguments to state my case with.

Love and kisses,


P.S. If you have time, I'd appreciate it if you looked at my Hub about pageant clothing. I could use some advice!

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on December 26, 2010:

Shorty, stage presence is HUGE in pageants! And since you're already used to being on stage in front of an audience, I think you'd look comfortable up there.

thatshortgirl on December 26, 2010:

My parents are the encouraging and really supportive type, they love it when me and my sisters do things we like. For my older sister, thats art, my parents love to show off her latest drawings to family and friends. For my little sister, she mostly does ringette, but also soccor, my parents spend so much on her goalie equiptment for ringette, they have her on 3 teams and she loves it. And for me, its acting, singing, and someday (mabey) pageants. They are the ones that got me into preforming, and now i have tons of friends from theater, and I have hug stage pressence according to them

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on December 17, 2010:

Each to his or her own, Sopxxx!

Sophia, it's all about the attitude of the parents!

UR MOM! on December 06, 2010:


Sophia Angelique on November 30, 2010:

Interesting read. I don't know much about this. I agree that it has a lot to do with the parents. It's the pressure to win that is killing. If it's just fun, it's wonderful!

sopxxx on November 30, 2010:

i really tink the kids ar 2 yung 2 do it and i really tink the kids don't no ta they look like dolls and adults i culdnt tell if it was a child or adult sory so plz don't send ur child in pageant o its waists ur money and we wuld hav better stuff 2 do and were in recession

Jasmine on October 19, 2010:

they make kids look older than they are !!!

But it should be the kids choicee.

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on October 07, 2010:

Sorry, PP - I don't know of any good sites like that, but my niece always has killer outfits. She gets a lot of ideas from punk dolls like Bratz!

pageant Princess 123 on October 05, 2010:

I totally agree with your statement about it depends on the child and parent. I myself am actually in beauty pagEANTS(I AM 12) and my mom was very against them until I started doing them. We enjoy doing them together and although the two minutes before you get on stage is very stressful Its al1 worth it when I get on stage. I have made tons of friend since I started in pageants.I found this site while looking up outfits of choices and I couldn't find a single site for them for my age- know any good sites that will provide these outfits.

Sincerely yours

Pageant Princess123

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on October 04, 2010:

That's bad, Temika. The kid should want to do the pageant!

I agree, ichoosehim!

ichoosehim on October 03, 2010:

Your hub was very good. I think as long as the kid is happy and having fun then no problem.

temika from united kingdom on October 02, 2010:

i agree, my aunt lets my cousin go for pagents and i hear her sobbing and crying how she didn't want to do this.

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on September 17, 2010:

Great comment, and thanks for the kind words!

502jenngoodin from Kentucky on September 16, 2010:

First, the children are gorgeous! My daughter also enjoys entering pagaents, she says she enjoys just being up in front of people. I think they have taught her poise and grace under pressure. She truly enjoys the interviews with the judges and was thrilled this year to be old enough to answer a question on stage.

However, having said that, I have issues with pagaents that encourage children to look like adults rather than their age. Their age is beautiful as is, and I do not think that toddlers, young girls and boys, or even pre teens for that matter should be wearing formals, sequins, hair pieces, updos, and other things that should be saved for later in life. I think children should be children, even if they do like the glitz. This is why my daughter enters only pageants that encourage children to look like children; in fact, points are deducted for each rhinestone, sequin, bit of make up and formal gowns.

Do I think putting kids in those kinds of pagaents makes their parents "bad"? Absolutely not. I think, generally, the parents are very good parents and truly involved with and concerned with their child(ren). I think it is with a sense of pride that the children are entered. Is this harmful to their self esteem? What better way to encourage our children that they are lovely than to enter them in beauty pagaents AS LONG AS it is with the full knowledge that the parent will think the child is still the most gorgeous one there whether he/she wins or comes in last place or chooses to not even enter the stage.

This is my humble opinion. Thanks for a thought provoking article.

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on April 21, 2010:

S, I respect your opinion, and thanks for reading!

S on April 20, 2010:

I think the girls are too young. Like all girls, the young children will compare themselves to the pretty girls all made up with makeup and all dressed up, and will wonder why they don't look as beautiful as them. I beleive its actually creating miniature girls who will grow up to become huge bi*ches! or girls who will always try to look perfect, who would want plastic surgery, want to be skinny etc. I beleive it is only creating problems!

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on April 14, 2010:

Interesting point, secularist. I've never heard of any. Thanks for reading!

secularist10 from New York City on April 13, 2010:

Good article, I know very little about these pageants, although I've heard about them in the past. Cute kids!

I wonder if there is any info/ studies on the kids who participate in pageants years later, i.e. their confidence, better or worse social adjustment, emotional well being, etc?

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on April 07, 2010:

Exactly, Audrey! The adults are supposed to act like...adults!

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on April 07, 2010:

Lily, I understand your concern. The girls also do natural pageants where they wear no makeup or fancy hair. They go on stage in a tee shirt and jeans. I actually prefer these because they're much less work, but the girls like the glitz pageants so that they can dress up.

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on April 07, 2010:

Ethel, thanks for reading and commenting!

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on April 07, 2010:

Herbi, thank you so much for your kind words about my grands! and I agree with you - any kid activity can become negative if the parents have the wrong attitude: ballet, soccer, football, baseball, t-ball, etc.

Audrey Kirchner from Washington on April 07, 2010:

It all comes down to the moms (parents), dog owners, etc. doesn't it? I think everything has the potential to be a good or a great thing - as long as the 'adults' involved (or owners) realize that and make sure that they are responsible and are doing things for the RIGHT reason. Great pics!

Lily Rose from A Coast on April 07, 2010:

I agree - the child definitely has to want to. Personally, I don't like the idea of seeing such young girls all dressed up with makeup and all. Even though it's only in that setting, my fear of predators/pedofiles outweighs the benefits of the pageants - that's my law enforcement background talking, I guess...

Ethel Smith from Kingston-Upon-Hull on April 07, 2010:

I agree with you. It depends on the children, parents etc. The idea of these pageants makes me a little uncomfortable though

theherbivorehippi from Holly, MI on April 07, 2010:

First let me say that your entire family is full of beautiful children...Lexi is breathtaking! I am all for pageants as long as the mothers are not demeaning as you mentioned. Although I did not participate in pageants when I was young, I was a serious ballerina and loved EVERY minute of it until my mother started getting a little "too" aggressive with how important everything was. I never felt like I was missing out on things having to practice a lot or anything because it was something that I loved doing but it got to a point that it was expected of me to give up other things and that was my "line" that ended my love for it and my commitment. I think girls should be allowed to participate in pageants! How fun it is to get dressed up and be glamorous even at a young age but they should also be allowed to have time "off" of being perfect to play with their friends and attend social school events, etc. I think pageants do wonderful things for self-esteem and self-appreciation at a young age as long as the mothers are not critical of flaws and failures. Fabulous hub!!

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on April 07, 2010:

Cindy, not only is it an American thing, it's a distinctly Southern thing! Other parts of the country hold pageants, but not like we do in the South.

Cindy Vine from Cape Town on April 07, 2010:

You know, whenever I hear about beauty pagents for kids I think of that Jon-Benett Ramsay, think that was her name, and that movie Little Miss Sunshine. I think it must be an American think, but they just don't sit right with my soul.

Holle Abee (author) from Georgia on April 07, 2010:

I thought it was strange that I hadn't received any comments on this hub. Guess it would help if I added the comment box, huh?