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Feminine Trends in Men's Fashion

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Laura writes from the Pacific Northwest. She explores topics on relationships, mind-body wellness, social issues, and lifestyle.

Review some so-called "feminine" trends in men's fashion, from eyeliner to skirts to handbags.

Review some so-called "feminine" trends in men's fashion, from eyeliner to skirts to handbags.

I've lived through enough fashion trends to be OK with men wearing makeup. It was the '80s when all major rock bands wore makeup and wore their hair long. Anything and everything was approved fashion. I loved the way thick black eyeliner highlighted the stony blue in Bret Michael's (rock band: Poison) eyes.

In the '80s, makeup, hoop earrings for guys (my husband had them), long-haired perms, and other trends were considered completely normal for men. The 21st century statement for men in fashion seems to be "androgynous". There is a fluidity between genders on the rise.

Trends have changed over the years and usually for a particular reason other than likes and dislikes—some are about freedom of expression, culture, and societal and gender exploration.

Bret Michaels

Bret Michaels

Madonna. Men and women displayed similar styles in the '80s.

Madonna. Men and women displayed similar styles in the '80s.

Whether or not it’s attractive, for some males, clothing and styles for men feel “restrictive." They can experience "gender role conflict," a psychological state in which restrictive definitions of masculinity limit men’s well-being and potential.

Skinny Jeans (Originally "Girl Jeans")

Guys of all types are sporting girls' jeans In a “skinny jean” style for men.

This trend can be attractive on men with thin frames, but it also reminds me of an experience I had with my guy friends.

One night I was attending a Basketball game with a couple of guy friends. Afterwards we were walking to our cars when suddenly the guys stopped dead in their tracks.

Well, of course I assume they're checking out a girl so I don't pay much attention, but I slip a curious glance her way. She was bent over, reaching for something in her car, wearing I-can't-believe-she-can-still-breathe tight jeans.

The object of their extreme interest stood up and turned around to reveal a dude in girl jeans. My friends were checking out a DUDE and believed they were checking out a girl before he turned around.

As far as I'm concerned, guys should not wear any article of clothing that encourages other guys to accidentally ogle and drool over them. However, that can be chalked up to a causality of fashion.

“Footballers back in the seventies, they used to wear those little shorts, No one was questioning their manliness; other guys wanted to look like them, in fact. They had the confidence to show their bodies, and to be playful.”

— Martine Rose, Mens Fashion-wear Designer

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Man-skirts, not kilts, but actual skirts can be made to appear more masculine.

There are rules.

  • show some leg, but not too much.
  • must be thick, durable, type material. Nothing silky or too smooth.
  • Dark colors are best.
  • No pantyhose.
  • shaving is unnecessary.
  • wear underwear underneath.

My first contact with a man-skirt happened not too long ago when I was taking a nature hike with my family.

We came to a spot where the trail got steep, but luckily there were stairs and a railing. It was at this point I realized I was behind a guy who was wearing a man-skirt with hiking boots. Up and up we went and I thought if I looked directly above me I could probably see up this man's skirt. Sure enough I got a view of nature I wasn't planning on that day.

Painted Nails

It used to be sexy for a man to paint his woman's nails or toenails, now he's asking her to paint his nails. I can't picture anything cuter than girlfriend and boyfriend painting each other's nails.

Real men wear nail polish. There's no feminine stigma attached to it anymore. In fact, men get quite creative with donning one or two nails on each hand- typically darker colors.

Unibrow waxing

Unibrow waxing

Male Grooming: Getting a Wax Job

I used to hang out with bodybuilders who are quite waxed out to the max so I'm not accustomed to, or fond of overly hairy, beastly guys. I am a little intimidated though by a man who is smoother than a woman or a baby. In fact, if you get near me with too smooth a butt, I will probably diaper it out of habit.

However, body waxing and shaving for men ("manscaping") can be viewed as a common courtesy to women. Women go through a lot of effort to be "manicured" and it is nice when a man is not rough and hairy to an extent that it affects attraction and intimacy.

It is not uncommon for men to also wax hairlines as well as unibrows to give them a "clean look".

Men have a variety of accessories

Men have a variety of accessories

Accessories are for all men!

Accessories are for all men!

Men's Accessories

Accessories have always been a fun way of playing up and outfit, and now they can be for men too!

Bracelets consisting of earthy materials, such as onyx, leather, and rope are all the rage for men. Delicate jewelry is best left for women as their features (wrists and necklines) are smaller.

Accessories for men are no longer limited to cuff links, sunglasses, and wrist watches. Other attractive accessories include scarves and suspenders, hats and bowties.

Man Purse or Satchel

This man-purse trend became popular with the onset of metrosexuals; metropolitan heterosexuals. Basically, it's men who are more high maintenance, and fashionably aware, than most men and some women.

There is a reason for women having a purse. We have to tote around female products and other things that make you guys squeamish. Men typically carry them for work, travel, and after-work functions.

Man Ponytails and Man Buns

I’m part sad and part envious to see how truly gorgeous a man’s hair is when he grows it out. Most men have done less styling and stressing on their hair compared to the average woman. This means when they grow their hair out it can be prettier than ours.

It’s sad to see what my hair could look like if I didn’t perm it in the 80’s, flatten it in the 90’s, and color it for the past few decades.

However, men can embrace both shorter and longer styled buns with just about any style they rock from business to casual. I know a few lumber-sexuals who look smoking with their buns.

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A pretty boy in pink.

A pretty boy in pink.

Wearing Pink

A variety of colors are offered in men’s departments now. Go ahead and rock the pink tee or polo. A red tie may say “power” in the boardroom, but a pink tee says “confidence” everywhere else.




Rompers have gained popularity in women’s fashion, but now they’re showing up for men as well. Instead of a romper is referred to as a “romphim."

Blurred Lines

It’s safe to say that some trends are flattering for both men and women, and there is a distinct difference between exploring gender and trends. When trends change, tolerance expands, and attraction between genders flows with the tide.


CarlMilner on March 24, 2020:

While I appreciate Bella's comments, racism, etc is not going away any time soon. Even in a very liberal California.

I loved this article. I myself use to wear women's underwear(bikini's and thongs) and do wear women's jeans. I just love the fit and feel of women's jeans(straight leg and boot cut). I have found men's thongs, bikini's and cheeky boyshorts that fit and feel better than women's and don't cost a fortune.

I wish I could wear leggings on a regular basis but don't have the guts. That would draw way too much attention, even in California. I do wear legging to run and bike in cold weather. My wife is not hip to me in legging either. She puts up with the jeans, as long as they are not too skinny. She could handle the panties as she didn't have to see me wearing them. She wants a normal, blue coller, masculine guy. I am all that but like some feminine things too.

Bella on November 11, 2019:

Hey, if a man wants to wear a dress, make up, or heels why not? What’s the problem? They are only clothes (and make up).The problem lies with those who criticise it! Are they doing anybody any harm? Societal gender expectations are thankfully becoming a thing of the past, as is racism, sexism, homophobia, etc etc. Women want equal rights, so this should extend to men as well, equality to wear what they want! Go for it guys, break the barriers, shock the old fuddy duddies in your best dress.

Larie Anne on August 05, 2019:

Jj, I just did a quick check on what you wrote about buying men's skirts versus buying women's skirts and I think your point is valid. I recently purchased a skirt online for my brother who does wear a skirt sometimes in public and it cost around $85.00. I bought myself a different skirt for $22.98 and I was very disappointed that I couldn't find anything less expensive for my brother.

Anto on May 06, 2019:

"In general many men would not find it particularly attractive for a woman to dress in man's pants so I feel the same about seeing a man in a skirt unless it is intended to be masculine in nature...and even then. I'm not paricularly attracted to feminine men."

Why are you taking it back to the gendered things, "feminine clothes" making men "feminine"

and " i think now it boils down to men losing their place in society, taking on more female roles, and i guess it's worrisome."

I think there are woman trousers and so there can be men skirts too, not that I personally wear them, although I like makeup and nail polish, and even when I don't I support it.

