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The Curse of Being a Redhead

Anna is a writer who wears many other hats and has a wealth of experience that she draws from, sometimes funny, sometimes serious.

Such gorgeous color.  How could I have ever hated it?

Such gorgeous color. How could I have ever hated it?

Growing Up Ginger

First of all, I have always hated that term, ginger, from the very first time I heard it. It never sat well with me, and I really don't like being called a ginger. For those of you who don't know, a ginger is someone with a lighter shade of red hair who has freckles. So, in reality, I am a ginger. I was born with lighter red hair and what started off as just a smattering of freckles.


I was teased incessantly as a child. I was called every name you can think of, including carrot top. I had friends and made friends easily, but the teasing did not stop at the children on the playground. I was teased by my own family members as well. I was always referred to as "Red" by one of my uncles. He never called me by my name; he still doesn't. I guess he thought it was a term of endearment, something to make me feel special, but all it ever did was remind me of how different I was from everyone else.

My sisters were both blonde with blue eyes. I often wondered if I had been adopted or if my father was really my father. The only indication that I really belonged in that family was the fact that my grandmother on my mother's side had been a redhead.

Redheads on TV

Television added its own cuts and bruises to my fragile, young ego. The redheads depicted on television were often mean, bratty, or just plain evil. I recall a nickname my father gave me when I was young. He often called me "Harriett" after the redheaded neighbor from a TV show called Small Wonder. Not many people remember that show, and I probably wouldn't either, if it hadn't been for that nickname. Harriett was the bratty neighbor who drooled over one of the main characters of the show and never got the attention she so longed for.

I hated my red hair all throughout my childhood, and I often told my family that once I was old enough, I was going to start dyeing my hair. I wanted to be blonde like my sisters and my mother. I didn't want to be teased anymore, and I didn't want to be different. I wanted to be like everyone else.

Carrot Top. Guys like this give the rest of us redheads a bad name.

Carrot Top. Guys like this give the rest of us redheads a bad name.

Perpetuating the Myth

She was a woman with red hair and green eyes— the traits which Satan supposedly relished most in mortal females.

— Robert Shea, "The Eye in the Pyramid"

Perpetuating the Myth: Redheads Are Evil?

In many cultures, throughout history, redheads have been seen as evil, witches, or in league with the devil. All of these are completely false, obviously. Still there is something to be learned from this. Redheads make up a very small portion of the world's population. We are a real minority. We have been discriminated against in the past, teased, hated and persecuted, and all because we were born with red hair, because we were born different.

I know, this no longer stands true. Unless you are a child on the playground, there is no real, clear-cut discrimination against redheads. Children can be cruel. Children tend to pick on anyone who is different. It is just a fact of life. We can teach our children to be tolerant, teach them that everyone is unique and special, but at the end of the day, children will still be children.

Generalizations Are Silly

Are redheads evil? No, of course we aren't. Do redheads have fiery tempers? Some do and some don't. Is it true of the statement, that redheads are fiery in the bedroom? Again, some are and some aren't. Those types of silly statements make me laugh. Most generalizations about a group of people do.

Personally, I am no more evil than anyone else. I guess everyone has some capacity for evil in them. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, as I know I have. Do I have a fiery temper? Sometimes. Sometimes when something really offends me, or goes against something I truly believe in, I tend to take a stand and speak out against it. Do I get mad when I have been hurt? Of course, but then, who doesn't? As for whether I am fiery in the bedroom, that is not a matter I chose to discuss. That is information for me only, and the person I share my bed with.

Good and Bad Representation in the Media

Television and movies tend to perpetrate the idea that redheads are evil. The redheaded character on Desperate Housewives certainly seemed capable of evil. Poison Ivy, the sexy female villain from the Batman comics, movies and the television show was a redhead. Redheads seduce, manipulate and corrupt.

Television and movies have also shown how great redheads are. Redheads are sexy, smart, funny and beautiful. Unfortunately, I never got to see much of that growing up.

Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead

— Lucille Ball

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Coming to Terms With My Hair

As I got older, and I learned more about the world and more about myself, I grew to love my hair. I love it for the very reason that I hated it when I was growing up; because I was different. I am unique. I often get complimented on my gorgeous red hair. Men are intrigued by my red hair, but with that, I often have to deal with dumb questions. "Is that your real hair color?" "Does the carpet match the drapes?" Stupid questions from stupid people. I guess it helps to weed out the idiots.

I was right on one thing that I said as a child. I do dye my hair. I don't dye it blonde or brown, though. I dye it in order to keep the red. In the summers, my hair lightens to the point that I am almost blonde. So, I dye it to keep the fading to a minimum. I have grown to love my hair color. I am now proud to be a redhead. After all, the saying is true, Gentlemen prefer blondes, but it takes a real man to handle a redhead. I would never want to be blonde. There are too many of them out there. Why would I want to be just like everyone else?

Red hair.

Red hair.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2008 Anna Marie Bowman


red devil on January 16, 2020:

but whats wrong with connections with satan or devils? Devils are good. Are they hunt for good people? no, they hunting bad people, so whats the problem? why people connect devil with evil? devils beat the shit of bad people, good people have nothing to worry about.

RK on October 14, 2019:

The silent majority, victims if you will, are the red-heads.

Have you noticed? Ugly kids on TV, the bullies, the *itchy girl, ugly dolls--all have red hair? I have. And what about the saying "red-headed stepchild". Oh yeah. I've heard it all.

I was looking at the Container Store online catalog today. They have a gadget that cleans microwaves. Of course it is an ugly woman with redhair. Why not blonde/gray/black? These things are subtle and they are real.

v. on September 02, 2018:

My mother told me once she just wanted her child to be healthy and not redheaded. Both failed. She told me, too, that she tried to dye my hair naturally lighter by salty seawater and sunlight. :')

Another memory is, that during school time for Fasching/carnival every girl in my class was dressed as a princess - but I was always a witch. And I didn't understand, why the reason should be my red hair. I didn't want to be different.

At that time I really wanted to have blond hair and as soon as possible, I dyed my hair. Later followed by blue, and then mahaghoni, but in the end I wanted my "right" hair color back.

Now I'm 22 years old, a "real" redhead again and in love with the color of my hair - for the same reasons you mention in your text. (thank you)

It took some time, but finally I'm glad (and proud) to be the way I am.

“Red ginger oranges and on and on” on June 19, 2018:

This explains my life so well!!! I am one of 2 natural red heads in my entire grade. I’m 13, and I get teased a little bit about my hair... but I am pounded with questions!!!!!! My hair is ginger with white brown and a little orange in it, but who calls a girl pepprica??!?!? I mean seriously!!! Facially wise if I hide my hair in a be it you’d expect to see a Burnett. My eyes are dark brown my lashes are black and my brows are brown.

I appreciate this so much, I finally have people I can relate with about my hair color, and I think this might start a more positive turn on my firey colored life

Angela on May 14, 2018:

ok so this explains my like so much its scary.

Sunny Holberton on February 02, 2018:

I love my red hair! Nobody ever teases me and I have lots of friends. I also have blue eyes, which is the rarest combination, by the way. My hair doesn’t affect my social life or any opportunities. I just think it’s so cool, that out of all the people that could have red hair, God blessed me with it.❤️

D on August 17, 2017:

I hate it I have lots of friends very social person but still I get at least a comment every day. I just wish it was brown. People that I don't know look at me like I'm different and ugly.

Moe on February 09, 2017:

I hate being a 13 and i always get bullied...whenever im arguing with someone the way the argument ends everytime is "but ur a ginger" and that apparently tops everything i say and everybody listening to the argument laughs super hard and makes fun of me...believe me being ginger is a curse

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on January 14, 2017:

I know how you feel. It took me years to embrace it. I dye my hair now, to make it an even more shocking shade of red, and I love it!!

froot loops on December 27, 2016:

I hate being ginger :( everyone always says how 'unique' and 'different' it is, but that's exactly what I don't want!! I want to be normal and blend in with the crowd, I'm really introverted and having red hair really sucks.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on December 26, 2016:

Erin Go Braugh!!!

