The Curse of Being a Redhead

Such gorgeous color.  How could I have ever hated it?
Such gorgeous color. How could I have ever hated it?

Growing Up Ginger

First of all, I have always hated that term...ginger, from the very first time I heard it. It never sat well with me, and I really don't like being called a ginger. For those of you who don't know, a ginger is someone with a lighter shade of red hair who has freckles. So, in reality, I am a ginger. I was born with lighter red hair and what started off as just a smattering of freckles.

I was teased incessantly as a child. I was called every name you can think of, including carrot top. I had friends and made friends easily, but the teasing did not stop at the children on the playground. I was teased by my own family members, as well. I was always referred to as "Red" by one of my uncles. He never called me by my name, he still doesn't. I guess he thought it was a term of endearment, something to make me feel special, but all it ever did was remind me of how different I was from everyone else.

My sisters were both blonde with blue eyes. I often wondered if I had been adopted, or if my father was really my father. The only indication that I really belonged in that family was the fact that my grandmother on my mother's side had been a redhead.

Television added its own cuts and bruises to my fragile, young ego. The redheads depicted on television were often mean, bratty, or just plain evil. I recall a nickname my father gave me when I was young. He often called me "Harriett", after the redheaded neighbor from a TV show called Small Wonder . Not many people remember that show, and I probably wouldn't either, if it hadn't been for that nickname. Harriett was the bratty neighbor who drooled over one of the main characters of the show, and never got the attention she so longed for.

I hated my red hair all throughout my childhood, and often told my family that once I was old enough, I was going to start dying my hair. I wanted to be blonde like my sisters and my mother. I didn't want to be teased anymore, I didn't want to be different. I wanted to be like everyone else.

Guys Like This Give the Rest of Us Redheads a Bad Name

Carrot Top
Carrot Top

Perpetuating the Myth

She was a woman with red hair and green eyes— the traits which Satan supposedly relished most in mortal females.”
― Robert Shea, The Eye in the Pyramid

Redheads Are Evil??

In many cultures, throughout history, redheads have been seen as evil, witches, or in league with the devil. All of these are completely false, obviously. Still there is something to be learned from this. Redheads make upa very small portion of the world's population. We are a real minority. We have been discriminated against in the past, teased, hated and persecuted, and all because we were born with red hair, because we were born different.

I know, this no longer stands true. Unless you are a child on the playground, there is no real, clear-cut discrimination against redheads. Children can be cruel. Children tend to pick on anyone who is different. It is just a fact of life. We can teach our children to be tolerant, teach them that everyone is unique and special, but at the end of the day, children will still be children.

Are redheads evil? No, of course we aren't. Do redheads have fiery tempers? Some do and some don't. Is it true of the statement, that redheads are fiery in the bedroom? Again, some are and some aren't. Those types of silly statements make me laugh. Most generalizations about a group of people do.

Personally, I am no more evil than anyone else. I guess everyone has some capacity for evil in them. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, as I know I have. Do I have a fiery temper? Sometimes. Sometimes when something really offends me, or goes against something I truly believe in, I tend to take a stand and speak out against it. Do I get mad when I have been hurt? Of course, but then, who doesn't? As for whether I am fiery in the bedroom, that is not a matter I chose to discuss. That is information for me only, and the person I share my bed with.

Television and movies tend to perpetrate the idea that redheads are evil. The redheaded character on Desperate Housewives certainly seemed capable of evil. Poison Ivy, the sexy female villain from the Batman comics, movies and the television show was a redhead. Redheads seduce, manipulate and corrupt.

Television and movies have also shown how great redheads are. Redheads are sexy, smart, funny and beautiful. Unfortunately, I never got to see much of that growing up.

Is A Change in Order?

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Great Quote About Redheads

Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead.”--Lucille Ball

Coming to Terms With My Hair

As I got older, and I learned more about the world and more about myself, I grew to love my hair. I love it for the very reason that I hated it when I was growing up; because I was different. I am unique. I often get complimented on my gorgeous red hair. Men are intrigued by my red hair, but with that, I often have to deal with dumb questions. "Is that your real hair color?" "Does the carpet match the drapes?" Stupid questions from stupid people. I guess it helps to weed out the idiots.

I was right on one thing that I said as a child. I do dye my hair. I don't dye it blonde or brown, though. I dye it in order to keep the red. In the summers, my hair lightens to the point that I am almost blonde. So, I dye it to keep the fading to a minimum. I have grown to love my hair color. I am now proud to be a redhead. After all, the saying is true, Gentlemen prefer blondes, but it takes a real man to handle a redhead. I would never want to be blonde. There are too many of them out there. Why would I want to be just like everyone else?

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Anna Marie Bowman 6 months ago from Florida Author

You are most welcome!

Lara Schmidt 6 months ago

Thank you, Anna Marie! :)

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Anna Marie Bowman 8 months ago from Florida Author

Lara, I am so sorry that you experiences are so severe. I hope you find a way to make peace with it all, or at least, opt to dye your hair.

Lara Schmidt 8 months ago

As someone who has spent a lifetime with red hair, my feelings about it aren't very good. Frankly, it has held me back from certain opportunities and has caused people to treat me differently, and not in a good way. The ostracism I faced during childhood still lingers, but it more subtle ways. For example, I'm smirked at in trendy clothing stores, stared rudely at in other public places, and am excluded from many social structures. In many places where I've worked, people have intentionally excluded me from gatherings and other social events. Never mind the fact that I'm kind to everyone; my hair is a huge turnoff.

The worst was my senior year of high school, when I was excluded from Senior Week by the people I thought were my friends. It turned out no one wanted the ugly red-haired girl with them to bring them down and make them look bad. At around this time in my life, I was dating a young man I was very much in love with. He promised we'd get married as soon as I graduated. A few months later, he drifted out of my life without saying goodbye. I never did learn why, but in my heart, I know there was a hot-to-trot blonde or brunette waiting for him in the wings.

I felt deep sorrow when both my cousin's kids were born with red hair. I know how hard life is going to be for these sweet children, and it breaks my heart.

I can't understand women who say they would kill for my hair color. They have absolutely no idea what they're talking about. They have no clue that this ugly color will condemn them ridicule and ostracism, plus a host of poor life chances.

Of course, I could color my hair brown and attempt to lead some semblance of a normal life. But that would be a time and money issue, as I don't feel like running to the colorist every four to six weeks for a touch-up. So I've learned to live with it, even though in my darker moments I contemplate suicide. I'm tired of the hard life this color has brought.

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Anna Marie Bowman 2 years ago from Florida Author

Kristina-- My sisters are both blonde. It's strange that I ended up as a redhead, because no one on my father's side of the family had red hair.

KristinaMPitts 2 years ago

Red headed people do have blonde headed offspring and vice versa. My great grandmother was a red head (ginger to be exact) but all of her kids were born blonde. My natural hair color is a dark auburn. Which is a shade of red. I used to hate it too but not as much as I hated my curly hair.

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Anna Marie Bowman 2 years ago from Florida Author

ANUB1S-- It is strange that there would be anti-redhead racists in Ireland. Thank you for your comments. I agree, kids are just cruel.

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ANUB1S 2 years ago

I was teased mercilessly as a kid, and I'm not a redhead. Kids are just cruel in general. You mentioned that Poison Ivy is a redhead, but did you know that Batgirl is a redhead, too?

Hopefully you know now that redheads are the most desired women in the world. When you grow up, it turns into a blessing, not a curse. Well, in Ireland, there are anti-redhead racists, but secretly, they're all jealous.

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Anna Marie Bowman 2 years ago from Florida Author

Roy-- I am so sorry that you feel this way. I hate to see anyone suffer or see anyone in pain. If you feel comfortable with it, would you consider dying your hair? That is something you can do that will hide your hair color. It's not permanent, but it's something. I don't suggest something like that unless you are really unhappy. It's an easy thing to do yourself, or you could seek the help of a stylist. I hope you find happiness either way. As for your wife, she married you for who you are.

Roy 2 years ago

Thanks for the article, I'm 33 years old man with redhead, and I want to say this, being a woman with red hair is not too bad, I would not hate it if I were a woman, but let me tell you, being a man with red hair is fu**ing terrible. I really hate myself, and I agree to what Chris said, we should stop this damn Gene from moving on..I have got married recently, and I got crazy when my bride met my handsome "normal" brother..can you believe it? I hate myself, and so I hate my two brothers who are not redhead..I hate my father for bringing me to this world, and specially my fu**ing redhead grandma who is the real reason for my misery...I have had all my life suffering from this "illness with no cure"..lucky people with big noses they can do surgeries and fix we can't! I have though of suiciding many times..I know someday I will..I'm never afraid to die, I'm more afraid to suffer have more embarrassing situations..

Thanks for reading

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Anna Marie Bowman 2 years ago from Florida Author

Christina-- Carrot cake is a new one, but if he is saying you are sweet, then take it as a compliment.

Christina Rain 2 years ago

i have red hair but more orange then red i guess. Do you know why people make fun of redheads? Because i hate it when people always laugh at me. What do you think it means when a guy you like calls you carrot cake? he says im sweet like cake... its weird...

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Anna Marie Bowman 2 years ago from Florida Author

Trinity-- I wish I could. If those around you who are supposed to be there to help you aren't listening, you need to find someone who will listen. It could be a parent, another relative, or maybe a teacher. Find someone who will help you. I wish there were more that I could do for you.

Trinity Borja 2 years ago

I am 13 years old, i am bullied every single day becuase im a ginger. People always call me "Carrot top", "Ginger" and always call me ugly. People judge me by my hair. I have no control over my hair color, every one says i should die it but then they say "wait EWW NO you'll be ugly" my own friends make fun of me. People are so mean to me, i have talked to guidance counselors and i even talked to the principals, they don't do anything all they say is to ignore it but you cant when your walking down the hall and people say "CARROT!!!!! HAHA" i have cried many times i don't know what to do? can you help me?

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Anna Marie Bowman 3 years ago from Florida Author

Meg--That is usually how it goes. If something is more common, there is less reason to tease someone about it. I think I was one of only a few redheads in my whole school.

Meg 3 years ago

Considering how many great leaders were redhaired, perhaps people fear the power they suspect is inherent in it? I got teased a bit in school about it, but it was cursory, and most of the teasing that went on was not about hair color. Perhaps it is different in the US. My experience has been that people tend to respond positively to red hair, here. It seems truly odd that that should be the case, when the UK boasts a much larger percentage of redheads. It makes no sense to have a stigma against something so commonplace there. My husband absolutely loves my red hair, and I have been accustomed all my life to getting lots of attention of a positive sort, because of it.