And women can be pretty attractive in jeans and short hair, like in skirts and dresses!

Anto on May 06, 2019:

You are nice everall but here ""Maybe we SHOULD not judge people", then you conclude with my "use of the word bothersome". Hmmm. Telling me not to use the word "should" when you just suggested what I "should" do." you pulled a "intolerant of intolerance" argument, he referred to not using "should", not in absolute, but relatively to what people wear, at least not overly seriously.

I think one of the problem is, pretending the male fashion has to be only functional, expect as a sort of uniform and signifier and anything else has to be justified, which is depriving men of expression and ultimately of "art".

I myself don't like overly vain people, men or women, but that has nothing to do with wearing makeup and clothing for expression purpose, which not necessarily has to be equated with "omg, I didn't shave and I have to wear makeup" and with men it seems automatically equated with unreliable and narcissistinc, which has its roots in misogyny.

Like a woman might not wear short hair, jeans and oxfords, (in theory "men's shoes", but now gender neutral, as almost everything in male fashion), not to look like a man or crossdress, but to be comfortable or for style, the same should be true for men who wear make up and/or, long hair, nail polish, skirts, boatnecks and if they like, why not, heels. Now there's nothing wrong with crossdressing as well, but usually it's expressed differently.

It's almost like feeling sexy aesthetically or polished, has to be feminine, while depending on our style, it can combine with a beard, long or defined or being clean shaven.

Bob G on May 05, 2019:

Carhart blue jeans and a Harley t-shirt. Works great.

Jj on January 22, 2019:

The reason most men don’t buy men’s skirts and dresses that a lot of top designers have introduced is partly stigma but mostly prices. You see girls dresses and skirts everywhere for as low as $25 and up. But most men’s dresses and skirts an only be ordered online out of the country, rough materials and are hundreds and hundreds of dollars. So, who is going to order something online that they’ve never seen or know sizes and have to deal with all the negative stereotypes and bullying and laughs from males and females alike.

That is why, most men who don’t want to be women but want to broaden their choices of styles and fabrics and have the balls to try it buy women’s clothes and are considered cross dressers. Even though women wear men’s clothes all the time. Make this mainstream, affordable and out of nice fabrics and you will see more men wearing skirts and dresses and less cross dressing. Men don’t want to be women but love to feel sexy and love soft materials that provide options for comfort, practicality and style. All we have is pants and shorts mostly made of uncomfortable fabrics. Also do women don’t like lingerie but men do, so let men wear it. The same bikini or briefs underwear for men in soft stretchy fabrics and nice colors cost $25.00 and up even on sale and again only available online are same as women’s with the exception of panty liner sewn in but women’s are sold everywhere and cost as low as $6.00 a pair with better choices. So if designers and fashion forward people in the industry really wanted equality in fashion and to make clothing not gendered, then it should be inexpensive, readily available and hotly advertised like a brand new truck, car or other popular items. SUV weren’t always so popular but nowadays most families have at least one. End of story!

Feminine Man on December 24, 2018:

There are rules... No there are not.

Manly feminine cloths are to... manly.

I prefer womanly cloths.

cadavia on November 25, 2018:

Actually... I am a straight man however I have started to dress more feminine so much so that my girlfriend has become concerned. Started getting toe nails done at salon now I am actually shopping and wearing women's pants blouses light make up and shoes.Recently got a full set of P&W nails. Only regret... NONE

a d on November 18, 2018:

why should a guy "not wear any article of clothing that encourages other guys to accidentally ogle and drool over them"?? I don't see how this is relevant

Carey on October 21, 2018:

I would not want to wear pantyhose, but what about opaque tights? I've adopted some of the recent European runway fashion and a woman gave my outfit her approval the other day when I went into town. Think opaques under cropped above the knee shorts with knee-high wool socks and big brown hiking boots. A fleece sweater with collar or hood and beenie to match the socks. Just have to get the colors right and I think it really works. I found the key to pulling it off is the tall thick socks and the hiking boots. Those two things brought a lot of masculinity to the outfit. Modernized 16th century men's fashion was the idea in my head.

PaulaPlaytex on August 21, 2018:

I love to get my "Fingers and Toes Painted"...I wear my Bras and Panties 24/7, 365...I love my Nylons and Pantyhose...Sleeping in my Nightgown...Wearing Make-Up and Clip-On Earrings.

paul on August 03, 2018:

Thank you so much for this, you give me the confidence, to be a real man. Im a guy and i have always loved lacy women's panties.

Im going to go out and get a stash with matching bras and liberate myself

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on January 23, 2018:

Fgm I'm a woman and I would be thankful to wear the comfy clothes that men have. There's a reason why women joke about the first thing they do at the end of the day- TAKE OFF THEIR BRA. Most women don't even wear corsets anymore.

fgm on January 15, 2018:

yes I am a little bet older man I been wearing panties all my life with a bra I even go out to buy my own I have a lady friend that go with me shopping one day in a store I was looking at a corsets when the sale lady said that will look good on you I just smile here lets try it on she help me into the corsets after I was tie up she turn me around to show me a full mirror I look lovey she said you lady friend just came in were we are she said he makes one good girly bitch after that day and many more I never went back wearing male clothes again I do think men should learn to dress as they want to

John on January 13, 2018:

I think men are changing. We do not necessarily want to dress like women but I think there is trend to freeing up the restrictive style with a feline twist and to more feminine colours

Seva on June 30, 2017:

Sexism at it's finest.

Pink is a marketed color, along with blue, but here's a fun fact most women don't like pink, they guess what prefer blue.

Skirts were originally for men, they fell out of use when we were riding around on horses with swords. Now that we don't do so anymore and guys want to return to it they get judged.

Makeup has been used by both sexes since the Egyptians of the pyramids...polish is no exception.

Omg imagine the horror of a guy not wanting to be hairy! Not every guy in every country wears trunks or shorts for swimming/underwear some like in Europe, get this wear it bikinis...Oh wow.

Handbags/purses as long as not floral who floral, it's fine, guys need to store stuff too...

Long hair, seriously? Are you kidding me guys have been rocking long hair for centuries, this isn't a new phenomenon.

One you didn't add I noticed was heels, heels again were for men originally then fell out of favor.

I wonder how many women actually play video games marketed towards guys, or how many read comics targeted towards guys? Lots but we don't go no sorry this is for men, stop trying to be a man, because that's sexist, this is no different.

Quentin on February 24, 2017:

After all it is the twenty first century, it's about time REAL men are making changes.

Theres an old saying that goes; 'What comes around goes around'.

The ironically what is labeled "feminine" here was once was 'masculine' way back when.

The makeup- worn by Egyptian Pharoes, skirts- in variations, Scottish kilts, Pharoe's shendyts, Malay sarongs, etc.

As for purses, coin pouches were the purses of the days. Sachels have been used by men for various thing from different periods in history.

Screw what society thinks.

Women made changes that redefined what what it means to be a woman, so why can't men make the same changes. It shouldn't make a man any less. Aren't men allowed equal rights as women when it comes to personal preferences, tastes in styles?

James on January 15, 2017:

Listen, if this stuff doesn't suit your taste, then that's fine, but people are allowed to wear whatever they'd like (as long as it doesn't effect others around them in a negative manner). If a guy wants to paint his nails, then he has every right to. If he wants to wear lipstick, put on mascara, or anything, he's allowed to. The notion that, because you were born a certain sex, you can't wear certain fabrics or use certain materials, is absurd. Women and men can do whatever they'd like if it makes them feel more themselves. Don't tell people what they can and can't do. You represent an ignorant mindset.

Raimer Gel on July 10, 2014:

It all boils down to self expression.

Steve from Northern California on January 31, 2014:

As a man what I want is fashion freedom, for all persons, to express themselves for who they are without all these hurtful words and actions said by some persons.

I was born in the 1950's with societies rigid thought's on gendered clothing. I watched as women bravely wore pants in defiance of societies gendered clothing ideas. As much as I missed seeing a woman in a skirt or dress I was on their side for their fashion freedom and more importantly being treated as an equal and not the weaker gender. Women have been and still are redefining their feminine selves, what it means to be a woman, and allowing the freedom to show their masculine side without ridicule.