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on December 26, 2016:

Redheads are making a resurgence in popularity.

Steve Nolan on November 30, 2016:

Sorry to those with bad experience. I'm the opposite I was married to a Woman with strawberryish/aubernish you know. My best friend and I suspect my last and only real love. Unfortunately for me she left after 14 years. I still find such beauty. To the extreme I am not as much attracted to other hair colors. Even after she treated me bad. I don't expect you to believe me. I am sure it could happen with any creed, hair color, etc.. So finally, ladies, hold you head up and try to be what you are. There's a reason your 1-2 % your just that pretty. Plus your prob native or decedent of Wales, Ireland, Scotland and with this your already awesome. Take care. Erin Go Braugh. ☘️

Blondes on November 16, 2016:

God, I wish so bad to have blonde hair. I really hate my red hair, pale skin, and all the bullying I received as a kid. People with blonde hair are always so beautiful and always the first choice. I feel like I'm always a second choice when it comes to dating, no one likes redheads.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on April 10, 2016:

You are most welcome!

Lara Schmidt on April 06, 2016:

Thank you, Anna Marie! :)

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on February 24, 2016:

Lara, I am so sorry that you experiences are so severe. I hope you find a way to make peace with it all, or at least, opt to dye your hair.

Lara Schmidt on February 20, 2016:

As someone who has spent a lifetime with red hair, my feelings about it aren't very good. Frankly, it has held me back from certain opportunities and has caused people to treat me differently, and not in a good way. The ostracism I faced during childhood still lingers, but it more subtle ways. For example, I'm smirked at in trendy clothing stores, stared rudely at in other public places, and am excluded from many social structures. In many places where I've worked, people have intentionally excluded me from gatherings and other social events. Never mind the fact that I'm kind to everyone; my hair is a huge turnoff.

The worst was my senior year of high school, when I was excluded from Senior Week by the people I thought were my friends. It turned out no one wanted the ugly red-haired girl with them to bring them down and make them look bad. At around this time in my life, I was dating a young man I was very much in love with. He promised we'd get married as soon as I graduated. A few months later, he drifted out of my life without saying goodbye. I never did learn why, but in my heart, I know there was a hot-to-trot blonde or brunette waiting for him in the wings.

I felt deep sorrow when both my cousin's kids were born with red hair. I know how hard life is going to be for these sweet children, and it breaks my heart.

I can't understand women who say they would kill for my hair color. They have absolutely no idea what they're talking about. They have no clue that this ugly color will condemn them ridicule and ostracism, plus a host of poor life chances.

Of course, I could color my hair brown and attempt to lead some semblance of a normal life. But that would be a time and money issue, as I don't feel like running to the colorist every four to six weeks for a touch-up. So I've learned to live with it, even though in my darker moments I contemplate suicide. I'm tired of the hard life this color has brought.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on September 02, 2014:

Kristina-- My sisters are both blonde. It's strange that I ended up as a redhead, because no one on my father's side of the family had red hair.

KristinaMPitts on August 30, 2014:

Red headed people do have blonde headed offspring and vice versa. My great grandmother was a red head (ginger to be exact) but all of her kids were born blonde. My natural hair color is a dark auburn. Which is a shade of red. I used to hate it too but not as much as I hated my curly hair.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on February 19, 2014:

ANUB1S-- It is strange that there would be anti-redhead racists in Ireland. Thank you for your comments. I agree, kids are just cruel.

ANUB1S on February 16, 2014:

I was teased mercilessly as a kid, and I'm not a redhead. Kids are just cruel in general. You mentioned that Poison Ivy is a redhead, but did you know that Batgirl is a redhead, too?