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Anna Marie Bowman 3 years ago from Florida Author

Gabby--I am with you. I have had people tell me, "Oh, you would be so much prettier if your hair were a different color." I hate that.

Gabby 3 years ago

i love my red hair. but when people say my hair is ugly and that i cant hang out with them because I'm different just makes me want to stand up for myself and tell them their not special or perfect, but I'm to shy to even confront them. and if god didn't want me like this i would be different than i am now, but no matter what, he always has my back. and i love who i am:)

but i HATE being called ginger i mean really they are putting us into a category.

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Anna Marie Bowman 3 years ago from Florida Author

Dynamite-- I am glad you had such a positive response to being a redhead!!!

Dynamite Red 3 years ago

Being a redheaded is the best thing, its like being an unpaid celebrity, you are always noticed even if you have eczema all over your face people take and interest they are curious like we are really different and I have come to believe we are unique and quite a conversation piece and I have a brother whose redheaded we are stilled adored for are red heads even though they are going grey and I color mine Its to bad I didn't do hair commercials because its all I ever heard and still do OMG you have such beautiful red hair! I was never picked on

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Taylor-- I always wanted blonde hair when I was a kid so I could do things like put streaks in my hair, or dye it funky colors, but in order to do that with the hair I had, I would have to bleach it first. I guess we all have issues and things we don't always like about ourselves. My mom always told me the same thing about my hair, that people paid good money to get hair like mine.

Taylor Grey 4 years ago

Its funny because I have ALWAYS adored red hair, I'm a natural blonde and was born with white hair. So white I couldn't even see my eyebrows. As I grew older I always wished I had been born a redhead, I put copper streaks in my hair, bright candy apple red streaks, but never fully dyed my hair. My mom always told me people paid money to get my hair color that comes naturally. But in reality, I would pay money to have red hair as funny as that sounds. So I told myself, if my hair ever turned brown (like my moms and dads had) I would dye it red like I always wanted it to, but it hasn't and probably never will. I'm 21 now and still just as blonde as ever, but the redhair- I would have been so happy to have been born with it. My grandmother had it and so did one of my aunts, but not me. I think redhair is absolutely stunning and beautiful and in my eyes you are so lucky you were born with it. :) But I understand why you would feel how you do, I was teased because emy hair was so so blonde. So I know the feeling, but I still love redhair always have and always will. I envy you.

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

R-- I wish there were more I could say to help you. I know several redheaded men who embrace their hair, and have no problem with women. I wouldn't say they are incredibly good looking, but they are far from ugly. I don't know how it works for some men and not for others.

4 years ago

I'm a redheaded man. In grammar school things weren't so bad. In high school people started mocking me, didn't have many friends, and always got picked last for teams etc. Now I'm 27. Girls completely ignore me, even seem to shun me, and when I ask one out the answer is always no, even though I'm not that ugly (at least nowhere near as ugly as carrot top). I don't think I've ever had a compliment regarding my hair. I spend a lot of time convincing myself of my worth, buffing my self confidence and fighting depression, as I get no support at all from my peers. I never talk to anyone about it except my parents, and always try to appear confident, as there is nothing I hate so much as people 'feeling sorry' for me, impliying that you're a loser. For me, it doesn't get better with time at all. In fact it gets worse; more dumb comments, more frustration with women and more isolation in general.

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

ME!!-- The tops of carrots are green, really. LOL! My daughter's hair is that way, a little bit of a lot of different colors. I get those same questions all the time. It does get old. I agree with you, making judgements about someone based on hair color, or any other feature or difference, is just stupid.

ME!! 4 years ago

when someone calls me a carrot top i say my hairs red not orange get it right.

My dad has black hair mom has blonde and so does my sis but i have red at most and i have black and blonde and brown and my mom said she even found white and i'm only 15. my hair looks really red and in the summer i have natural blonde highlights, my hair is extremely thick and curly.

the question i get most is is it my natural hair color? and is it naturaly curly? and yes to both why do they keep asking?

i looked up red head and i seen that they say red heads are crazy and ugly and all cinds of different thing but for the most part i don't believe them it is cinda like calling a blonde dum i mean really?

i find that humans are hard on people who don't look like them but a person is a person right?

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

bill yon-- I don't think I have ever met someone who was black and had red hair. You are truly unique!!

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bill yon 4 years ago from sourcewall

I'm black I come from a mixed background. I was born with a red afro and freckles, and of course my nick name is red when I turned 13 my red hair turned black. My nick name is still red and when people ask me how did I get the name red I tell them I used to be a redhead and they cannot believe it. Sometimes I miss my red hair I liked being a ginger there was only two of us in elementary school and his hair changed to blonde when mine changed to black.Now the black is changing to grey so there you go.....

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Ol Rappaport-- Thank you for sharing this! I love learning about how other countries and cultures view red hair. It's better than people spitting on you and thinking you are evil.

Ol Rappaport 4 years ago

In Morocco where they have a tradition that you can dye your hair with henna after you make the hajj to Mecca, and if you make the pilgrimmage twice you can dye your beard red too. But if you are born with red hair you are blessed by Allah from birth.

I was born with red hair and I spent my first ten years in Morocco so I grew up with a sense of my hair making me special. When I came to England people tried to tease me about it, but it never worried me because I knew they were wrong.

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Kiki-- I loved reading your comment!! You are absolutely right!! I agree that all the teasing and torture I went through made me who I am today, and while I do still have my insecurities, I have overcome most of them, and used all of that to make me stronger, and I can laugh it off now. Congrats to you and your girlfriend!!! Best wishes!

Kiki 4 years ago

I know the pain you go through as a kid with red hair etc... I have copper hair, dark brown eyes and freckles and got all the usual name calling. But as Scozzo said in his comment this name calling only helped me build character and unbelieveable charm! Sometimes I look at some of my friends and think MAN if you had half my charm you would be lethal with the ladies. I'm in my late 20's and have a hot amazing girl friend that I know all my friends are jealous of.. its all about character and charm it doesn't matter what color you are. I know its very easy to remember all the bad things people have said to you but thing of the good things. Life is too short to worry about what other people thing.. life your live to the full... don't have regrets... don't waste time...

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Mark-- I know what you mean. It is weird how it's more acceptable to tease someone for having red hair and freckles, but if you tease someone for having a different skin color, religion, etc, it is potentially punishable. They even have "Kick a Ginger Day". If they had "Kick a Mexican Day" or "Kick a Muslim Day", there would be major outcry, and hours upon hours of news coverage regarding it.

Mark 4 years ago

Isn't it weird? For some reason its socially acceptable to tease/torment/pick on kids with red hair freckles yet if you did the same about a person's skin colour or religion etc you'd be branded racist, discriminatory etc. Some might say that it makes us tougher having to deal with it and this might be the case for some people. However others may not be as lucky and forever have their confidence crushed and never really grow out of feeling marginalised.

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Lacey-- Don't go blond!!! Trust me!!!

Lacey 4 years ago

I'm a natural redhead, and not just a strawberry-blonde redhead, but a vibrant copper-top! I can relate entirely with everything that was written, as I was teased ceaselessly throughout school. I'm 25 years old now, and still have not come to the point where I embrace my hair colour. I feel "on display" so to speak whenever I go anywhere, and cannot stand it. I've been told time and time again that it's gorgeous, and I am beautiful, but thanks to those wonderful people who teased me my whole life for having it, I find it hard to believe.... It's a nice boost to read all of these positive comments about redheads. Thanks to all who embrace us :)....but I still want to try platinum, lol.

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Ben--Strange that you would be the first in your family with red hair. I love your attitude!!!

Ben 4 years ago

Ok im 13 and ginger i luv my hair and i was the first in my family :) so to all thos gingers out their keep your hair as it is it looks amazing :)

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Meghan-- I do know that some teasing is affectionate.

Meghan 4 years ago

Thank you and to be called a Ginger means everyone likes you

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Meghan-- I love your attitude!!! Thank you for sharing this! More people need to embrace this attitude, no matter what issues they are dealing with! We all need to learn to love ourselves!

Meghan 4 years ago

I'm a red hrs and I love it I'm 13.. Though I do get called soulless I say back yes but each freckle represents a soul I have taken.. Also Ginger isn't bad it's a nickname get over it. A guy called me cute red as a nickname and guys do LOVE their redheads.. I have a firery temper, but that's cuz of the way I grew up.. I'm irish and so far the only redhead in my family.. In fact my shade of red is one of the rarest which not only makes me more desirable but also unique and different and it's boring to be the same as everyone.... Embrace the Ginger don't dis or kill yourself just know when you get older everyone will love you and I was never really harshly teased at school cuz of my hair and a Ginger is very popular, also i know a girl who is layer back and quiet the very opposite of all descriptions!!!! So just live with it or dye it but you shouldn't( I'm not saying you can't) just red hair is a sign of strength and rebellion, not the devil or craziness!

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Deanna-- It is pretty easy to tell a dye job from a natural redhead, though some who dye their hair do have great stylists who make it look so real! I dye my hair now, only because it gets too light in the summer. It never looks quite right until about November...

deanna 4 years ago

and yes.... redheads are better:-P

deanna 4 years ago

I am a readhead and also have an uncle that calls me red. i don't mind it. as a child i hated my red hair and started dying it when i was in my late teens. i discovered you cant find my color in a box or even at a salon. i wont make that mistake again.i have grown to love my hair. a lot of people dye their hair red these days but its easy to tell a natural redhead from someone that dyed their hair.

Lily 4 years ago

I hate all types of name calling. But no one really ever gets mad about blondes being called dumb all the time. Brunettes have it so easy, they're supposedly the perfect ones. Redheads are better;)

Lizzy 4 years ago

I've always wanted red hair, like really red. Sadly I can't even dye it, it'd clash with my skin tone. But I must point out the only reason there's so many blondes is because of dye, if it's natural you get people asking about it.

brandi 4 years ago

Being a redhead guys think they can tell me anything they want about my hair. Been called a demon who stole the fire from hell, a temptress sent by Satan. It goes on and on but I love being a redhead never much of one to blend into the crowd I'm just happy to know others get strange comments also

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Ines-- I know a lot of other people who go through phases like that. They dye their hair often, and every time I see them, their hair is a different color. Red hair works on some people, and not so well on others. I am glad you are happy being a redhead by choice.

Tom-- Sometimes what I write is a bit tongue-in-cheek. I try not to take myself too seriously. Historically, yes, redheads were seen as evil. Some of that has carried on over the years. Stereotypes are silly, but that doesn't mean that they don't hurt sometimes.