I believe it's now the men's turn to break out of the restrictive box society has imposed on us. It's OK to stop hiding and show our feminine qualities without ridicule. Clothing can be, and is for me, an expression of my creativity and my mood. I need that expression to remain mentally healthy.

But I'm tired of being told, by some, what I can and can't wear. I'm tired of being boxed into playing a role of a character some think of as a male. I'm tired of being called gay when I'm heterosexual. Mean while women are allowed to wear a much wider spectrum of clothing with little or no repercussions. The double standard is wrong on so many different levels.

In history the skirt, which has many names in the past and present, was a garment many very manly men worn with pride, even today in other parts of the world. It's only in recent history that men in the west stopped wearing the skirt in favor of pants. For men bringing back our abandoned skirt we used to wear is part of that symbolism to me. The skirt should return to being a unisex garment worn by men and woman.

We are all different with many talents and gifts. But will we as human beings learn to embrace and encourage a person's right to self expression? Can we as humans learn to respect each other differences?

jeanine on July 17, 2012:

although this is a fun read and I laugh a lot hear... I am sure some of the angst that men feel is they don't know where they fit in anymore... on one hand we say we just want a guy to be a guy, jeans and a tee, but on the other we love it when he takes on more of the domestic caring for our families and our homes... I love a guy that can cook... and years ago realized he was pretty cute in that apron... not because it was a frilly thing but it was sexy in a way that I couldn't really explain... so I paid attention and later I realized it was that he was sweating of the meal for me...something about a guy having long hair and being different that I like also... yet I like a smooth chest and abs... so I'm sure we are sending mixed signals and guys only want one thing we all know sorry... so I think a lot of them end up wearing these things because their wives or girlfriends have pushed the envelope just a bit... look how much mens underwear has changed, simply because there are a lot of us out here that want to see a tight piece of cloth across that butt of we are cultivating more feminine men, even the macho guys don't mind helping around the house these days... poor never saw it coming... and the girls... well are we ever really happy... I mean for long periods of hope you are well and the kids are doing great... oh your hubby has them good for

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on July 16, 2012:

me, I love good ol fashoined (guys) jeans and a plain white T-shirt on a guy. Buy black and black is good too on night out on the town.

Larie Anne from Dallas, TX on July 14, 2012:

I totally hear you, Laura, esp. the part about men not finding it attractive for a woman to dress in man's pants. I think it was when I wanted to look nice for a boyfriend in school that I mainly took more interest in wearing dresses & skirts. While I still try not to judge anyone by what they wear, I can't help but be a *little* turned off by guys who wear skirts & attire generally considered off-limits to men. Just sayin'! And when I want to look nice for any special event, including a night out with my husband, I prefer to wear either a dress or skirt. I also admit that I think guys are most sexy when they wear black trousers with a black shirt. To me, that is HOT for guys, but I'm sure other gals have other preferences for guys 'cause we're all different! I know my husband can't wear black every day, but he never wears anything pink.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on July 14, 2012:

I tend to write novels myself so totally understandable. Having a 4 yr old girl and now a baby boy, I realize how much society accepts her to have various toys and clothes while a boy not so much.

Also i think many scottish men for example are quite manly with skirts or make-up on male rockers in the '80's and '90's so its not a question of manliness so much as the intention nowadays is to emmulate women more even with the term metrosexual. I suppose I'm accustomed to the cultural (kilts, etc) or freedom of expression (rockers) with feminine attire and otherwise. i think now it boils down to men losing their place in society, taking on more female roles, and i guess it's worrisome. Not that they can change a diaper but that they are losing or imitating their identity. I just wrote a hub about "the Demise of Guys". I talk about this a little more.

In general many men would not find it particularly attractive for a woman to dress in man's pants so I feel the same about seeing a man in a skirt unless it is intended to be masculine in nature...and even then. I'm not paricularly attracted to feminine men. I think the movement of women is that they are stronger and have tried to emulate men's traits in business, etc. I don't agree with that either. I think they can succeed as woman and not be like men. Women deciding to without shirts or tops like men do would cause a stir too.

With your brother wanting to be a woman, I think he should wear and be like a woman, but for me heterosexual men copying women's fashion is a turn-off. THis isn't really a LGBT issue, just a preference of trends.

Larie Anne from Dallas, TX on July 14, 2012:

Hi, Laura, it was nice of you to respond to my comments, and looking back, I feel I need to apologize for rambling so much. I'm sorry I wrote such a novel! I think you & I are mostly on the same page about fashion trends for men vs. women. The argument about whether or not a woman should wear trousers doesn't really make sense to me. Being raised by a Jewish mom who saw to it that I had a Torah-based foundation, I was aware of the verse that speaks about men wearing women's clothes and vice-versa. It doesn't say, "Men must not wear dresses and skirts and women must not wear trousers," and I believe there is a reason for that: Cultural understanding & application. Each culture as a whole must decide what is appropriate for men & what is appropriate for women. Back in the day when both men & women wore robes & tunics, the difference was in the more decorative & longer styles for women vs. men. Since it's only fair that women should get to cover both legs like men do, I think we should try to maintain a culturally agreed-upon distinction between men's trousers & women's trousers instead of making the rule that men get to wear trousers but women don't. Yes, I prefer dresses/skirts, but that doesn't mean I don't also wear jeans, but they are women's jeans & I wear a feminine blouse with them to make it clear I'm not trying to dress like a man. I'm not sure, but my brother's desire to be a woman may be traced to our parents' divorce, which was hard on all of us kids, but my brother may have needed his father more than anyone realized. Either way, he is a nice man with a kind heart, so I respect his feelings & decision. I realize you didn't intend for your writing to be taken so seriously, but it really is a sensitive issue for many, so it does bring out some emotions. I still think the most important thing is to look at each individual's heart instead of what they're wearing. I'm rambling again, so I will stop now with a thank you for doing such a nice job & for your gracious responses to everyone's comments.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on July 12, 2012:

Larie this was originally something I wrote perhaps a rant, but not to be taken extremely seriously. However, the comments got serious and suddenly as soon as people found out about my dad then it becomes a social issue and i'm not being politically correct. yes, people should be allowed to be who they are and that is exactly my point is many of the guys are doing it to copy others or because it is a fad, not because they want to be a girl. I think it is mostly the sheep in a herd notion that Im trying to dispell. Be a girl if you're a man...thats fine, but don't do it because somebody else is. The comments on this hub got way out of focus on what my true intention of the hub was written about. People who start fad and trends are often being themselves while people who follow them are not. I respect your brother for wanting to be who he is, but I don't respect someone doing it to follow a fad or trend. I personally think it is silly. And yes I think its odd that guys wear pink to prove they are manly.