Hopefully you know now that redheads are the most desired women in the world. When you grow up, it turns into a blessing, not a curse. Well, in Ireland, there are anti-redhead racists, but secretly, they're all jealous.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on February 02, 2014:

Roy-- I am so sorry that you feel this way. I hate to see anyone suffer or see anyone in pain. If you feel comfortable with it, would you consider dying your hair? That is something you can do that will hide your hair color. It's not permanent, but it's something. I don't suggest something like that unless you are really unhappy. It's an easy thing to do yourself, or you could seek the help of a stylist. I hope you find happiness either way. As for your wife, she married you for who you are.

Roy on January 31, 2014:

Thanks for the article, I'm 33 years old man with redhead, and I want to say this, being a woman with red hair is not too bad, I would not hate it if I were a woman, but let me tell you, being a man with red hair is fu**ing terrible. I really hate myself, and I agree to what Chris said, we should stop this damn Gene from moving on..I have got married recently, and I got crazy when my bride met my handsome "normal" brother..can you believe it? I hate myself, and so I hate my two brothers who are not redhead..I hate my father for bringing me to this world, and specially my fu**ing redhead grandma who is the real reason for my misery...I have had all my life suffering from this "illness with no cure"..lucky people with big noses they can do surgeries and fix we can't! I have though of suiciding many times..I know someday I will..I'm never afraid to die, I'm more afraid to suffer have more embarrassing situations..

Thanks for reading

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on January 11, 2014:

Christina-- Carrot cake is a new one, but if he is saying you are sweet, then take it as a compliment.

Christina Rain on January 11, 2014:

i have red hair but more orange then red i guess. Do you know why people make fun of redheads? Because i hate it when people always laugh at me. What do you think it means when a guy you like calls you carrot cake? he says im sweet like cake... its weird...

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on December 24, 2013:

Trinity-- I wish I could. If those around you who are supposed to be there to help you aren't listening, you need to find someone who will listen. It could be a parent, another relative, or maybe a teacher. Find someone who will help you. I wish there were more that I could do for you.

Trinity Borja on December 23, 2013:

I am 13 years old, i am bullied every single day becuase im a ginger. People always call me "Carrot top", "Ginger" and always call me ugly. People judge me by my hair. I have no control over my hair color, every one says i should die it but then they say "wait EWW NO you'll be ugly" my own friends make fun of me. People are so mean to me, i have talked to guidance counselors and i even talked to the principals, they don't do anything all they say is to ignore it but you cant when your walking down the hall and people say "CARROT!!!!! HAHA" i have cried many times i don't know what to do? can you help me?

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on August 12, 2013:

Meg--That is usually how it goes. If something is more common, there is less reason to tease someone about it. I think I was one of only a few redheads in my whole school.

Meg on August 09, 2013:

Considering how many great leaders were redhaired, perhaps people fear the power they suspect is inherent in it? I got teased a bit in school about it, but it was cursory, and most of the teasing that went on was not about hair color. Perhaps it is different in the US. My experience has been that people tend to respond positively to red hair, here. It seems truly odd that that should be the case, when the UK boasts a much larger percentage of redheads. It makes no sense to have a stigma against something so commonplace there. My husband absolutely loves my red hair, and I have been accustomed all my life to getting lots of attention of a positive sort, because of it.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on July 08, 2013:

Gabby--I am with you. I have had people tell me, "Oh, you would be so much prettier if your hair were a different color." I hate that.

Gabby on June 02, 2013:

i love my red hair. but when people say my hair is ugly and that i cant hang out with them because I'm different just makes me want to stand up for myself and tell them their not special or perfect, but I'm to shy to even confront them. and if god didn't want me like this i would be different than i am now, but no matter what, he always has my back. and i love who i am:)

but i HATE being called ginger i mean really they are putting us into a category.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on January 10, 2013:

Dynamite-- I am glad you had such a positive response to being a redhead!!!