Tom 4 years ago

Forgive me, but I can't help but to feel this is some mamby-pamby feel-good post.

I had red hair when I was a kid. My hair is mostly brown now though... still a little bit of red... but not much. I was never teased for my hair. I was complimented on it though. I miss my red hair. Brown feels too plain to me. I've never thought of redheads being portrayed as evil before. Maybe I didn't notice? I like how you say redhead stereo-types are silly... but close out with one. Seems like a jest, to me... but still sounds kinda stupid.

Ines 4 years ago

I see the post has been here for years but comments are going strong. :)

I'm a redhead by choice but I also grew up hating the color (and consistency of my hair). The color of my hair is ash blonde and when I say ash I do actually mean that. It's somewhere between blonde and brown and looks greyish (mousey). My grandmother used to say that it was the color of hazelnuts but I still believe it lacked the necessary color except for ashiness.

Anyway, I went through phases where I've been blonde and then brunette and somehow step by step I ended as a redhead. :)

So, I'm not a natural redhead but the color feels right. :) Except for my natural hair years, it's the longest I've been in a single color (I'd say some 8-9 years now).

The funny thing is, I have the skin tone that makes people think I'm a natural redhead with enhanced color (as I'm pale with pink cheeks and a tendency to freckles in the sun).

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Dilligaf-- Redheads are different. They have been treated differently for centuries.

Jade-- I am glad you have such a great attitude towards your hair color. I wish I had felt the same way when I was younger.

Tiffany-- I imagine red hair is incredibly rare in Asians, unless it is dyed. Thank you for your comments!!

Bridget-- Great attitude!!

Alex-- I have gotten a lot of responses from redheaded men. I know it is a little harder for redheaded men than it is for women...

Jojo-- Well congrats to your step-daughter!! I, too, am pregnant, and also hoping for a redhead!! I have red hair, and the father's mother had red hair, so keeping my fingers crossed!!

winnie-- make sure you let her know that!!

Wauwa-- I agree!!

Morgan-- I know your pain!! I have never been able to tan, either! And, my sisters are blonde as well.

can i rub your head-- First off, congrats on surviving cancer! My grandfather died of melanoma. I love your attitude!! I would never wish to have been born anything else than what I am, either!!

Chris-- Thank you. I think women do have issues with dating redheaded men. Though I do know a few that do very well in that department.

Chris 4 years ago

Good article, I think a lot women have problems with dating red heads. That is the impression I get anyway!

can i rub yer head 4 years ago

I was never teased as a kid, I was always told I was a strawberry blond by my mom.

Wow, doesn't that make me feel special...

My aunt said she went running to my mother when I was born to exclaim the words "you've got a redhead, knowing her, it was akin to something other than auspicious.

I have heard the questions in college, " do the curtains match the drapes", disliked these the most. Never totally understood if that was to be an insult or an opening "creepy" pick up line. The questioner always seemed to be awaiting a response..

I am now much older, and still telling people I an a redhead, whilst they examine my cranium, they reflect, " but you're a blond" Yes, red, fades, mine to the lightest blond ever, with grey hi-lites better yet.

The most discerning bit about being a ginger, my love of the sun, and our swimming pool. Yes, I had to be dragged out of it daily, to eat lunch, rest, etc.

Now, at 50, and having a scar on my forearm from skin cancer, I resolve, that even though I am still a ginger, redhead, grey-haired mid centurion, I would not have wished to have been born, anything else.

Morgan(((: 4 years ago

I stumbled across this because I actually googled how to be tan because I'm a red head and I'm very pale! I'm glad that someone else talks about being a redhead because I feel so odd being one, seeing how my sisters are blond and none of my friends have red hair. I just don't know how to see myself as pretty, being red headed with extremely pale skin and eyes that decide to be weird and change from bright green to blue. It's frustrating, but I love what you said lol

Wauwa 4 years ago

BTW everyone gingers do have souls!!!! I am not ginger but I am strawberry blonde/red haired. So ignore all the nasty things people say about people with ginger hair! They r just probably jelous!!!

winnie 4 years ago

I love red heads! They are AWESOME

My best friend is a red head and she's GORJUS

JoJo 4 years ago

I have a 22 yr old stepdaughter Amber who has beautiful red hair and whilst she got called all the names under the sun at secondary school she absolutely loves her hair now and is expecting a baby in the new year and is desperate the baby has red hair. I have a 15 yr old teenage boy who too has red hair and is gorgious. In fact most of the boys in his year at school can not believe how he has all the girls after him more so then them and "hes a ginger!!"

When they were little they would ask why they had red hair and i would reply that when they were babies the sun thought they were so beautiful he came down and kissed them, hence why they had the sun in their hair ..... they both loved that story and would take great delight in telling their school friends.

I love their head it makes them stand out from the crowd. I have told them to use it to their advantage as they will always stand out and be noticed but in my sons case that has back fired at times ..... not good when your being cheeky to adults - they are bound to be the only one mentioned.

Red heads be proud !!

Alex 4 years ago

Well that was a very good read and as a fellow redhead i can totally empathise with you although myself being a rehead guy i have found that as ive got older it hasn't gotten easier the people here are just as cruel as the children they produce. But im pleased to hear a story at last about someone who loves their hair colour and is proud of it good on you 8)

Bridget dvorak 4 years ago

Never hated being red never will.. Hope my fire never fades ..

Tiffany 4 years ago

Well, me as an Asian girl of Chinese descendant I always admire pople with ginger hair because I don't see much people have that hair color. I think it's really silly inded if there is someone who always like to spat ginger abuse just bcause of their hair color, this is the stupidest attempt that I ever known. There are many beautiful ginger girls that I ever seen as well as th not so ones, just like any other girls with other hair color. Once I ever seen a bautiful ginger girl with green eye and she made me enchanted. The whole ginger "stigma" must cut-off from now on, so gingers won't be an insult anymore but to be embraced.

Jade 4 years ago

I have red hair -more red then orange- and I was teased all the time growing up about my hair and my freckles, but it never really effected me. I didn't really care what others said, even now I get random teenagers scream 'Ranger' from their cars as they drive by and I laugh, I think its funny that they even bother.

All my friends, family and even strangers say that I have lovely hair and they wish they had it too, that's all that really matters to me. The hurtful comment don't mean anything and people who go out of their way to say them are just jealous.

I think your hair is lovely and you are too, I'm glad that you love your hair now. :)

Dilligaf 4 years ago

The problem is red heads think they are different...really no one cares about your precious hair color. Usually they develop a chip on their shoulder and feel they have something to prove to themselves. Please, the fact that you put this much time into thinking about your hair color already says something about your insecurities and ego.

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

Izzy-- I had some trouble when I was younger finding clothes that looked good with my hair color and skin tone. I have found that I look good in orange, yellow, brown and green. I also love turquoise. It isn't the first color choice for most redheads, but I love the way it looks with my hair. I hope this helps!

chris-- I don't like the idea of genetically engineering children. It can be taken way too far. I understand that it might be beneficial to weed out certain genetic defects, birth defects, and that sort of thing, but in general, it is the little differences that make us unique. It would be boring if we all looked exactly the same.

Laney-- It is a struggle. I understand this better than most. Don't dye your hair!! Be proud of who you are!! Listen to those people that tell you that you are gorgeous!! Most of the others are just jealous, or trying to get your attention. If you didn't have red hair, kids would find some other reason to tease's just what kids do. The South Park thing really added to it, I know. Play up your red hair. Wear clothes that really work well with your hair color, and maybe wear some makeup that will play up another feature that you are more proud of. It will take attention off your hair, and play on your natural beauty. Find someone you can talk to when things get rough. It helps, it really does. A close friend who understands you and supports you can put things in amazing perspective.

Laney Bruno 4 years ago

Hi, i am a red head with like so many freckles, and blue eyes... i am in eighth grade right now and get made fun of almost everyday because, how much i hate to say it, i am a ginger. I hate it so much people tell me i am gorgeous and that they are jealous of my hair and would love to trade with me. At this point i would like to. Guys make fun of me they call me a ginger, say i have no soul and call me ugly and that no guy will ever like me. I know this is not true but it is very hard to go through. All this night i have been trying to find something that will help me. This is very helpful. Just like you I would love to dye my hair and my uncle, he calls me red. So basically I was wondering if you had any suggestions on how to get through the school year?

chris 4 years ago

Unfortunately it sounds elite'ist but yes, well... Im not sayin they shouldn't, just use the whole gm stuff, you can use it to change eye, hair, height, skin tone, why not just get rid of the gene. easier fir eveyone

Izzy 4 years ago

Also, just to add as I just read Chris' comment. I am in no way fiery because of my hair colour and how people made fun of it. Instead I've turned out shy with low confidence because of these comments. Also maybe if there wasn't people like you in the world these apparent 'fiery' gingers wouldn't be so fiery because they wouldn't get these comments?

Izzy 4 years ago

I used to hate my red hair as for one thing people used to walk past me at school and say 'ginger' and then laugh.. and I know it probably sounds like nothing but to have someone judge you by just the way you looked upset me and really knocked my confidence! But now I'm older I hardly care that I have red hair and just feel like everyone else, the only thing I struggle with now is finding the right colour clothing to suit me without making me look washed out lol. Also people seem to find it suitable to talk about 'Does the carpet match the drapes?' (nicest way to put it, ha) and at least us redheads with quite a light colour don't have to pluck our eyebrows so much because they're so light ;)

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Anna Marie Bowman 4 years ago from Florida Author

weary-- I don't know a large number of men with red hair, but I know a few, and out of the few I do know, a few of them are good looking.


Ashley-- I agree.