Larie Anne from Dallas, TX on July 08, 2012:

Hi, Izettl, I love the way you express your feelings in your blog and in your replies to others. We have some things in common; your dad is now a woman and my brother has told me he is a woman trapped in a man's body. I am now 30 & he is two years younger than me, but during high school years growing up we wore basically the same size clothes & me being a tomboy I would borrow his clothes quite a bit. One day he surprised me by asking me to return the favor & let him borrow some of my clothes. I was a little surprised, but totally shocked when he told me the clothes he had in mind were my skirts & dresses. Thankfully, he only did this in his room & not in public, though he wanted to model for me. For the record, I DO NOT think skirts look right on guys, but I was a good sister & told him he looked handsome anyway (it wasn't a lie, it's just I think he looks better in trousers). By the time I was a senior, he had outgrown my clothes, so he had stopped doing it. I thought he would grow out of this fetish or whatever it's called, but he has not. He is now married to a woman his size who I know is bisexual & I know he wears her skirts & dresses. They live in another state. My point in all this is, I love my brother & I'm sure you love your dad, even if he is now a she. I cannot explain why some men feel like they are really women because I am happy with the way I am & cannot imagine wanting to be a man. I prefer to wear dresses & skirts (I think they're comfy & stylish) except when I'm exercising, but I love how guys look in jeans. I guess I just like to see men being men & women being women. However, if I felt like I was a man inside & wanted to do "manly" things all the time & only wear men's clothes, shouldn't people accept me for who I am instead of criticizing me for not meeting their predetermined standards? My brother has told me he wants to have a sex change (can't afford it yet) and while deep inside I wish he wouldn't, I will always love him & yes, I would trade my brother for a sister if he really & truly feels he is a woman. So if I see a man wearing a skirt, I don't have to like it, but I will accept him based on what's in his heart, not what he's wearing. I think men (& women) should not feel inhibited from wearing whatever they want in public so long as they cover the right places. The only reason I was afraid for my brother to be seen in public wearing my skirts and dresses was because I know how people would have treated him & yes, I hear people talk about "those guys," so I know he would be considered a screwball. I don't wish that on anyone. I also think wearing whatever we want in public should include going topless if you want (like you, I only go topless at home, but if more women did it, I would probably also do it once in a while). I hope all this makes sense to you or your readers. Bottom line is, I think we should be respectful & understanding of each other because we are all different & unique. One more thing: I know some guys have posted that they are happy with being a man & wearing skirts, too. Personally-speaking, I think we should respect that decision, so I hope you don't think I was only mentioning my brother because of his desire to be a woman -- and if I see a man wearing a skirt, I hope I don't automatically assume he is wanting to be a woman because that would not be fair of me to do that.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on April 28, 2012:

greg~ good 4 u!

greg on April 27, 2012:

my wife says you look sexy I shaved my body and put nail polish hands and my feet. THIS FEELS GOOD. SHE ALSO PICKS OUT POLISH I WEAR.

BereniceTeh90 on April 15, 2012:

I'm sorry to hear about your dad, Laura; really, I am. You must have had a rough time as a child, and I regret saying some of the judmental things I said about you. I will still hold my ground, though when I say that gender is on the inside, and not determined by a person's biology :) (that's my opinion, and anybody is free to disagree). I do however agree with you that men wearing women's clothes just to "conform with nonconformity" is not the way to go. As a man, you can be an individual in a pair of 3 inch heels and a halterneck top, as much as you can be an individual in a conservative 3 piece business shirt and slacks. Just because a man chooses to dress conservatively does not mean he isn't an individual in his own right. However, there is a certain visual aesthetic that I am trying to capture that cannot be captured by sticking to the extremely rigid menswear section. Halterneck tops, for instance are an exclusively "female" garment, not available in the men's department. They do wonders in accentuating a toned man's shoulders and arms, and can draw attention towards the much desired V-taper if tucked into a pair of tasteful, slim-fitting trousers. The men's wardrobe doesn't contain backless and classy sleeveless (singlet wifebeaters? not after 7pm!) tops as well; i find it men's tops to be far to rigid and conservative for my bold and outlandish taste. Personally i love women's backless tops, as they accentuate my shoulders and lats in a way no man's shirt can. My approach is more toward fashion freedom, self-expression and a certain degree of playful androgyny, as opposed to cross-dressing per se (i still look very, very very much like a man). Furthermore, men's shorts don't cling around the thigh and accentuate an individual's butt the way women's shorts can. Personally i never understood the desire of some men to pass as a woman, but i try not to pass value judgments on something i don't understand. There is a really thought-provoking and controversial blogger Lucy83 who said something about men growing up in a highly feminist environment, being taught to despise and be ashamed of themselves by virtue of the fact that they are men.

"In this decade, for the first time, we’re seeing a generation of young adult men who grew up in this and the consequences of this mass hatred (perpetrated by the media, feminists, etc towards men) are only slowly beginning to emerge.

Is it any wonder why so many men have become more feminine? This is the reaction of a boy who grows up and has internalized the notion that femininity is desirable and masculinity is detestable."

(Google Lucy83 female supremacy)

Your dad may well be a victim of this trend. Prescriptive feminists have constantly been playing on men's sense of guilt about female oppression, making them feel worthless and less "deserving" of happiness and success than women. It's a natural response for many men to cope with this trend by becoming more feminine. I used to wonder myself if i was a woman trapped in a man's body. I used to wear cakey make up and lipstick in high school, and i even came up with a female nom deplume for myself, Berenice (my real name is Christopher). But it turns out, it was simply a defense mechanism in order to "prove" that i wasn't like "the other men", that i was one of the "good guys". Only when i discovered Lucy83's blog when i learnt that being male was nothing to be ashamed of, just like being black is nothing to be ashamed of. However, i feel that i'm not entirely 100% "masculine" in a conventionally accepted sense of the word. I have conventionally "masculine" traits, e.g. athleticism (i'm a thai boxer), cockiness, muscles, loud and brash manner of speech, and extreme straightforwardness. On the other hand, i also possess conventionally "feminine" characteristics, e.g. empathy, desire to be physically desired, friendliness, and love for furry animals. I don't wear pink, though; it doesn't quite gel with my personality. I dont think anybody is exclusively "masculine" or "feminine". I think we're all individuals, really. But i think that many cross dressers, as Lucy83 puts it, don't realize that men are equally valuable and no less worthy of love, affection and happiness than women, and that the male body is in no way aesthetically inferior to the female body and just as worthy of display and longing (i wrote about this here Honestly, i don't mind dating a woman who isn't afraid to push gender boundaries, but i still would like her to have some "womanly" traits, because let's face it: If i wanted to date another man, I wouldn't be straight, now would i? So i think i can understand your point when you say you'd like a man to make you feel like a woman; you want a man to have a good set of masculine qualities to complement your feminine qualities, and that's perfectly healthy. It is a source of chemistry, really; why would you want to date one of your girlfriends, unless you were interested in women?

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on April 11, 2012:

Berenice~ I understand where you are coming from and I do have a biased opnion on this because my dad was a cross-dresser and ultimately a transsexual. that's why I think it's a joke when men try to dress according to a trend (I think trends are silly anyway because many people who don't look good in them and it isn't authentic to who they are, will try them out). I want people to be who they are, just like you do, and not because of some silly trend.

A transgender for instance is dressing that way for a purpose and I have nothing against that. They are dressing that way because of who they are, not because of a "trend".

I also think if men move closer to women's trends then women will become more like men. I don't think that aspect of feminism and women's rights has been benefical for women. I am a mother, working part time from home, and I see how many other mothers who work outside of home (I did for a while) are pressured to be like men in the owrkforce. Feminism said let's not be successful as women, but rather let's beat men at their own game and become more like them. Many women have lost their soft side to them and I personally like the difference, in general, between men and women. I think both should be celebrated for who they are- trends suggest becoming someone you are not, which is totally different than having an issue with trans gender folks.

Throughout time, children learn who they are through the roles of their parents. I was very confused when I learned that not all fathers dressed as women like my dad did. It took time to sort that out.

I do have a different thought than you and I think the general male female differences should be celebrated. Many men on the oppostion to what you are saying would tell you they are feeling less masculine because women are stepping on their roles. I see many women afraid to be women as well.

BereniceTeh90 on April 07, 2012:

I had a scroll thru your comments and I realized that I might have been wrong about you. I'm sorry, I was just in such a rage when I typed my previous comment that it turned out to be so angry! I think this Zellio guy though, is a repressed redneck, and it shows through his hostility against a harmless activity as men wearing skirts. I may not want to wear a skirt, but nevertheless I don't think it justifies me making such aggressively belligerant remarks towards a guy who does. By saying that "suits on guys are better than skirts",and that "guys in skirts look hideous", he is covertly attempting to maintain a hold on patriarchal gender roles that women have fought so hard to dismantle: He's trying to keep men dressing as men, and women dressing as women, and this exposes his prejudice and hostility towards people who don't meet socio-cultural expectations of their gender.

PS ANyone who says that gender is biological has no idea of the living hell people who have been born into the born body have to go through, under the gender-normative and homo/transphobic culture we live in, with people like Zelio. If only people could see people as people, and not as representitives of their genders, our society would be much more intelligent and progressive.