Dynamite Red on December 02, 2012:

Being a redheaded is the best thing, its like being an unpaid celebrity, you are always noticed even if you have eczema all over your face people take and interest they are curious like we are really different and I have come to believe we are unique and quite a conversation piece and I have a brother whose redheaded we are stilled adored for are red heads even though they are going grey and I color mine Its to bad I didn't do hair commercials because its all I ever heard and still do OMG you have such beautiful red hair! I was never picked on

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on July 24, 2012:

Taylor-- I always wanted blonde hair when I was a kid so I could do things like put streaks in my hair, or dye it funky colors, but in order to do that with the hair I had, I would have to bleach it first. I guess we all have issues and things we don't always like about ourselves. My mom always told me the same thing about my hair, that people paid good money to get hair like mine.

Taylor Grey on July 18, 2012:

Its funny because I have ALWAYS adored red hair, I'm a natural blonde and was born with white hair. So white I couldn't even see my eyebrows. As I grew older I always wished I had been born a redhead, I put copper streaks in my hair, bright candy apple red streaks, but never fully dyed my hair. My mom always told me people paid money to get my hair color that comes naturally. But in reality, I would pay money to have red hair as funny as that sounds. So I told myself, if my hair ever turned brown (like my moms and dads had) I would dye it red like I always wanted it to, but it hasn't and probably never will. I'm 21 now and still just as blonde as ever, but the redhair- I would have been so happy to have been born with it. My grandmother had it and so did one of my aunts, but not me. I think redhair is absolutely stunning and beautiful and in my eyes you are so lucky you were born with it. :) But I understand why you would feel how you do, I was teased because emy hair was so so blonde. So I know the feeling, but I still love redhair always have and always will. I envy you.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on July 11, 2012:

R-- I wish there were more I could say to help you. I know several redheaded men who embrace their hair, and have no problem with women. I wouldn't say they are incredibly good looking, but they are far from ugly. I don't know how it works for some men and not for others.

R on July 10, 2012:

I'm a redheaded man. In grammar school things weren't so bad. In high school people started mocking me, didn't have many friends, and always got picked last for teams etc. Now I'm 27. Girls completely ignore me, even seem to shun me, and when I ask one out the answer is always no, even though I'm not that ugly (at least nowhere near as ugly as carrot top). I don't think I've ever had a compliment regarding my hair. I spend a lot of time convincing myself of my worth, buffing my self confidence and fighting depression, as I get no support at all from my peers. I never talk to anyone about it except my parents, and always try to appear confident, as there is nothing I hate so much as people 'feeling sorry' for me, impliying that you're a loser. For me, it doesn't get better with time at all. In fact it gets worse; more dumb comments, more frustration with women and more isolation in general.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on June 28, 2012:

ME!!-- The tops of carrots are green, really. LOL! My daughter's hair is that way, a little bit of a lot of different colors. I get those same questions all the time. It does get old. I agree with you, making judgements about someone based on hair color, or any other feature or difference, is just stupid.

ME!! on June 14, 2012:

when someone calls me a carrot top i say my hairs red not orange get it right.

My dad has black hair mom has blonde and so does my sis but i have red at most and i have black and blonde and brown and my mom said she even found white and i'm only 15. my hair looks really red and in the summer i have natural blonde highlights, my hair is extremely thick and curly.

the question i get most is is it my natural hair color? and is it naturaly curly? and yes to both why do they keep asking?

i looked up red head and i seen that they say red heads are crazy and ugly and all cinds of different thing but for the most part i don't believe them it is cinda like calling a blonde dum i mean really?

i find that humans are hard on people who don't look like them but a person is a person right?

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on April 10, 2012:

bill yon-- I don't think I have ever met someone who was black and had red hair. You are truly unique!!

bill yon from sourcewall on April 09, 2012:

I'm black I come from a mixed background. I was born with a red afro and freckles, and of course my nick name is red when I turned 13 my red hair turned black. My nick name is still red and when people ask me how did I get the name red I tell them I used to be a redhead and they cannot believe it. Sometimes I miss my red hair I liked being a ginger there was only two of us in elementary school and his hair changed to blonde when mine changed to black.Now the black is changing to grey so there you go.....