Sarah-- Teasing is a big deal. You are absolutely right. Thank you!

pj-- My hair is naturally wavy. I would love curly hair. I had really curly hair when I was little...I looked like Little Orphan Annie...LOL

chris-- So you are saying redheads shouldn't have children, just so they don't have redheaded kids who might get teased...WTF??? That is like saying people with any other trait that gets discriminated against or teased shouldn't have kids. Like saying people who wear glasses shouldn't have kids, because their kids might need glasses or something stupid like that...yes, you are kind of a jerk...sorry...

chris 4 years ago

I came to tjis page after looking through articals on the news of the sperm bank refusing 'ginger' haired people, and i must say, they are right, nobody likes ginger hair, and its not only children that discriminate against it; adults from all ages and walks of life do too, as for the fiery tempers, yes they are, this is due to the fact that they get comments day in day out through they're waking life, of course they are going to be fiery. anybody would be with offensive comment shouted at them EVERY DAY of their lifes. lets be honest here, don't accept ginger sperm donations, and don't reproduce, so not to carry on the gene..... I bet your thinking WTF!!! What's thus guy on about, what a prick! well hear me out.. if ginger people dint have kids, there wouldn't be anymore kids growing up having to take this abuse. And, lets face it, the 'normal' hair coloured people would probably be happier for it. and to finish this off, ( your thinking thinkin this guy is an absolute f'ing ginger hateing wanker) I am ginger, and im not just saying this. I AM ginger, and not one of these sort of, partial ginger haired strawberry blonde types. im the full fuckin deep red/ copper ginger, so don't give me any crap for this. you n i and everyone else kniws this, stop the ginger gene! every else would be happy and they wouldn't be any ginger people to go through the torment and abuse, end of

pj 5 years ago

So it looks to me as if your hair is straight. Beautiful straight hair. Hair that when you brush it, it looks brushed. When you pick a lock up, it falls back into place. Another "hair prejudice"; curly hair. I am blonde, dark blonde now, with some of the frizziest hair in the world. My hair is fine and light-weight. When I pick it up, it only falls back down half-way. It defies the laws of gravity.I was called frizz-ball, brillo pad, kinky, and have been asked many times if I stuck my finger in a socket. I can't brush my hair:the volume increase 100-fold. I wonder if there are less of us frizz-heads than red-heads? Thank goodness for some better hair products these days. All I had growing up was Dippety-Do.

Sarah 5 years ago

First of all I want to say that I myself (now 25) was indeed at school a 'ginge' my hair was a light shade of red with blonde streaks and dark underneath which looked awesome all multicoloured, I started to dye it along with my other friends at tht age, a group of us 4 we wer all popular (not being bigheaded) just because we wer al confident and nice girls! I now regret ever dying it as I have got older my hair is a dull dark colour and I find myself dying it to red to get some ginger tones back as all the streaks have gone!

Fact- I was teased a few times n got called Ginger- My friend was teased a few times n got called 'Grey hound and a mouse'-my other friend was teased n got called 'fatty'- My other friend was teased and got called 'piggy' because of the shape of her nose, each and every one of us recalled getting 'picked on' as all kids at some point do. My point is every time one of us was teased or picked on by the bullie it hurt us all individually for our own reasons which we probably never understood unless it was ourselves, As an adult I find that all shapes and sizes, hair colours, skin colours, face shapes etc.. make us all different and intreeging in our own way, GIRLS....Tip for the opposite sex, yes they will say ur ginger as they follow the minority group so they don't get picked on, get a good response like yea n shes blonde? or shes brunnette? or say well ur friggen ugly n ur not ginger so what's ur reason?? GUYS.. yes unfortunately u have 2 take the piss more of urself but this is intreeging to girls, U can become the funny confident one to win the girls and when yu find a partner you show each other ur other qualities as we all do when we try to win people around!

I sorry this is an essay i just want every1 2 know it's a huge deal to you n i understand but 1 day It wont be, something els will be unfortuntelly and ul prob wish just 2 be called Ginge again. good luck EVERY1 Thru life ENJOY IT!!

Ashley 5 years ago

Miguel you should get a life

Miguel 5 years ago

So.......does the carpet match the drape?

weary 5 years ago

Wow. I never saw your last section about coming to terms with it. I skipped too fast to the comment section :O

I dislike the summers too as it lightens my hair. Winter is great where I live (far north), pretty much darkness for several months and by that I get such a rich dark wibe to it :D

Being a redheaded girl must be funnier I think. A lot of guys adore it, not to mention girls find it cool as well. Long ginger hair is also better than short, since it adds power, and gets through in a better way if you know? You can also use makeup. Really glad you enjoy the attention after the struggle =) Sometimes I do too. But only sometimes. Being different is cool. I like it. Being different in a "mostly known as ugly" way to a lot of people is not.

Because I ask you, and this is truth for most people. Do you know many handsome, truly good-looking, redheaded guys? Most don't. Some even neglect the possibility of it ever happening! So.. when Im in a bad mood, and Im in a bad light, and I see the fugly coloring. It gets to me =(

Have you tried gingerbooth? The software that makes a persons portrait picture ginger.! Or, try imagine average looking guys as ginger. Its quite freaky actually. Not many at all could pull it off if you ask me. Making a redheaded guy hot from an objective standpoint is very difficult.

Another thing. Say I was to go to Asia. Like, Japan, maybe, INDIA!? I would like to travel without a big fuzz around my hair, which Im sure it would make. Then I'd be really tempted to just take it away for a while, because those people go crazy over it.

This may come off as whiny, and it kind of is whine. Its obvious I haven't come to terms with it completely myself. One thing though. I don't cut it away. I want to master it.

As a kid I felt very distanced from looking good. Living with that belief for such a long time, it's true poison for a young boys mind. It's something one shouldn't even have to be thinking about! But girls were never really interested despite my overall awesomeness, and that confirmed it very well for me. Something had to be done. So, I actually let it grow. And I tried to wear it like I was proud of it. I never was really was, maybe it showed, so I mostly ended up in misery. But as years passed, I was sometimes able to see the niceness in it every now and then.. so

Like loneliness only has one cure, this hair is in need of the same treatment. It's love! So with all the hate, neglection, uglyness and whatnot this hair will be faceing, it will also face love from others and myself. Yes. There will be fond thoughts. Those thoughts I have to truly treasure!

It's kinda like telling a girl with anorexia it's ok to eat. But. Who knows. Maybe with time.

Sorry, for long wall of text. To make it easier on you somehow, if you even read this (lol). Im going shopping clothes very soon. Dark blue is my definite favorite. Darkish blue is one of the colors I can wear on torso to nicely accompany my eyes and hair! I heard about dark green also. But I was never convinced. What colors do you like?

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

weary-- When I wrote this, I was coming to terms with issues I was facing regarding my hair color. I guess we all have our own journey to self-acceptance regarding various issues we have. I agree, it does tend towards the superficial. There are a lot of great things about me, and you as well, I am sure, that have nothing to do with superficial issues like hair color and skin tone.

weary 5 years ago

Jacey. Tan or pale, neither I or colors will care :D I believe your pale can knock out most tanned girls. Its about wearing it as ones own. Sometimes you don't even know it yourself, but to others... A simple trait like paleness can be a big, big turnon. So can my red hair, I think, even if its with a "limited ammount of women!" who knows, maybe I'll turn a few doubters!

Screw the haters, shall we Jacey? We have a life to live!

Yeah Anna. This hair of mine, actually made me who I am. Theoretically. Say I could go back, and be a light-brown haired one. Would I do it? Would I have turned out differently? Im sure I'd be quite different somehow. That's scary to think about. A shame, kind of. Being directed by haircolor like that. There are pros and cons to this haircolor. But the way things turned out for me, I'd definitely do the switch. Hate to say it, but I would. The pain it caused me is too much. The few pros to having red hair, I would just have to be without =(

Unfortunately, I don't have such an offer. So I can only play with what I've got. Im gonna find my way to be comfortable with it, confident about myself as a _person_ again.

The twosidedness of this entire hair-complexity is annoying! So I wouldn't say I've ever turned my head around about it. I've had some goods and bads, there will still be. But at what point does it involve intoxication of my self-respect? This toxic is driven by pretty superficial stuff. Its a result of today's society, focus on looks, fitting in. We all loose touch with ourselves. That's been a big one for me. I've been so concerned about this. I forgot about shining from simply being myself.

Not gonna make a bigger wall of text this time. Thanks for the replies girls!

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

weary-- Wow..that was quite a bit to read. Thank you for stopping by and leaving some in depth comments. I am glad you are turning your mind around on your red hair. A lot of what attracts girls is confidence...not too much confidence, mind you, but a healthy self respect. Work that and all the rest is details.

Jacey-- Ginger=spicy...I like that!!! I understand your frustrations with stereotypes, and I am sure there are a lot of other people who do as well.

Jacey 5 years ago

@ weary: I'm not saying it isn't hard either way, I'm just saying that a lot of people think it's easy for blondes and kind of forget the stereotypes that come with it. Sorry if it came across that way, but I didn't mean to imply that redheads have it easy.

To be honest, I really don't know what its like for guys with red hair, and I can see how that would be hard. But, you even said at the end of your post that there are positives to being a redhead. If you're good-looking, then there's no reason to feel insecure about your red hair.

"Every sane human knows there is no link to haircolor and being stupid."

I'm 16 years old...not everyone my age is really mature enough to realize that, lol. I realize that it sounded like I said that a lot of people believe in the dumb blonde stereotype, and that wasn't what I meant. I just meant that beauty and brains aren't really associated with one another, and since blondes are generally pretty attractive, they can be judged a bit.

"Blondes on the other hand. Can use alot of colors. Can look good in pretty much any lighting."

I believe you're thinking of tan blondes. I'm pale, and as a blonde that kind of made me fade into the background.

I didn't mean to say being a blonde was the worst possible thing. I'm just saying it's not perfect, like you and a lot of other people say it is. My post was partly a result of frustration with stereotypes of any kind. You might not think being called a dumb blonde is insulting, but it is to me. Just like I don't think "ginger" is a huge insult while you feel that it is.

I'm somebody that really doesn't care about looks, so it's just frustrating when people think that it's all you've got going for you. Everyone's gonna be judged for something, but if you're comfortable with yourself then don't worry about it!

P.S.: I always associated ginger with the spice, and therefore redheads=spicy! haha that's just what I think when I hear it so I always found the name harmless.

weary 5 years ago

And its redhead! Not readhead. haha.

Also. I forgot to add. Im 21 years old now. So the "life ruined" is an overstatement. It has been hurting me for a lot of years. But I can turn this around, I really believe I can, sometimes.

I truly sympathize with Jeremiah. Me too, I've been so sad about it myself. To the point I feel like hell is growing on my head. I've dreaded it so much. And theres no escape from it. Even if you dye it, it'll just come back out for all eternity.

But Jeremiah! There are actually girls who will like you. Its all in our heads, mostly. Make the best of your features, who you are, and things will happen. Im sure.

Can you believe. The first girl I started talking to online. We had a very good tone. I had told her I was a redhead, and eventually she wanted my pics as well. The first thing she told me was, I quote, "YOUR HAIR IS AWESOME". After, she was definitely still interested. Though... she told me she didn't expect me to be "good looking" or whatever. This girl is actually one of the hottest girls I've encountered in me life. We met, I was unsecure, she still liked me and my hair. We hooked up.