BereniceTeh90 on April 07, 2012:

I facepalmed at this:

"Where is the freedom in something that represented lack of freedom for women ages ago? Men in history wore skirts, but that's hardly an argument because we learn from history and move on.

Yes, the Romans wore skirts and many of them slept with young boys or men to promote their masculinity, but we've learned from that history."

1. You are basically implying that men who wear skirts are dangerous psychos who want to sleep with pre-pubescent children, when in fact that is no better than saying that Arab guys who wear keffiyehs are dangerous psychos who want to blow us to smitherins. The former does not necessarily lead to the latter; it's only because we choose to follow the mainstream media like sheep rather than try to understand people who are different from us that we come up with these illogical conclusions.

2. Denying men the right to wear a skirt because it represents oppression to you is the same as denying a muslim woman the right to wear a hijab because it offends your liberal sensitivities. Just because people don't dress like you doesn't mean that they are "oppressed", and it's extremely patronizing to assume that because a muslim woman wears a hijab, that she needs to be "liberated". I hate collared T-shirts (too old-fashioned for me) and those baggy 3 quarter length surfer shorts (i prefer speedoes), but i wouldn't deny anybody else the right to wear them just because they arent my type of garment. Just because people like wearing different things from you doesn't make their taste any less valid. What if i turned it around and said that "women should not wear trousers because it represents lack of freedom to all the boys who just want to wear a dress?" Also, it's like me who doesn't like alcohol saying, "alcohol tastes like piss, so let's ban it completely!" Also, most men don't do it to "conform to non-conformity". How many guys have you seen in a skirt?

3.It is hypocritical to argue against men emancipating their rigid gender role, while enjoying the liberty to do traditionally masculine things (e.g. gymming, gymnastics, martial arts, yoga) and wear traditionally masculine things (e.g. pants, Tee shirts and tanks) yourself.

I feel though, that there is something that extends more than simply "not being attracted to crossdressing men" on your part. I get the impression that you feel threatened by these men because they have beaten you at your own game (the beauty game). It's like how some men are hostile towards female bodybuilders/figure competitors. They go like, "Ew, that is unattractive; we don't want you to look like that. We like soft n curvy women!" But secretly, it all boils down in the end to a deep-seated sense of inadequacy and lack of self-worth as a man, to see a woman who squats bigger weights than them thereby beating them at their own game. I once saw a lady in Melbourne city(probably a boxer) with a full six pack and at first i felt a pang of envy and i felt my masculinity being challenged by the sight of her. But then i decided, meh, so what if she's more ripped n toned than i am? It isn't the end of the world even if she's beaten me at my own game (I work out 6 days a week). I'm a good person (or so I think), and I'm no less of a man just because I've been outshone in terms of athleticism. There are other ways to be a "worthy man" besides being a super-athlete, or being interested in sports, just like there's more to being a woman than just physical beauty. So i'm relating this with how some young women behave towards crossdressing men. A sense of inadequacy on their part, having been beaten at their own game by the "pretty boys". To these women, the idea of a man being more beautiful than them will be very frightening indeed, coz that's their only trump card in gaining female attention.

Now don't get me wrong, it's not that í paint my nails or wear skirts or frilly pink things; i'm not exactly a "crossdresser" per se (I wear women's tops and pants, but only a specific type, in order to accentuate my body), and most people would assume i'm 100% cisgendered on first impressions; i'm not a victim of any woman's hostility. I'm just making an observation and trying to explain why people behave the way they do towards certain subgroups of people.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on March 30, 2012:

Enya~ it's become a fashion trend for men- wearing things made for women- nail polish, girls' jeans, etc. And you're right that not all of those things look good or are made for all body types or men alike. Here's my problem, it's the trend itself. I do not mind an individual finding that type of fashion appealing but a whole trend is odd. I would not want most men to dress that way. My opinion is it's not a good trend, but rather just for individual. Trends are all about popularity and I wouldn't want men dressing as women because it's "popular". If it's truly what an individual wants to do then great. trends are also about people following other people so where's the individual expression in that? Thanks for your comment.

Enya on March 30, 2012:

Gosh I cannot believe people are so stereotypical!

Women have been stealing men's clothes forever and always got away with that. In fact in the past men have been wearing makeup, stockings, miniskirts (see Romans and Greeks who laughed ad the Asians use of pajamas as unmanly), lace, sweet perfumes, and so on.

I got the feeling that a good proportion of women still revel in the standard concept of man and are unable to accept the fact that sex and sexuality is a continuum and therefore what people like to wear is as well. I admit that not all clothes suit all body shapes, or ages, but it should only be a matter of fitting rather than expectations. This is my opinion. Enya

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on February 26, 2011:

Jeanine~ I think you know the key to woman's heart right there. Yes, women would like to think that once in a while we are first or that someone has made a sacrifice for us. We all want to be loved for who we are and for others to find value in that- yes, sometimes above themselves. Thanks for this discussion and now you have me thinking more.

Jeanine on February 25, 2011:

Hi Izetti... thought about this for a few days and realized that your comment... of "a man who makes me feel like a woman"... is so right... Cassanova and Valentino may have been the exception to the rule... both were men completely in touch with their feminine side...according to history... yet both made women swoon... I believe a man must suffer( lack of a better word) for his woman... not hurting but often subjecting himself to her desires... above his own... romance begins to take root(LOL sorry)... intriguing to her sense... and wondering... why when he didn't have to... he chose to... put her first... " you had me at hello" syndrome...

Jeanine on February 21, 2011:

very good point...

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on February 21, 2011:

I think my point is I appreciate the difference between men and women. In absolutely understand your point too- and we're along the same lines on this one. I need my opposite to be, well, opposite. I need a man (by definition) who makes me feel like a woman (how I want to feel). It just boils down to how you feel around someone/how they make you feel, and of course what appeals to us on all the other levels.

jeanine on February 21, 2011:

The one thing I do enjoy... is where the feminine side often ends up in what you and many women call a real man... Ralph Lauren... is a good example... his taste is impeccable... very regal actually... for women and men... sometimes men don't realize how different they really are... if they apply themselves in tasteful things... it's naturally not the same as women... I love that about a man... and of course that could be my back ground also... again it goes back to how we were raised... I pray for more different men each day... wait that sounded wrong... I pray that men are allowed to be men... no matter what their parents say... there would be less therapy needed... happier women... make for much happier men... for when we are happy... we do extraordinary things for each other...

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on February 16, 2011:

Jeanine~ It was intended to be a fun read, but even with my background, and maybe because of it, I find myself more traditional about the male and female difference. I just don't like men prettier than me and tankfully they don't like me either- many of them are high maintenance and like high maintenance women. I think this topic is very individual because I was certainly OK with men wearing make-up with long hair back in the sayd of 80's rock, but some of the latest fashions are a bit weird for the everyday Joe. If the everyday Joe wore make-up to high school back in the 80's he would have been teased, yet rockers were doing it. The point is it's almost acceptable for the fashion and celebrity industry but not nevessarily for mainstream.

Jeanine... on February 15, 2011:

A very fun read... remember a true scribe takes something new and something old from his bag... written a few thousand years ago...the lines do blur the more individually creative a person might be... I like a man to be a man... yet if the bag is large enough... I can believe he has enough stuff to make life interesting... but if it is small... say only large enough to hold a couple of marbles... I would call that a sack...