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on March 31, 2012:

Ol Rappaport-- Thank you for sharing this! I love learning about how other countries and cultures view red hair. It's better than people spitting on you and thinking you are evil.

Ol Rappaport on March 27, 2012:

In Morocco where they have a tradition that you can dye your hair with henna after you make the hajj to Mecca, and if you make the pilgrimmage twice you can dye your beard red too. But if you are born with red hair you are blessed by Allah from birth.

I was born with red hair and I spent my first ten years in Morocco so I grew up with a sense of my hair making me special. When I came to England people tried to tease me about it, but it never worried me because I knew they were wrong.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on March 24, 2012:

Kiki-- I loved reading your comment!! You are absolutely right!! I agree that all the teasing and torture I went through made me who I am today, and while I do still have my insecurities, I have overcome most of them, and used all of that to make me stronger, and I can laugh it off now. Congrats to you and your girlfriend!!! Best wishes!

Kiki on March 22, 2012:

I know the pain you go through as a kid with red hair etc... I have copper hair, dark brown eyes and freckles and got all the usual name calling. But as Scozzo said in his comment this name calling only helped me build character and unbelieveable charm! Sometimes I look at some of my friends and think MAN if you had half my charm you would be lethal with the ladies. I'm in my late 20's and have a hot amazing girl friend that I know all my friends are jealous of.. its all about character and charm it doesn't matter what color you are. I know its very easy to remember all the bad things people have said to you but thing of the good things. Life is too short to worry about what other people thing.. life your live to the full... don't have regrets... don't waste time...

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on March 20, 2012:

Mark-- I know what you mean. It is weird how it's more acceptable to tease someone for having red hair and freckles, but if you tease someone for having a different skin color, religion, etc, it is potentially punishable. They even have "Kick a Ginger Day". If they had "Kick a Mexican Day" or "Kick a Muslim Day", there would be major outcry, and hours upon hours of news coverage regarding it.

Mark on March 20, 2012:

Isn't it weird? For some reason its socially acceptable to tease/torment/pick on kids with red hair freckles yet if you did the same about a person's skin colour or religion etc you'd be branded racist, discriminatory etc. Some might say that it makes us tougher having to deal with it and this might be the case for some people. However others may not be as lucky and forever have their confidence crushed and never really grow out of feeling marginalised.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on March 02, 2012:

Lacey-- Don't go blond!!! Trust me!!!

Lacey on March 01, 2012:

I'm a natural redhead, and not just a strawberry-blonde redhead, but a vibrant copper-top! I can relate entirely with everything that was written, as I was teased ceaselessly throughout school. I'm 25 years old now, and still have not come to the point where I embrace my hair colour. I feel "on display" so to speak whenever I go anywhere, and cannot stand it. I've been told time and time again that it's gorgeous, and I am beautiful, but thanks to those wonderful people who teased me my whole life for having it, I find it hard to believe.... It's a nice boost to read all of these positive comments about redheads. Thanks to all who embrace us :)....but I still want to try platinum, lol.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on February 28, 2012:

Ben--Strange that you would be the first in your family with red hair. I love your attitude!!!

Ben on February 27, 2012:

Ok im 13 and ginger i luv my hair and i was the first in my family :) so to all thos gingers out their keep your hair as it is it looks amazing :)

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on February 17, 2012:

Meghan-- I do know that some teasing is affectionate.

Meghan on February 16, 2012:

Thank you and to be called a Ginger means everyone likes you

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on February 16, 2012:

Meghan-- I love your attitude!!! Thank you for sharing this! More people need to embrace this attitude, no matter what issues they are dealing with! We all need to learn to love ourselves!