This was such a mind-opener for me. If I could turn my red hair into a positive trait with the first girl I truly talked to online. Why shouldn't I be able to do it with tons of other girls?

Hope the doublepost is ok. Love from a wearied soul.

weary 5 years ago

To Jacey.

I literally laughed out pretty bad reading your post. Every sane human knows there is no link to haircolor and being stupid.

"Believe me, nothing's worse than being a blonde growing up."

The blonde stereotype is nothing compared to the readheaded truth. I know opinions may vary, but Im a readhead myself. And the colors of a typical copper/orange ginger is not complimented by a whole lot... The color is not even intense, only with special lighting.

Blondes on the other hand. Can use a lot of colors. Can look good in pretty much any lighting. Oh wait. Did I mention, blondes are associated with being hot. Its "every guys" dream (ofc not all over the world, but you catch my drift) to be with a blonde.

As a copper-readhead, slightly brown/red. Being a guy. Im at the bottom of the foodchain with a whole lot of girls. Its devastating. Cause, Im sure I would be killer as light-brown haired. I get compliments every now and then with my current hair. But its very difficult to make it look good grown out as long I have it. (short is not an option, I wanna show everyone Im a readhead and able to rock it)

I only find it very difficult, and demoralizing at times. Its like a burden to me. Example, I don't even want to have kids. The thought of them turning out ginger like me. Im not comfortable with it. It breaks my confidence. What if they're not blessed with the overall good looks I have, they'll be one of those nasty gingerkids

Because all in all. The namecalling is NOTHING. Call me whatever. I don't mind it. What hurts the most is the fact my personal preferrence don't find my own gingerness appealing (very often) Its ok to mention. I say, very often. Because, as I stated before. My hair can look pretty awesome on occation. But its not enough to feed my confidence. When I cant even go shopping the clothes I would like to wear.

Ginger hair kind of ruined my life tbh. Its pathetic, I know. But it is true. The insecurity and the way it never pleased me set a lot of barriers for me.

So. I just wanted to tell Jacey that. I believe shes wrong telling anyone being a blonde is the worst possible thing. Dumb blonde. lol who gives a shit? Those silly comments are out of jealousy or envy, because blondes are top tier. Contrary... Ginger comments are very often true. Because gingers do not generally look good, especially guys. That's why its truly insulting. Theres also a big difference in having the red color of choice (like you), and being a true copper/red ginger.

Also, I don't like the word ginger. What's its origin? Like the root vegetable? the spice? like sort of filthy? I think ginger is very negatively bound these days. That's why I don't like it. Even when a friend tells me Im ginger, with a positive tone.

Myself. Im working on overcoming this. Im sometimes considering enhancing my red color. With sligthly more intensity, but Im a guy.. So Im not so sure about it. Also I wanna focus on being more than my looks. But I enjoy stuff like this, style, etc. I want to make the look of my own, a look Im satisfied with!

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

Jacey-- I often wonder what it would be like to be a blond, or a brunette. It would be an interesting experiment.

Ellie-- Great points!! I don't understand why people feel the need to stereotype anyone, or call them hurtful names. I have never understood it. Guess I never will. Thank you for reading!

Ellie 5 years ago

i've been called everything from ginger whore, to just ginger, and went through all the 'do the carpets match the drapes' comments, the 'call the fire deparment, your hairs on fire!' and finally, 'i heard red heads are feisty in bed, i wanna test it' growing up red haired is hard, but growing up any hair color is hard. My best friend Maria is blonde and she is called stupid and easy too, even though she is in all advanced classes, an all A student, and has been dating the same boy for two years. We all get bullied, every hair color has a steorytype.

Jacey 5 years ago

To be honest, even though I am a natural blonde, I can't see myself going back to that color! It's interesting when you've been both, because you really do get treated differently. Red hair suits me, and it's great that you have a natural color that suits you, too. (:

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

Jacey-- You are right. No one should be stereotyped because of anything about them. Each person is unique. I could never see myself as a blond. I just don't think it would suit me. Brunette, maybe, but even then, it might not look right. I have known many beautiful women with all shades of skin tone and hair color. It's just about what works for you. I understand your feelings about the whole idea of blondes being dumb. Some are, and some aren't. Same with everything.

Jacey 5 years ago

I grew up as a blonde. It's way more difficult than being a redhead, trust me. Now that I'm in high school I've been called dumb, easy, and superficial, even though I'm none of those things. You'd be surprised at how many people believe the stereotype "dumb blonde."

I've been dyeing my hair red for about a year now, and trust me, hearing "dumb blonde" jokes is much worse than hearing the term "ginger." The term "ginger" really isn't that bad, by the way. All my friends call me that now and I really don't care. It doesn't imply anything bad about redheads. "Dumb blonde," however, does. While redheads are portrayed as feisty and brunettes as down-to-earth, blondes are simply portrayed as stupid. Some are, some aren't, but even the most intelligent people hold the belief that all of them are. Believe me, nothing's worse than being a blonde growing up.

I like my red hair better than my blonde hair. This is only because I think it suits me, there's nothing wrong with blonde hair. It's beautiful, just like brown hair, just like red hair. Saying you wouldn't want to be a blonde because its "too common" doesn't make any sense to me. Brown hair is more common than both blonde and red, but I've always wanted to dye it that color, and probably will after I'm done with my red phase. I'm not desperate to be different than everyone, I just think red hair suits me. I've got a hot temper and I am admittedly a little manipulative, but I was called stupid and superficial just because I was a blonde. By the way, the most gorgeous girl in my class is a brunette, and the ugliest is a redhead. On the other hand, I have a gorgeous friend, an exchange student from Chile, who has beautiful long, curly red hair.

Blonde, brown, black, and red hair can all be beautiful! I don't feel common just because I was born a blonde. I'm one of four girls, and both my parents and all my sisters have brown hair and brown eyes. I was the one who came out a green-eyed blonde. The rest of my family is olive-skinned, and though I am a natural blonde, I have VERY fair skin and freckles. Tanning is impossible for me, and I don't have the patience anyway.

Feel lucky that you've got beautiful red hair and just try not to stereotype others. I've met beautiful brunettes, stunning blondes, and gorgeous redheads. Everyone should love their hair even if it's not a rare color like red. (:

Ellie 5 years ago

Thanks! I'm the only red head at my school so its really bad sometimes.

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

Jesus-- That is some interesting information that I never knew. Thank you so much!!!

AlienWednesday-- I joke about the same thing with my freckles. Eventually, they will all grow together, and I will look tan. LOL

TheScarletPlague-- I guess it is just one of those things we have to deal with as we get older.

Ellie-- As you get older, the teasing will fade away, but the attention from the boys won't. Your eyes sound intense. It's just another thing that makes you unique. Treasure it. Play up the tint in your eyes, and make them stand out.

Ellie 5 years ago

I'm thirteen and in the marching band(I'm an eighth grader and at our school in seventh grade you start marching with the high school) and there is a senior named jayson who calls me ginger because I have auburn hair and 'demon girl' by some other kids because my eyes are brown with a red tint. I love my hair but I hate the teasing! I do have a slightly bad temper, and that only makes it worse. I do get a lot of attention from boys, though.

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TheScarletPlague 5 years ago from Florida

I think most redheads had that uncertainty about being different, myself included. I'm a redhead (auburn-red in the winter, golden/red/brown in the summer) and got over being different it when I was about 10. I'm glad you also embraced the beauty that so many people spend lots of money on!

AlienWednesday 5 years ago

Loved this hub! I am a darker redhead, more auburn but I still get the term ginger used. I have about a million freckles and know that one day all my freckles will combine to be one huge freckle when I am older.

I was teased very badly as a child but I still love being a redhead. We are considered exotic and I proclaim I am souless, with a fiery temper and anything else people throw at me. Power to the redheads!

(I do feel bad for people who consider themselves freaks of nature because of the red hair. You definitely are not, but I prefer to be a freak vs normal if that is what it takes)

Jesus D Zeus 5 years ago

Redheads are the only true descendants of the Adamite race. 'Adam' is a Chaldean word meaning 'Auburn-red'. The Adamite-Ionian equivalent is 'Phoenix', (from which stems the word 'Phoenicians").

To see how the Adamites were systematically exterminated or thinned out in the Mediterranean and the Middle and Near East and how their survivors found refuge mainly in the remotest parts of North-West Europe, read articles "A Synoptic History of Mankind", "Reappraisal of Thoth-Hermes", "The Life project" and the last page of "Decoding the Matrix movie", from Website at

Good reading

Jesus D Zeus.

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

Jeremiah-- I have known some great redheaded men who had no problems getting dates. Most of them are married now. If you want an inspiration for how great a redheaded guy could be, just look at Conan. He has turned his awkward ways, and crazy red hair into an iconic image. I am sorry things have been so hard for you. I wish there were more I could do to help.

Jeremiah 5 years ago

I'm not happy as a red-headed male. Throughout childhood, I was teased profusely for my red hair, and it made me grow up with zero confidence or self-esteem. I feel like that guy who was in that Cher movie.

Now at 27, the teasing subsided, though not fully. There are co-workers everywhere who can stare me in the face and call me a ginger without realizing what they're saying is so hurtful. If you took that N and G and switched it, it would be a derogatory word used for a different minority, and I make people realize that and I don't like the term. They still do it.

I've been practically dateless my adult life. Red hair is glamorous as adults but only toward females. My perception of me can be to blame but how else would you feel if your entire life people convinced you of being a freak of nature?

I can't go into a bar or any form of public facility without having someone look at me and think of me as inferior, or ugly. It's just too much for too long, I have become a hermit, overweight, and downright miserable.

I am nearing 30, a full time alcoholic, and I wish I could just lay on my bed until I don't wake up. Life was never good for me, and the fact that I have to deal with discrimination along with living alone and miserable is just icing on the cake of depression.

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

The Jet--That's part of the reason I

K-- I hate to say it, but according the definition, if you have bright, red/orange hair, pale skin and freckles, you are indeed a ginger. I hate the word as much as you do, partly due to South Park, as well. An ex of mine even now, over a year later, still refers to me as "the soulless ginger", mostly thanks to the show. He thinks it's a bitter insult that would hurt me, but now I just find him, and the whole thing very sad. I have developed a thicker skin about the whole thing, and have learned to laugh at the idiocy that surrounds it all. Even one of my favorite TV hosts, Chelsea Handler, claims to hate "gingers" and makes an issue of it from time to time on her show.

5 years ago

I love my hair but I get called a ginger thanks to, get this, south park. b/c of that show ppl call me mean, and i'm not. someone even asked me if i wanted to get trashed and then laughed at me for not knowing wat that ment(now i dothanks to the girl who sat in front of him).