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on January 31, 2011:

Kathy Cantrell~ certainly my pontof view and taste in men's fashion doesn't represent a majority. I think the newly coined term of my generation, "Metrosexual", reveals the blurred lines in men and women's roles an fashion. I just like manly fashion, just my preference. I don't like to share the nail polish aisle with a guy or for him to take longer in the bathroom than me. Maybe I'm old fashioned to say that I like some of the differences in what makes a man and woman unique from each other. Thank you and I do respect your comment.

kathy cantrell on January 28, 2011:

Used to be thirty years ago, people could wear most anything, and still be okay....Now in this over judgmental world men have to be men and women tell them what's okay...Damn, I like men in pink, skirts, and carrying a purse and with an opinion of their own. As you can guess I am no spring chicken and I believe we are free to be ourselves at long last... so grow up agrow a pair guys........oh and some where in this world there is a woman who will love you for your ya all granny kat

Assassin Fred on January 07, 2011:

Izetti~ Thanks! I wasn't offended at all! Even though I might tend to like womens atire more than most guys will ever admit, I totally understood what you were saying. Men, in public, need to be men, not present as overly feminine sissies. As myself nowadays, I feel very comfortable and confident wearing a pink dress shirt or polo. You have to be confident in yourself though and not insecure! A lot of men wear pink, manly men... Not just effeminate sissy boys. Thanks for your reply to my reply :)

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on January 07, 2011:

Assassin Fred~ I think you got the spirit of my hub. Some people may be offended, but fashion is one of those things I joke about or don't take too seriously. For others, fashion is serious. I'm just glad I could bring some entertainment to you. I totally agree about the pink shirts though. I think some guys really pull off pink- still trying to get my husband in a pink polo :)) Donald Trump rocks a pink tie often! Thanks for the comment.

Assassin Fred on January 07, 2011:

I am not too thrilled about men wearing womens fashions in public, but what they do behind closed doors is their business. As far as wearing pink clothing, up until about a year and a half ago, I wouldn't have been caught dead wearing pink anything in public, then a pink polo dress shirt caught my eye, and I decided what the hell. As long as you wear it with class, and not to look overly feminine outwardly, it is still very manly.

I laughed at some of the references in your hub though, a good read! Thanks!

Anon on November 28, 2010:

You women keep stealing mens fashion as well, one day wearing a tie will be considered "gay"

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on November 09, 2010:

Sissychuck~ Thanks for reading. The comments got very interesting. The lack of style alternatives is by far the best argument for expanding a man's wardrobe options.

threeweds~ to each is own. I know many men enjoy what you've mentioned.

threesweds on November 08, 2010:

Izetti, great hub and enjoyed the comments too. I enjoy wearing pink, especially pink lingerie under my male clothing. I consider myself heterosexual but truly like the softness and feel of wearing women's panties. I'm not into skirts and keep my lingerie hidden from the general public view.

sissychuck44 on November 08, 2010:

Great Hub, Izzettl.

I enjoyed reading not only your hub but also all the other comments.

as much as i enjoy feminine fashions, i am not sure that i want to see any of this out in public. But, women definitely have a whole lot more fashion alternatives than men do. Sometimes, that's a good thing and sometimes it's not.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on October 12, 2010:


If I really wanted to "convince" others of listening to my every word and advice, I would create an entire website to this subject and get more recognition. I'm just saying myself and other women I've talked to are not in favor of these styles. Please don't mistake this hub for being much more than fun and opinion. Thanks for the comment Sean.

One last note. In your first statement you say "Maybe we SHOULD not judge people", then you conclude with my "use of the word bothersome". Hmmm. Telling me not to use the word "should" when you just suggested what I "should" do.

Sean on October 12, 2010:

Maybe we should just not judge people by what they want to wear. You're right, you don't have to like it, but you also don't have to go out of your way to convince others that they shouldn't like it either. Your use of the word "should" in regards to what other people wear is bothersome.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 30, 2010:

Hi cheaptrick~ thanks for the visit. A man's man is what a lot of women like. Although we have to careful for what we wish for- lol. Glad you enjoyed reading this.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 30, 2010:

JohnH2~ no hard feelings and much respect to you for sharing your thoughts and opinion. A good discussion is give and take and we certainly did that. Thanks to you too.

JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 30, 2010:

Laura (izettl),

Thanks for having the courage to post this topic. I really appreciated the give and take of our discussions.


cheaptrick from the bridge of sighs on September 30, 2010:

Hello IzettI.I enjoyed reading this very much.Long ago when I was a buff marine I had a conversation with my best friends wife about what being a ladies man was.I told her I didn't have a clue how to be romantic I just speak my mind.My Idea of a great date was and still is...sharing a clip at the firing range.I told her all I know how to be is a mans man.She baffled me with this reply"A mans man IS a ladies man"I love a woman that enjoys being a woman...suppose it works the other way around too.Either way I've never had a problem meeting really terrific woman[knock on wood]:)Thanks for a comfortable and eye opening read.


Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 27, 2010:

JohnH2~ well, at least we agree on all that.

JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 27, 2010:

"I find that many guys have stronger opinions on this than I do- at least ones I know. When you mention them wearing a skirt, they flip out;there is a strong sense of homophobia I think"

I think they have a case of having to prove their manhood - "masculinity anxiety" as I call it. Many of these individual are the ones who drive jacked up pickup trucks with loud exhausts, have extensive gun collections, drink heavily with their buddies, etc.

I don't have to - I definitely speak as a man and sing low bass. So I don't have to prove my manhood.

From what I read is that most male homosexuals do not wear skirts and most CASUAL cross-dressers are heterosexual.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 27, 2010:

TH~ your comment is funny. You gave your accidental "pink" shirt to your daughter.Made me smile. Thanks for that.

JohnH2~ They're not really wounds anymore although I'm sure they effect me on some subconscious level. I agree everybody is different in style preferences. I find that many guys have stronger opinions on this than I do- at least ones I know. When you mention them wearing a skirt, they flip out;there is a strong sense of homophobia I think. But now men have taken style to make a statement and wear girly things to express "Real men wear pink", and become comfortable with their feminine side etc.

Thanks for stopping by guys!

JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 27, 2010:

Laura (izettl)

I do apologise for opening old wounds. That was thoughtless on my part. I did not mean that you need to see a shrink.

"THe reason I wrote this hub was after I went hiking and climbed a steep staircase behind a man who was wearing a skirt, I got an eyeful I did not want."

I guess that dude was not wearing underpants. If I am out in public when I wear a skirt I always wear underpants. One never knows when there is going to be a wind that causes the skirt to be lifted up.

Everybody is different in regards to pants vs. skirts. My brother likes to wear pajamas with pants and wear pants in general because he does not like to have his bare legs together the same as you. I on the other hand prefer a nightshirt or nightgown to sleep in or skirts for warm weather since I don't like the binding of pants in general, and especially when I sleep. It does not bother me to have my bare legs together.

I'm glad you are permitted by modern society to wear pants. I've expressed my opinions so there is no need to express it anymore.

tom hellert from home on September 27, 2010:


o ear rings, no painted toes nails,I like skirts on girls- but my wife doesnot wear short ones-although she is 5-2 so any skirt is long on her *heehee* I am a jean teshirt golf shirt guy

No Pinks i have 1 yellow shirt alot of red but they are the colors of my fav college ball team and my Soccer Clubs coach shirts I did the wash *ONCE* and screwed up a white shirt made it pink- gave it to my daughter ...

needless to say I don't do wash anymore- (oh darn)...


JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 26, 2010:

It would be quite alright for me to have a personal distaste for women in pants in all cases. However, I do have a distaste when one goes to WalMart, and sees that over 98 percent of the women wear pants or shorts. It is also bad where more than half the women at church wear pants. I know what a skirt is like so in a none-work environment there is no reason for women to wear pants so extensively. But just let one man have the guts to wear a skirt for reasons of comfort and health - then there is hell to pay! That is a double standard if there was ever one. By the way, with the weather being cooler I have gone back to wearing long pants since I don't have to worry about keeping the family jewels cool. (An above the knee denim skirt is too cool for comfort when the temperature is in the low to mid 60's, unless I wear pantyhose. Pantyhose are too much trouble.}

I don't think it would be too much to maybe have a quarter of the women at WalMart wear skirts or dresses or 2/3 of the women wear skirts or dresses at church.

I don't know why you have such an itching desire to be topless in public. I certainly don't have that desire.

Come to think of it - years ago I and my ex-wife were driving down to Texas for the first time. I was driving south on U.S. 59, and I noticed there was what I thought was a man in the distance with an open shirt at the side of the road hitchhiking.