Meghan on February 15, 2012:

I'm a red hrs and I love it I'm 13.. Though I do get called soulless I say back yes but each freckle represents a soul I have taken.. Also Ginger isn't bad it's a nickname get over it. A guy called me cute red as a nickname and guys do LOVE their redheads.. I have a firery temper, but that's cuz of the way I grew up.. I'm irish and so far the only redhead in my family.. In fact my shade of red is one of the rarest which not only makes me more desirable but also unique and different and it's boring to be the same as everyone.... Embrace the Ginger don't dis or kill yourself just know when you get older everyone will love you and I was never really harshly teased at school cuz of my hair and a Ginger is very popular, also i know a girl who is layer back and quiet the very opposite of all descriptions!!!! So just live with it or dye it but you shouldn't( I'm not saying you can't) just red hair is a sign of strength and rebellion, not the devil or craziness!

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on February 13, 2012:

Deanna-- It is pretty easy to tell a dye job from a natural redhead, though some who dye their hair do have great stylists who make it look so real! I dye my hair now, only because it gets too light in the summer. It never looks quite right until about November...

deanna on February 13, 2012:

and yes.... redheads are better:-P

deanna on February 13, 2012:

I am a readhead and also have an uncle that calls me red. i don't mind it. as a child i hated my red hair and started dying it when i was in my late teens. i discovered you cant find my color in a box or even at a salon. i wont make that mistake again.i have grown to love my hair. a lot of people dye their hair red these days but its easy to tell a natural redhead from someone that dyed their hair.

Lily on January 19, 2012:

I hate all types of name calling. But no one really ever gets mad about blondes being called dumb all the time. Brunettes have it so easy, they're supposedly the perfect ones. Redheads are better;)

Lizzy on January 19, 2012:

I've always wanted red hair, like really red. Sadly I can't even dye it, it'd clash with my skin tone. But I must point out the only reason there's so many blondes is because of dye, if it's natural you get people asking about it.

brandi on December 21, 2011:

Being a redhead guys think they can tell me anything they want about my hair. Been called a demon who stole the fire from hell, a temptress sent by Satan. It goes on and on but I love being a redhead never much of one to blend into the crowd I'm just happy to know others get strange comments also

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on December 20, 2011:

Ines-- I know a lot of other people who go through phases like that. They dye their hair often, and every time I see them, their hair is a different color. Red hair works on some people, and not so well on others. I am glad you are happy being a redhead by choice.

Tom-- Sometimes what I write is a bit tongue-in-cheek. I try not to take myself too seriously. Historically, yes, redheads were seen as evil. Some of that has carried on over the years. Stereotypes are silly, but that doesn't mean that they don't hurt sometimes.

Tom on December 20, 2011:

Forgive me, but I can't help but to feel this is some mamby-pamby feel-good post.

I had red hair when I was a kid. My hair is mostly brown now though... still a little bit of red... but not much. I was never teased for my hair. I was complimented on it though. I miss my red hair. Brown feels too plain to me. I've never thought of redheads being portrayed as evil before. Maybe I didn't notice? I like how you say redhead stereo-types are silly... but close out with one. Seems like a jest, to me... but still sounds kinda stupid.

Ines on December 18, 2011:

I see the post has been here for years but comments are going strong. :)

I'm a redhead by choice but I also grew up hating the color (and consistency of my hair). The color of my hair is ash blonde and when I say ash I do actually mean that. It's somewhere between blonde and brown and looks greyish (mousey). My grandmother used to say that it was the color of hazelnuts but I still believe it lacked the necessary color except for ashiness.

Anyway, I went through phases where I've been blonde and then brunette and somehow step by step I ended as a redhead. :)

So, I'm not a natural redhead but the color feels right. :) Except for my natural hair years, it's the longest I've been in a single color (I'd say some 8-9 years now).

The funny thing is, I have the skin tone that makes people think I'm a natural redhead with enhanced color (as I'm pale with pink cheeks and a tendency to freckles in the sun).

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on December 07, 2011:

Dilligaf-- Redheads are different. They have been treated differently for centuries.

Jade-- I am glad you have such a great attitude towards your hair color. I wish I had felt the same way when I was younger.