Does "ginger" apply to ppl with really really really bright red hair?I'd like to know b/c that's my shade of red i have pale skin and green eyes and freckles.(basically the whole package)

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The Jet 5 years ago from The Bay

Don't we all? Lol.

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

Jasmine-- Olive-cream skin tone with red hair. I can imagine that you are a very pretty girl. Don't stress at the other kids. I have a bit of a temper too. Don't let it get to you. As you get older, you will see your red hair as a great asset rather than a burden.

The Jet-- Darn...I could use some extra money right about now.

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The Jet 5 years ago from The Bay

Lol. I don't think Borat was telling the truth, though.

Jasmine 5 years ago

I am even more rare: natural red hair, no freckles , and and olive-cream toned skin, I hated my hair up until the beginning of this year.. 7th grade

Everyone calls it orange and it really makes me mad.

And I have a short temper. :)

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

Daniel-- Thank you!! Couldn't agree more!

oscar-- I agree. I guess they figured anyone that beautiful must be evil. LOL

The Jet-- Hmmm...valuable...maybe I should grow my hair out and sell it.

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The Jet 5 years ago from The Bay

According to Borat, red hair is very valuable and profitable in Kazakhstan. I wish my hair could make money like that. lol. 5 years ago

i don't know why they hated red hairs back in europe, i think it was damn jelousy . i mean all the redhairs girls that ive seen in my country(in colombia,not many though) were super gorgeous, in fact i had a crush with a ginger girl at school . definitely I loved your article about redhair =)

Daniel 5 years ago

redheads are goddess

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

Kat-- I love your attitude!!!! You sound like you have a pretty good grasp on life. My hair is fading and getting lighter as I get older, as well. I dye it to keep it red. I agree, categories and labels just separate us further.

Kat 5 years ago

I too am a redhead but I find that I don't really fit into any of the stereotypes...I seem to always break the rules. I got picked on as a kid but I don't think anymore than any other kid. I have big curly hair (Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman) but I have like green/silver eyes and I'm of German descent so I don't really have the pale skin. I tan really well and I do have freckles but mostly on my face and I get them mostly after being in the sun. My hair grows really fast so I have to go to the salon every 3 weeks to cut off an inch and every time I go, it's compliments from every angle about how I don't have "normal red hair". It's not coarse or thick; instead I have a TON of hair that's springloaded! Tons of volume...they call me the "mermaid". I agree with some of the other writers that compliments are nice but everyone wants what they can't have. Ya know? The grass is always greener on the other side. Recently, everyone keeps asking me why I've gone to blonde...which is unfortunate because I'm 24 and my color is fading even though I have NEVER dyed it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I can identify with everyone and yet no one at the same time. I'm a redhead so I sometimes empathize but still different. Even when I'm with my friends and they refer to "Gingers" they exclude me and say I'm not part of that group...I'm "different". I love being a redhead and I think that we shouldn't focus so much on categorizing ourselves. We all have different experiences that make us who we are. Red hair, blonde, or brunette, love yourself for who you are. We all have it hard :)

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

Notconfident-- I am sorry for the way you have been treated. I have experienced some of that myself. I have always had more auburn hair, though it has lightened some. Some men love red hair, and some hate it. There doesn't seem to be much in between in that regard. You need to find someone who loves you for who you are. You are unique and beautiful, and there are people out there who will see that. Trust me.

Notconfident :( 5 years ago

Hi I'm 24 a natural redhead, have more auburn coloured hair and have been dying it for more then 5 years now. No one has red hair in my family so they always joke that I was adopted. I don't quite remember being teased whilst at school but rather now when people find out about my natural hair colour. Its so embarrassing and I try and avoid the conversation at all costs. I feel that men will not find me attractive once they know my natural hair colour and it makes me really shy and not want to meet new people because I'm scared of that bad reaction. Once it was 'yuck' and 'ranga' It really kills my self-esteem and just can't accept it no matter how much i try :( they just make me feel ugly :(

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

Haha-- I know...LOL

me-- I also got teased for my fair skin and freckles. In this culture, tan is seen as more beautiful, and well, I just don't tan. Over the years, I have seen more beautiful women with gorgeous fair skin and freckles, and to me, it seems a far more natural, fresh beauty than those overly tanned, blond women you see more often.

me 5 years ago

I don't have red hair. It's brown. But I have the pale skin and a zillion freckles. I was so miserable in school. If I wasn't being teased, I was wishing I had darker skin and no freckles. It was an endless cycle until college when I saw a magazine ad with a woman who had freckles just like me and she was beautiful! After that, my self esteem slowly started to grow and I began to see myself as pretty too.

Haha 5 years ago

XDDD carrot top!! Lmaoo!!!

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

gvannorman-- I could be mean right now but I won't. Instead I will just say thanks for stopping by.

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gvannorman150 5 years ago from Newark, New York

I am glad that I am not a red head :) j/k

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

Little_Abby-- Thank you very much!!!

Wow Friend-- I am always pleased to hear how others have come to appreciate their own unique beauty. I love Annie!!! A favorite movie of mine. Thank you for your comments!!

Wow Friend 5 years ago

As a dark skin African American female that wears an afro - I can well identify with all that you said regarding the long painful process of accepting oneself when one is different- I've always been a fan of red hair myself- starting at about age 8 having watched the movie Annie- probably not a favorite either :-) ...but it's always beyond interesting and encouraging to hear the steps others have taken to self acceptance- so thanks for sharing.

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Little_Abby 5 years ago

Another well written redhead hub, great job! As a redhead I relate far too well with all of the comments made.

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Anna Marie Bowman 5 years ago from Florida Author

mika-- I have heard that so many times I can barely stand it. Thanks for stopping by!

mika  5 years ago

i no how u feel thts how my family is they also say wen i get mad my face turns as red as my hair and i hate it!!!!

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Anna Marie Bowman 6 years ago from Florida Author

hi-- I am sorry that you have had so much trouble. It is never fun being teased. I don't know what you look like, but I have known some natural redheads that just don't look quite right in their natural hair color. Not that they look bad or ugly, or anything like that, just that sometimes, with skin tone, eye color, etc, the red hair just doesn't look like it fits. Maybe that is your situation. I don't really know. If the red hair doesn't make you happy, and you don't love it the way I what makes you happy. If you are happier as a blond, I say go for it! As long as you are happy!

Hi! 6 years ago

I am in my mid 30's and still wish I was not born a redhead. The insecurities of the teasing and isolation I endured as a child/teenager left a deep wound that has never healed. I watched my blonde and brunette sisters become homecoming queens and Miss everything soley because of their looks while I, who looks just like my sisters aside from hair color, was ridiculed and cast aside simply for the color of my hair. I was never a mean person or hot tempered, never. I'm terrified to even have children because I fear they will be redheads and I don't want them to go through what I did. I just recently went back to being a redhead, after being a blonde for 18 years, and people automatically started in with name calling and someone even told me "You were gorgeous as a blonde, why would you dye your hair red" and I said "Well, I am a natural redhead" and he said "Yikes, are you serious" and the look on his face said it all. I mean "Yikes"?? How do you respond to that? I wanted to crawl in a hole. I just don't get it, but it hurts. Anyway, I have vented long enough. Thanks for the posting here. I wish I could have your attitude. Maybe someday!

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Anna Marie Bowman 6 years ago from Florida Author

Mariah-- I think black hair is gorgeous. I could never pull it off, my skin is so light, and with all the freckles...LOL

katelyn-- I love hearing stories of how people have come to terms, and learned to love their red hair!!

katelyn 6 years ago

i used to hate my bright orange hair, but i have gotten thousands of comments on how beautiful it is from random strangers on the street! only now do i realize how very lucky i am!

Mariah 6 years ago

I was teased for my black looking hair. Red hair is beautiful and so rare. :D You only meet a few red heads and whenever I do meet a natural red head I am shocked and happy. It's a pretty hair color!

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Anna Marie Bowman 6 years ago from Florida Author

red teen-- I am glad you love your hair. Try not to let it bother you too much, or laugh it off. Learn to poke a little fun at yourself, and the power the jokes have over you will fade a little.

redmenace-- A family of redheads?? The only thing that comes to mind when I picture that is the Adam Sandler movie, Billy Madison, "O'Doyle Rules!" LOL! Sorry!

redmenace 6 years ago

I too disliked being a redhead in school but I was lucky as I come from a large family with a lot of red heads so united we stood! Now that I am older I find that the red is starting to fade and I miss my redder curls. I am overjoyed that my daughter inherited the red hair, she is going to be a gorgeous, tall, red headed goddess and I can't wait!

red teen 6 years ago

i love my hair i just wish everyone would stop making a big deal about it i just burns me when the jerks get away with the jokes like its no big deal when i wish 2 change the way ppl look at me bc im a little puggy but im tall and built like a football player

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Anna Marie Bowman 6 years ago from Florida Author

red teen-- Most redheads have been there. You are not alone. It will get better. I know that's little comfort right now, but it will get better. Keep your head up, and remember, you are unique. It may make you feel like you stick out right now, but in time, you will grow to appreciate it.

red teen 6 years ago

i hate being 1 of a few reds in my school and being looked at like im a curse on humanity and left out by some of my so called friends and it feels like no girls like me i wish some people would grow up

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Anna Marie Bowman 6 years ago from Florida Author

lucy-- Thank you so much!!!

kiki-- That is really rare to be the only one in the family. Treasure your uniqueness!!

Scozzo_Scotty-- I agree it is a lot harder being a red-headed guy, than it is to be a red-headed girl. Glad you have made peace with it all, and have used all the torment to make yourself a better person.

Kodie-- Blue eyes and red hair are a pretty unique combo. I have hazel eyes, so not all that special. Glad you are proud of your individuality!!

Kodie 6 years ago

as a blue eyed reheaded girl growing up i thought that i was the wrong kind of redhead. all the beautiful redheads i saw had green eyes and long beautiful redhair. but as i grew older i realized that having blue eyes and redhair is even more unique than green eyed redheads. i look back now and wish that i had a dollar for every little old lady who came up to me and told me how beautiful my hair was. lol. any whose i love this site!

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Scozzo_Scotty 6 years ago


Great Hub! I agree with pretty much everything on here! Growing up as a red-head is pretty damn hard, you gotta be some sort of machine to block out the comments! Anyway...

I'd like to talk about the difference between growing up as a red-headed boy to a red-headed girl. Although i have read 3 Hubs now on "Gingers" they have all been done my females. As i read them, i start to see how it was for you in school and how getting older people start to realise how different we are, but for male "Gingers" the crap doesent change!