I got a little bit closer - I thought,"This guy is awfully flabby in his chest." Then I got still closer, and saw it was a bare breasted woman with an open shirt hitchhiking!

And yes, she was cross-dressed - wearing a man's plad shirt with a man's pair of jeans with a man's pair of shoes - that is why in the distance I thought the hitchhiker was a man!

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 23, 2010:

Silvergenes~ thank you for taking the time to read this...and the comments. My political correctness hub was sparked by the conversation here. SOmeone mentioned people have lost their sense of humors and so political correctness is rampant. I agree. I wrote this and another humorous hub about runway fashion and I have many commenters persecuting me for having an opinion on it.

I see your point about the legality and I don't care one way or the other, but if someone wants to mention all the injustice in clothing styles of man vs. women ,then I'll bring up women have restrictions too. That's interesting stuff about Canada and I didn't know that. Now I just want to move there more.

It was an interesting conversation in the comment section and we all come from different backgrounds so we have different viewpoints. I have a personal distaste for women in skirts, maybe because of my background with my dad, but mostly because I see the humor in it. I haven't lost my sense of humor by golly.

Thanks for commenting!!

SilverGenes on September 23, 2010:

izetti, this was a fun read and the comments were interesting, too. Not much to add except this. If you are female and don't want to wear a bra or even a shirt, come to Canada. It's legal here for women to be topless in public. Apparently, to make a law based on gender is not constitutional. After a brief period of chest baring on beaches and while mowing the lawn to prove a point, people just do what they want now and mostly, that's to wear clothing. The whole point was legality ;)

JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 17, 2010:

When I get a job, and get some money coming in, I sure would like to get some sport kilts and a full blown dress kilt for church. I would much rather wear them publicly than women's skirts. However, there is the issue of price - a woman's skirt is 15 to 20 dollars each, and a sport kilt would be over $100 each. A full blown dress kilt will set you back several hundred dollars.

Zellio from Atlanta, GA on September 17, 2010:

Well the thing also about kilts is that it made men better warriors, due to the area between your legs being free... But this isn't a war zone, this is society ;).

With that said, you shouldn't be too hard on him Izetti, I've known a few people like him who love the idea of wearing kilts... I still will stick to my guns that it's not fashionable, but the people I knew like that were certainly not feminine.

JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 17, 2010:

If skirts were to become mainstream for men as an option there would be no problems if they wore them in a masculine context.

On the other hand it is entirely possible for a man to wear pants in a feminine context as a cross-dresser. Which would you prefer?

After all, men wear long hair and rings in their ears. There was a time when society had to learn to accept those new ideas. Also accept that men paint their toenails.

There are more important things to be intolerant about than men wearing skirts. How about violence in movies and TV shows? How about suggestive sexual situations or foul language in entertainment?

JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 16, 2010:

The only reason that pants took over for men is that men rode horses. Any civilization where the men did not ride horses they did not take up wearing pants.

I don't think it is harmful for a man to wear a skirt to kids as long has he presents an overall masculine image.

I guess it is a form of rebellion and the fact that there is not very much variety in a man's wardrobe. I think that there should be gender norms, but as men go outside the very narrow constraints imposed on them it is going to take time for gender norms for men to be established for the following:

1. Skirts

2. Dresses or robes

3. High heeled shoes

4. Facial makeup - perhaps that could be viewed as "war paint"

5. Formal garments as alternatives to the ubiquitous and boring "Coat, tie, and pants" convention.

Let's face it - certain social conventions are NOT worth preserving - such as the prohibition of men wearing skirts.

A century ago there was the social - and legal prohibitions of women wearing pants. That was mercifully overturned. One could make the same argument that things could get twisted in a kid's mind when women wear pants. PLEASE BE CONSISTENT ON BOTH SIDES.

As I have written before we can do one of two things:

1. Insist that men adhere to the severe constraints of dress. In this case I could see a scenario where cross-dressing becomes mainstream where men attempt to pass as women.

2. Stretch the envelope for men so they can wear skirts, robes, high heels, makeup, etc as men and be recognized as such. This scenario would be much better.

Here is an example of a social convention that was mercifully NOT preserved -

Do you realize that there was a time that it was considered improper for women to sing in public? St. Paul wrote "Let the women keep silent", and so there were adult singers that were not women that sang soprano and alto. They were castrati, men who were castrated in childhood so they would retain their treble voices. George Handel wrote an oratorio while he was in Italy, La Rezzerectione or The Resurrection where he had a woman sing the part of Mary Magdalene. The authorities determined that it was immoral for a woman to sing publicly, and so they had a castrato sing the part for subsequent performances. That enraged Handel so much that he left for England, where women sang publicly.

JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 16, 2010:

Everybody is different. I have expounded on men wearing skirts. I wear skirts most of the time - loose above the knee denim skirts and paint my toenails.

However, I do not wear earrings, wear my hair in ponytails, wear nail polish on my fingernails, wear pink clothes, wear tight girls jeans nor carry a purse except for rare occasions. I do not attempt to pass as a woman.

I do not have myself waxed but I do shave my arms, legs, and chest. I notice that the shaving GREATLY cuts down on body odor, something to be considered in the hot muggy climate of the Dallas area in Texas.

JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 16, 2010:

Yes, I do have a nice ass, nice legs, nice thighs and hips to wear a tight-fitting skirt, but I would not want to wear anything so tight as to restrict my stride.

My skirts are not tight anymore than your boxers and loose fitting jeans and shorts. The only difference between my denim skirts and shorts is the way they are sewn at the bottom and the crotch. The material is very much the same, and the pockets are about the same. There is even a watch pocket in each of my skirts.

We as men have gotten used to wearing pants and shorts for that is what we wore all the time while we were growing up. It just simply feels GREAT when the wedge of cloth is not present at all.

I think we agree that tight girl's jeans are a disaster on men for obvious reasons.

I personally do not care for wearing pink colored clothing, or wearing hair as ponytails.

I have to have pockets since I do not feel comfortable carrying a purse. I wear a man's shirt, men's underwear and for the most part, men's shoes. I do not apply makeup on my face. So I do not attempt to pass as a woman.

JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 16, 2010:


Do These Jeans Make Me Look Manly? or Girl Jeans

I agree that it is inappropriate for men to wear extremely tight jeans for the same reason that I believe men should be able to wear skirts instead of shorts or pants - there is the issue of providing room for the external genitalia.

At least men's shorts and pants don't cling to the body as much as girl's jeans.

JohnH2 from Rockwall, TX on September 16, 2010:


You need to state your opinions as such and not as fact. And yes, I took Beth100's remarks as sexist and continue to do so. It would have been a sexist remark if 100 years ago a man wrote, "Ha ha ha I'm sorry, but a woman wearing pants - that's just not right!!"

Your quote:

"How about this. Skirts look ugly, hideous on a man!"

That's only your opinion. If a man had really hairy legs I think he needs to shave his legs before wearing a skirt or shorts.

You should have said something to the effect, "I don't like skirts on a man" or "I think skirts look ugly, hideous on a man!"

It really shows your ignorance of fashion history - Ancient Egyptian, Greek, and Roman males wore skirts. In Greek and Roman civilizations only women wore pants, and there was a Latin term for pants - "feminalia". In fact there was a time in Rome if a man showed up publicly wearing pants the authorities would seize all his property.

You also appear to be ignorant of the fact that about 65 percent of the men on this planet wear skirt-like garments. How about kilts in Scotland, fustanellas in Greece and in the Balkans, and sarongs in the Pacific islands?

I have nothing against women wearing pants - I'm glad they won that right. Now we need to convince certain narrow-minded individuals to accept men wearing skirts and dresses as men and not as cross-dressers trying to pass as women.

It is also only your personal opinion that pink does not look good on a man. There was a time that pink was considered a masculine color since it is simply a toned down version of red, which was considered a very masculine color.

izettl - there is an obvious reason for wearing a bra of course - support of the breasts. There is not any obvious reason other than social standards why men should wear only shorts or pants since we do not ride horses or routinely ride bicycles.