I kinda think, through experience and being around males all my life, as men get older red-headed girl's become some sort of fantasy to them, for the simple reason that earlier in there life they bullied "Gingers" to fit in with the crowd, so they have never experienced one of us.

I also believe we have a unique personality, not one we were born with, but one that evolved with us throughout everything we go through in the early days.

Tell me what you think....

As for Hot-headed Gingers, in my years at school, i was always fighting, but never anything i started. My sister is also a Ginger, who was also bullied which involved me fighting, ultimately not good. Yet i join another school and instantly im on my toes waiting for the next comment, the next person to look at me as if i don't mean anything. Were hotheaded for a reason... its not natural.

Although school was around 7 years ago, iv become a person that is very loveable to others and i can make anyone laugh with a click of my fingers! So thank-you to the Ginger Haters! You made me who i am! I would hate to be boring!

All my Love, Scotty :D

Kiki 6 years ago

Hey, just came across this today by accident! I'm irish and a redhead. only one in my family, extended included. great grandfather had redhair apparently. To anyone reading this who gets picked on or resents their red hair, please please don't! I get so much good attention because of it. Anyone can be blonde or a brunette, redheads are unique and fabulous! Embrace it! if its too light, put a copper dye in it to bring out the red!! I find that anytime i go abroad, the chat up line usually starts with "you've got to be irish" and then almost always follows "God i love your hair"! If you are still in school and get picked on, just remember, girls who do it are jealous and the boys, well lets just say that they are not imaginitive enough to come up with some original jokes instead of the ones they've heard on South Park! All redheads should come to ireland on paddy's day!! we seriously are like tourist attractions!!

lucy westenra 6 years ago

u know what anna,U R REALLY BEAUTIFUL!!!!I'M GLAD U R PROUD OF THAT RED MANE OF HAIR...DON'T LISTEN TO THE PEOPLE WHO CALL US REDHEADS WEIRD NAMES,THEY ARE JUST JEALOUS!i'm a dark red/auburn haired girl myself u know.stay who u r and just keep rocking!cheers.

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Anna Marie Bowman 6 years ago from Florida Author

Red Head Joke-- Be careful what you say, my fiancé is convinced I am a vampire. LOL

Red Head Joke 6 years ago

Hah, yeah redheads have it ruff but we manage. I like to think its our vampire-like abilities that have got us so far.

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Anna Marie Bowman 6 years ago from Florida Author

Penny-- I have had similar problems accepting compliments over the years. It seemed as if everyone who gave me a compliment on my hair was just "being nice". I now know how great it is to be me!! The compliments are nice! I accept them for what they are now.

tara-- I didn't dye my hair. It's always red, just have to darken it after the summer sun washes out all the color.

Sunny-- Umm...ok....strange request, but hey, why not?? If anyone out there wants to do that, go ahead. LOL!!

R.P.--Good to know.

Ed-- You sound like a proud grandfather...though calling your granddaughter a knockout is kinda weird.

Ed 6 years ago

My sister is a redhead, she was and while she's in her late 70's is still a very good looking woman. As a young woman she was nothing short of a bombshell. My son is is blonde-redhead. He's good looking, very tough and independent. His daughter is a redhead. She is 15 now and is a real knockout, absolutely gorgeous. She was teased (and still is) but has grown to love the fact that she's different. I remind her that anything rare is of greater value, and her beauty, personality, sense of humor and loving attitude make her even more of a gem. It's wonderful to see how she has learned to appreciate the many gifts she has. Wherever she goes she turns heads. She make me a very proud grandfather.

R.P. 6 years ago

Most of my friends are redheads and there's nothing wrong with that. there are a redheads in my family, so therefore you have my approval.

Sunny 6 years ago

most of my family growing up were redheads. and what ever you consider yourselves you're just as human as everyone else in this world. i love you guys/gals!!!!!!

just over look all this b.s. and consider yourselves unique.

I'm trying to keep redheads alive in this if any young men and women, with red hair of any shade and texture want to donate their Semen(sperm) and

ova(eggs)? then send your emails and photos to:

this way through IVF /ART the eggs and sperm will be joined and hopefully many redhead embryos will result.

tara 6 years ago

hayyy im a redhead why did u die ur hair???? u shoudnt care bout what other people say

Penny D. 6 years ago

I am 46 and a natural redhead. My mother has it, two of my siblings have it, and four of my eight children as well. Like every redhead, I have often been confused by the contradictory feedback (both compliments and insults).

When I was growing up, the compliments came from adults and the insults from children. Like elle, I thought the compliments were inspired by kindness or pity. I discounted the compliments because of the insults.

It's been a gradual thing, but I've come to decide that people really MEAN the compliments! I should not let the insults cancel them out.

When my oldest daughter (the first of my children with red hair)was struggling to understand this, I told her, "People either really like red hair or they don't."

We'll never have 100% approval, but the approval we have will be enthusiastic! And if the people who don't like it would keep it to themselves (like a polite person should), everything would be fine. I'm sure that many people do, but of course there will always be a few people who are impolite or lack awareness.

About people who lack awareness -- I have known three VERY NICE women who had no idea how their comments affected me. Two of these women told me that they liked red hair, but that their husbands didn't -- and then they had to go into detail about it. Their husbands had never said anything to me, and I would never have known if their wives hadn't told me. Maybe they thought they were showing their loyalty by telling me, but it would have been much kinder not to have said anything. The other was a sweet lady who told me that she had not wanted to have children with red hair, but that she now felt she could accept it if her grandchildren had it. She may have been being honest, but it would have been better if she had shared her feelings with someone who did not have red hair. With the first two women, I was too embarrassed to comment at the time, but I eventually wrote to them explaining my feelings. I did say something to the third lady, but I decided to write to her too. It was because these women were good people that I made the effort -- otherwise I wouldn't bother.

I used to flinch at every mention of my hair color, but I decided to believe a friend when she told me that some nicknames (like Carrot Top) are meant with affection by many people. So I have been trying to be less sensitive and more appreciative of people's intentions.

In a Thumbelina movie (produced by Don Bluth), the mother tells Thumbelina, "Never wish to be anything but what you are." I like this advice. God created us with different eye, hair, and skin colors, but we are all beautiful. Variety is wonderful!

A few months ago, I started to think of all the compliments I have received in my life (more than just my hair) and how unlikely it was that there could be no truth to them. Maybe it was time for me to start believing them and feeling confident.

Yesterday I was looking in a catalog (Catalog Favorites) and saw a T-shirt that said, "Redheads Are HOT." I smiled because it fit my new attitude and it reminded me of one of my daughters who calls herself, "Jessie the Hot." (She has red hair too.) It was googling on these words that brought me to this web-site.

June :) 6 years ago

Im a natural redhead!

Im 15 and I love love love it!..wouldn't change it for the world!..who wants to be a boring brunette or blonde?!..Redheads are on fireeeeee!..

"Blondes are noticed..but redheads are NEVER forgotten!" - unknown

"It's not just a hair color, it's a state of mind."

-Realm of Redheads

elle 6 years ago

I'm eighteen and still get ragged on for being a red head. People are still so insistent on stereotyping us that I'm starting to think it's getting a little out of control. My best friend affectionately calls me Ginger so much that other people think it's okay to call me that when I actually hate it!

There's this episode of South Park called Ginger Kids (I think). While I used to find the show hilarious, I stopped watching after I saw that episode because it was so demeaning to red heads. South Park is not meant to be taken seriously and people actually HAVE! Thanks to that episode, I get the whole, "Oh, you're a red head so you're a vampire" stereotype on a constant basis.

The negative comments that come along with my red hair, freckles, and pale skin have driven me to the point where I'm seriously considering dyeing my hair dark brown so I fit in with my entire family. The only redeming quality about me is that my eyes are brown. My guy friends are constantly trying to convince me not to dye my hair and my female friends say I should only dye it temporarily.

The stupid thing is, when people tell me my hair is pretty, I feel like they're pitying me. Nobody can relate to a red head except for another red head. Reading this definitely opened up my eyes to show me that I'm not the only one who has experienced the negative side of having red hair.

Alexandra Anderson 7 years ago

I LOVE my red hair. The first thing people say when I tell them I am a natural red head is "Yeah, from a bottle, right?" It is so offensive. But once I tell them NO this is the color that sprouted from my hair when I was 2 then they fall all over themselves about how pretty it is :)

It makes me feel Amazing. Red hair is the ultimate confidence booster when you finally come to love it.

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

Glenne-- I am glad you have grown to love your hair color. It took me a few more years to really appreciate it.

Lauren-- Thank you for sharing your story, and thank you for the added information!!!!

Lauren 7 years ago

I am a red head and so is my Dad and two little brothers. All 4 of us are basically identical actually. I hated my hair from middle school and dyed it every color I possibly could but my hair wouldn't hold color so in just a month or two the red was taking over again. I fought it until my senior year when I began to love my red hair when I realized some guys liked me strictly because I had red hair. I made me feel special and like I had a league of my own.

My Dad being 6'4" and a very huge muscle type of guy was called big red all through high school and college and he loved it. He was more ashamed of home much larger he was than everyone else. He got beaten up and picked on my much older kids because of this. I saw his Kindergarten photo and he's about half a foot taller than every other kid in his class. He was always horrified that the same was going to happen to me. I was teased a lot for being so tall and broad shouldered. I resented it to because most boys didn't want to have anything to do with me because I was taller than them. I still get made fun of to being so tall to this day. Not for my red hair though.

Actually I read recently about how some redheads have been beaten in the streets in Britain just for having red hair. I also think the term Ginger is a European thing as well. Vampires actually originated from redheads as well way back in medieval times. It was how the explained sunburns and allergies and all those other lovely things we as redheads are prone to. Also Judas is always painted with red hair to symbolize his betrayal of Jesus.

Glenne Jones 7 years ago

Hey i loved your story, it s just like my story, i am 18, and i have hated my hair color, but now i love it, some times i hate being diffrnt but at the same time i love it

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

Sarah-- Great attitude to have!!! Get the jokes in there before they can make them!!! Thank you!!! Love it!!

Sarah Morgan 7 years ago

I love this! I am still in school and used to get jibes all the time about my hair- but now, I just laugh along and sometimes even make the jibes that the bullies would make before them, 'cause then they know that I don't care! It also makes them respect me a lot more- I find that when people with ginger hair like myself get wound up about it just makes people tease them more, making them feel out of place, which of course we're not, we're unique! Just think of all those beautiful redheaded women- Nicole Kidman, Lily Cole, Kate Winslit, Kathryn Hepburn- all beautiful! You just have to open your eyes and look around you sometimes- if red hairs so "bad" how come red hair dyes are sold, and how come people ask if its your natural hair colour? Obviously its because they're jelous! Stand tall and you'll see people looking at you, and it feels good to feel confident about being unique, naturally!

That was my little speech, I hope you liked it! :D

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

mel-- It took a long time for me to grow to love my hair. Over the years, I was teased less. I still get comments from some people, mostly jerks, about how redheads are ugly, or whatever. But, for the most part, I get a lot of compliments. There are also a lot of guys out there that love redheads. I realized that I am special, in a good way. There are so few of us out there. We are unique. My hair makes me stand out in a crowd. No one forgets me. I looked up redheaded celebs. We are in some good company. If you are getting compliments on your red hair, maybe you should stop and think about what your friends are saying. We are always our own harshest critics. I know I see myself differently than others do. I see myself with a much more critical eye than everyone else does.

mel("ginger" and hate it) 7 years ago

Well at least I know there are others out there who hate the term "ginger" personally I do like red hair... just not on me haha red hair is always pretty but it's just not my favourite colour for myself... and I hate the fact that usually along with it comes very fair skin and freckles.... question how did you learn to love your red hair? =] and yes I too get bugged by that episode of South Park. It's nice to know there are others that are or have dealt with what I'm going through because all my friends say that I shouldn't have such a problem with my hair because it's so pretty but they just don't understand. =l

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

mel-- I hate that kick a ginger day. I even hate the term ginger. I get teased a little by my boyfriend, cause he knows I hate that word. He gets a kick out of the South Park episodes that talk about gingers having no souls. He knows it bugs me, so I know what you are dealing with. I hope you grow to appreciate your distinctive hair color. Best of luck to you!

mel("ginger" and hate it) 7 years ago

Hey I'm glad you have grown to love your hair but personally I hate being a redhead. :( It looks great on others and I'm complimented by my friends all the time and people I know by my brothers and dad but I was always the one excluded from games and teased. I'm 17 now and I still don't really like being in the minority. I was kicked and beat up by some kids on that "Kick A Ginger Day" thing and if I had the choice I'd dye my hair but I can't. =[ But other people look really nice with red hair =] just had to post this comment. :)

Keish 7 years ago

Dose copper hair count as red hair?

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

nazishnasim-- I am very happy with my hair now. Just yesterday, when I was flying out to California, I overheard some other passengers talking about how much they love redheads. I couldn't help but overhear, and looked at them and smiled.

badcompany-- It wasn't fun growing up as a redhead. I grew up, and realized how great, unique and special I am. Sex on legs...I like that!!!

Candie-- Wow!! All those redheads in your family, and somehow it missed you!! Sorry to hear that...there's always hair dye!!

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Candie V 7 years ago from Wherever there's wolves!! And Bikers!! Cummon Flash, We need an adventure!

My grandfather, my aunt,my mom,my son, my son's father's whole family are all redheads..not me. Not me! Rats! What I wouldn't give to be a strawberry blonde like my son!!! Grrrrrr.

badcompany99 7 years ago

Jeeeeeeeeeez woman are you for real, redheads are like goddesses in the Captains eyes, to be a redhead is to be sex on legs, do not ever dye it !!!!!

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I am a brunette but I have always adored red heads. There's something so fiery so flamish about them that makes them look so darn pretty! I am happy that you have come to terms with your hair color! :)

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

RageNRedHead-- I am glad to hear that you, too, have grown to love your red hair!! I think we should be considered our own race. We don't look like other people, our skin reacts differently to sunlight than other people, and we are harrassed and discriminated against. (ok, so maybe that's going a little far...LOL!)

RageNRedHead 7 years ago

Anna, I was so mad fun of as a redhead growing up is so weird that most of us were!!! Like we were some freak race or something!!! I posted this article on my facebook so my friends can understand what it was like when I grew up. I remember coming home crying after school all the time, and telling my mom I hate my hair and I insisted on her dying it blonde for me!!! I love my hair now and all one billion and one of my freckles LOL.

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

I have blonde highlights, too, but with the long hair, it doesn't do anything to hide my red hair!!  I have seen a lot of good looking guys with red hair, but you are right. It tends to work better for girls, than for guys.

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kea 7 years ago

I don't hide my red's just that blondes have more fun :) No, I just think I look cooler with blondish-red hair than with fire-engine red hair. I don't think red hair is as cool on guys as it is for girls! That's all. I am sort of Type A though, so people can probably tell I have red roots!

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

kea-- I never understood the carrot top comment, either. I have heard that comment about "rather be dead than red on the head." It always makes me mad!! Stereotypes are just that. I don't see myself as a "Type A" person. I am rather laid back when it comes to most things. I do have a bit of a temper, but it cools quickly. Why do you hide your red hair??

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kea 7 years ago

As a former redhead (I highlight my hair blonde now), I can relate. I was constantly made fun of in school. Called "carrot top", to which I replied "carrot tops are green" (yeah, I know it's lame). Also, constantly told "rather be dead, than red on the head" retrospect, that's kind of mean! Most people think I have blond hair now, but the stereotypes still exist. My girlfriend is convinced that all red heads are "Type A" people and have hot tempers!

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

earnestshub-- I hope that your daughter likes her red hair!! Just let her know that when you dye your hair red, it tends to fade out quicker than other colors, so if she likes it, it will require more upkeep. I darken my hair after the summer sun fades it to almost blonde. Check out my hub on Bald Celebs!! Go completely bald!! You will be in some good company!

Misha-- I have always thought redheaded kids were so cute!!! Thank you! It's a pic that has a lot of great memories tied to it!!

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Misha 7 years ago from DC Area

Come on Stacy, I love read heads, and my middle son is redhead, too :)

BTW your new pic is great!

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earnestshub 7 years ago from Melbourne Australia

I love red hair. My daughter has a girlfrind who is a redhead, so has decided to go red as well. With red hair she looks so much like one of your photos it is uncanny.

For myself, any extra hair would be a bonus!

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

Thank you, AEvans!!! So are you!!!

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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

I don't think we are cursed, I think we are blessed as we are unique human beings that do not share a common hair color!!! I am so glad that you wrote the article , you are beautiful yes you are!!!:)

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

starburst-- Be proud of your hair!!! Trust me on this one! Don't dye your hair black!! If you do want to try it, they have a lot of products out there that wash in and wash out after a few days. I have played around with the temporary dye, just for fun. But, do not dye your hair black permanently!! I grew to love my hair, and it has gotten me a lot of positive attention.

starburst 7 years ago

im young and i get made fun of because of my attitude ( im sarcastic)

and mean so ppl always say its my hair so im always sayin im going to dye it black, but i don't think ill do that but i really don't like my hair so ur thing was positive its making me rethink my decision

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

Dolores-- I bet they are the cutest little boys ever!!! I agree, there is nothing cuter than and redheaded baby!!! The red hair, the smattering of freckles across the nose!! Just too cute!!

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Dolores Monet 7 years ago from East Coast, United States

i have 2 redeaded sons, one had curly red hair (actually still does) and i tell there is nothing in this world cuter than a red headed baby (no offence to the others but they won't read this anyway)

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

dave-- Thanks for the comment!! Yes, I agree that the red looks best, on me, anyway. I was teased constantly as a kid for my red hair, and looking back at history, I got off kind of light. I guess I could have been burned as a witch. LOL!

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daveearley 7 years ago from Chicago, IL

The red looks the best. I've heard lighter red hair being referred to as strawberry blonde. Didn't know that people used to look down on others with red hair. What a shame. I always thought red was popular because of the minority.

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

glassvisage-- I'm not surprized that gingers got beat up in Europe. Strange, though, because from what I know, there are more of them there than there are in the US. Yeah, red hair doesn't look great on everyone. It would be like me going blonde. I think I would look really weird.

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glassvisage 7 years ago from Northern California

My co-worker is a ginger, and we researched ginger history once and read about how people in Europe would get beaten up for having red hair! How ridiculous! I always think it's beautiful, but it would look terrible on me :(

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

needful things-- Thank you! I agree, hair color is no indication of personality.

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needful things 7 years ago from Poland

I don't care... I like and love redheads (women only)... color of hair has no connection to a person's personlity except. LOL. Thumbs up. And Anna, you look the best with red hair...

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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida Author

Benjimester-- It's true. Redheads were thought as evil, witches, in league with the devil. All my evil-ness aside, yeah, I love my red hair!

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Benjimester 7 years ago from San Diego, California

That's really funny that red hair was associated with devilry in the olden times. I never knew that. Someone should write a hub sometimes about all the whacked out things people used to believe. I'm glad you love your red hair :)

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Anna Marie Bowman 8 years ago from Florida Author

Chris- I can't believe I never commented on this!!! LOL! As you see, there is a link to your redhead hub here as well. Thanks for the support!!!

Becki- Glad to hear that you, too have grown to love your hair!!!

Becki 8 years ago

I didn't like my hair growing up - but now I love it.

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Christoph Reilly 8 years ago from St. Louis

Hi Anna Marie: I liked to this hub thusly: MUST READ - For a fine personal memoir on growing up with read hair, see Anna Marie Bowman's THE CURSE OF BEING A REDHEAD. This appears after my content (pic of Shirley MacLaine) and before the RSS feed for hair hubs.

The link to mine doesn't fit here.

Also, I saw that for the people who did not write their hair pieces (ha) via the request feature, You are posting their links. Mine qualifies and I would love to be included.  Thanks!

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Anna Marie Bowman 8 years ago from Florida Author

I figured you would! ;) And, no, I don't mind at all. I will link yours up with mine, as well!! When you do get the link to the one on the disappearing gene, let me know! I don't think I have even read that one!! Thanks for the compliments!

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Christoph Reilly 8 years ago from St. Louis

Anna Marie Bowman: You know I'd find this hub sooner or later. It was great to get a redheads take on growing up red. If you don't mind, I'll link to you in my hub about redheads. Also, I got (his name escapes me just now) to write a hub on the disappearing redhead gene, which I will also link to. We should all link to each other. Can't hurt! What do you think?

I really enjoyed this reflection, and you wrote about it with skill. Thanks!

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sixtyorso 8 years ago from South Africa

My ex of 35 years was a gorgeous Red Head. I adored her until she left me!

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Just_Rodney 8 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

I personally am partial to red heads, as my first girl friend was a redhead. I also am a photographer, who likes to do natural light photograpy which means minimal flash or lighting. By and large found them to be more photogenic.

Thanks for the hub

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