In hot weather the encasing of men's privates in pants and shorts can contribute to infertility, and testicular and prostate cancer. There is also the issue of modesty with pants - the crotch area frequently shows the outines of the testicles.

I do not think is is valid for any pants wearing women to object to men wearing skirts. After all there was a time that women did not have the right to wear pants, and in fact they could be subject to arrest for doing so.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 16, 2010:

zellio~ I agree about the pink. It's a confidence thing. I totally get it, but men in skirts I will never get.

Zellio from Atlanta, GA on September 16, 2010:

Reply to JohnH


How about this. Skirts look ugly, hideous on a man! This fashion is probably made by Magatu from ZOOLANDER, the same guy who made people wear TRASH AS A FASHION!!

This is about as a fashionable as anything from the 80's!

You would probably look better by jumping naked into a sewer and then wearing trash

Oh and btw, women don't look hideous in pants. Women would lok hideous dressed like Ronald McDonald, so am I sexist now too for pointing out horrible 'fashion' trends?

And btw, I do have a pink netbook. The problem with pink is that it's a color simply to prove how confident you are. It's not a color that actually looks good on a man.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 16, 2010:

Someday we'll all look back and laugh at it all. just like the same men 100 years ago who laughed at women wearing pants were the same ones laughing about men wearing skirts back then too. I personally hate wearing a bra,probably as comfy as material between your testies, but it's not totally acceptable for me to go bra-less everywhere since I don't have small ones.

JohnH on September 15, 2010:

To quote Beth100

"Ha ha ha I'm sorry, but a man wearing a skirt - that's just not right!!"

This is a sexist remark of a narrow-minded person. It would be the same as 100 years ago if a man wrote, "Ha ha ha I'm sorry, but a woman wearing pants - that's just not right!!"

JohnH on September 15, 2010:

Don't knock the idea of wearing a skirt until you have tried it. We men have external genitalia and if feels mighty good not having that wedge of cloth against the testicles!

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 14, 2010:

Thanks Beth100~ I ran into a guy at the store who was trying to find nail polish for himself, trying to impress a girl. He asked me for help because he didn't want something too girly. What am I supposed to say to that? He was young so I didn't want to crush his ego. Instead I wrote this hub, sincerely and humorously, hoping it finds men who need a wake-up call.

Beth100 from Canada on September 14, 2010:

Ha ha ha I'm sorry, but a man wearing a skirt - that's just not right!! Maybe I'm laughing because your sincere humor on the subject. Either way, rated you up! This is a great read!

Zellio from Atlanta, GA on September 14, 2010:

I will volunteer to help all the desperate women! And I don't wear this stuff either ;P ;) :D

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 13, 2010:

CMhypno~ Yeah I'm feeling a little competitive with men instead of other women. THere are some men out there with really great legs.HA! THanks for the comment and visit.

Martie~ Well it just shows men can get away with anything because their odds of fidning a woman is still high. But I'm with you, no thanks, no way! It was funny but true writing this and I'm glad you enjoyed.

Martie Coetser from South Africa on September 13, 2010:

No thanks, Izett, I’ll pass them all. Behind me is a long line of women who can have them. The last time I looked at statistics there were seven women for each man. So there will be at least one desperate woman out of seven who will grab whatever she gets. Let’s face it, some people will rather be dead as out of fashion. Men who look like women, look just as weird as women who look like men. But I don’t judge them. Let them be whatever they want to be. As long as they don’t expect admiration from me. Interesting topic! Deserves to be voted up. PS: I like the pink t-shirt.

CMHypno from Other Side of the Sun on September 13, 2010:

Interesting Hub, can't say that I could go for men in skirts, ponytails and nail polish, but whatever floats your boat as they say. There is nothing worse than a man who has better legs than you and looks better in heels!

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 12, 2010:

You welcome and thanks for the comment masumnetcox.

masumnetcox from rajshahi,Bangladesh on September 12, 2010:

mam always writes some ossom topics, thanks her for this hubs.

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 12, 2010:

Silent reed~ don't you know, we can go into your closet but you can't go into ours. Give me 20 years and I'll probably start becoming comfortable with some of this stuff.

Christoph~ Yeah I don't care too much about fashion because it rarely effects me or reaches my northwest neck of the woods, but I'm seeing guys with painted nails at stores, post office, everywhere. Oh it was funny with my guy friends checking out the guy bent over. That's priceless!Money can't buy that kind of humiliation.

Zellio~ I'll be checking out those links.

epigramman~ One can only hope- haha

SilentReed from Philippines on September 12, 2010:

It started with women's lib, then they wanted to wear the pants. Now they're complainging ? ;)

epigramman on September 12, 2010:

..brave daring hub you have put together in a very entertaining fashion .....maybe some of the so-called men here at the pages of Hub will turn the other cheek and take heed from your sound advice of the alternative persuasion!

Christoph Reilly from St. Louis on September 12, 2010:

This was very funny,Izetti. Yet somehow it made me uncomfortable. I have written on this subject myself, well, kind of, metrosexuals anyway. I've never seen men with painted toe nails. Are they really common now? Of course I'm not in the habit of looking at men's feet. That part about the Dude bending over was funny as all get out. I hate it when that happens!

Zellio from Atlanta, GA on September 11, 2010:

Btw izetti, I've found better (*cough*) pics of the man skirt for you to use:

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 11, 2010:

Oh man, you guys are funny. lol!

Fred allen~All those names of those guys you mentioned would be ridiculous to think of them in any of these fashions. Clint Eastwood and John Wayne- Ha!

Zellio~ I got a funny picture in my head. Don't forget he must be impeccably waxed too. lol.

Zellio from Atlanta, GA on September 11, 2010:


Clint Eastwood in a skirt with pantyhose, pink shirt, painted toenails, and purse going up to a girl:

"Go ahead, pay my way"


fred allen from Myrtle Beach SC on September 11, 2010:

I like your take on this. I grew up in the 70's and 80's. John Wayne and Clint Eastwood were the heroes of the big screen. Rambo and Rocky burst on the scene. Die Hard was my favorite movie back then. John Wayne would roll over in his grave if he could see what is acceptable fashion for "men" these days. Could you imagine Clint Eastwood with painted toenails?

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 11, 2010:

Robwrite~ I remember piercing my high school boyfriend's ear. Then, I thought I'd never see, but all of sudden guys had both ears pierced- that was a little weird, but I got used to it. That's funny. lol you said "only pirates can do that".

Zellio~ so you're not going to be wearing a skirt any time soon? Tight clothing is fine, especially if a guy has the body for it, but I am so turned off by girl jeans on guys. Also, being waxed just isn't my thing on guys. Like I said, I hung out with bodybuilders, but didn't date them. I especially don't like the too tan look and too waxed- yuck!! Nothing wrong with showing yourself off in fitted clothes if you work hard at the gym. Keep it up! THanks for the comment Zellio!

Zellio from Atlanta, GA on September 10, 2010:

OMG, how is this crap 'fashionable'? I'm a very fashionable person, and fashion doesn't mean 'OMG I NEED TO PUKE!'

Although I disagree with you on tight clothing (I will agree on not wearing girls clothing, but tight clothing...) and not having hair (Although I would never wax myself). I go to the gym alot, and I want to show myself off sometimes with tight clothing...

Rob from Oviedo, FL on September 10, 2010:

I remember back when guys started wearing earrings as fashion. And I thought THAT was silly. (I used to tell them only pirates can get away with that.) I guess I'm old fashioned but I just don't like the girlie style on men.

moncrieff on September 10, 2010:

Yeah I agree, I do not like men wearing skirts - that's just horrible - and I also don't like pink as color on anyone. But you know, in 1954 Americans had a pink trend - everything was pink: refrigerators, cadillacs, torchiers, shoes, skirts, lipsticks...

Lizett (author) from The Great Northwest on September 10, 2010:

justom~ funny story, I thought I was the only one with those kind of stories. Lucinda Williams as a guy. hmmm, yeah I'd walk away from that. Good call guys! Peace to you too Tom. Thanks for the comment.

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