Tiffany-- I imagine red hair is incredibly rare in Asians, unless it is dyed. Thank you for your comments!!

Bridget-- Great attitude!!

Alex-- I have gotten a lot of responses from redheaded men. I know it is a little harder for redheaded men than it is for women...

Jojo-- Well congrats to your step-daughter!! I, too, am pregnant, and also hoping for a redhead!! I have red hair, and the father's mother had red hair, so keeping my fingers crossed!!

winnie-- make sure you let her know that!!

Wauwa-- I agree!!

Morgan-- I know your pain!! I have never been able to tan, either! And, my sisters are blonde as well.

can i rub your head-- First off, congrats on surviving cancer! My grandfather died of melanoma. I love your attitude!! I would never wish to have been born anything else than what I am, either!!

Chris-- Thank you. I think women do have issues with dating redheaded men. Though I do know a few that do very well in that department.

Chris on December 04, 2011:

Good article, I think a lot women have problems with dating red heads. That is the impression I get anyway!

can i rub yer head on December 02, 2011:

I was never teased as a kid, I was always told I was a strawberry blond by my mom.

Wow, doesn't that make me feel special...

My aunt said she went running to my mother when I was born to exclaim the words "you've got a redhead, knowing her, it was akin to something other than auspicious.

I have heard the questions in college, " do the curtains match the drapes", disliked these the most. Never totally understood if that was to be an insult or an opening "creepy" pick up line. The questioner always seemed to be awaiting a response..

I am now much older, and still telling people I an a redhead, whilst they examine my cranium, they reflect, " but you're a blond" Yes, red, fades, mine to the lightest blond ever, with grey hi-lites better yet.

The most discerning bit about being a ginger, my love of the sun, and our swimming pool. Yes, I had to be dragged out of it daily, to eat lunch, rest, etc.

Now, at 50, and having a scar on my forearm from skin cancer, I resolve, that even though I am still a ginger, redhead, grey-haired mid centurion, I would not have wished to have been born, anything else.

Morgan(((: on November 29, 2011:

I stumbled across this because I actually googled how to be tan because I'm a red head and I'm very pale! I'm glad that someone else talks about being a redhead because I feel so odd being one, seeing how my sisters are blond and none of my friends have red hair. I just don't know how to see myself as pretty, being red headed with extremely pale skin and eyes that decide to be weird and change from bright green to blue. It's frustrating, but I love what you said lol

Wauwa on November 29, 2011:

BTW everyone gingers do have souls!!!! I am not ginger but I am strawberry blonde/red haired. So ignore all the nasty things people say about people with ginger hair! They r just probably jelous!!!

winnie on November 29, 2011:

I love red heads! They are AWESOME

My best friend is a red head and she's GORJUS

JoJo on November 26, 2011:

I have a 22 yr old stepdaughter Amber who has beautiful red hair and whilst she got called all the names under the sun at secondary school she absolutely loves her hair now and is expecting a baby in the new year and is desperate the baby has red hair. I have a 15 yr old teenage boy who too has red hair and is gorgious. In fact most of the boys in his year at school can not believe how he has all the girls after him more so then them and "hes a ginger!!"

When they were little they would ask why they had red hair and i would reply that when they were babies the sun thought they were so beautiful he came down and kissed them, hence why they had the sun in their hair ..... they both loved that story and would take great delight in telling their school friends.

I love their head it makes them stand out from the crowd. I have told them to use it to their advantage as they will always stand out and be noticed but in my sons case that has back fired at times ..... not good when your being cheeky to adults - they are bound to be the only one mentioned.

Red heads be proud !!

Alex on November 25, 2011:

Well that was a very good read and as a fellow redhead i can totally empathise with you although myself being a rehead guy i have found that as ive got older it hasn't gotten easier the people here are just as cruel as the children they produce. But im pleased to hear a story at last about someone who loves their hair colour and is proud of it good on you 8)

Bridget dvorak on November 24, 2011:

Never hated being red never will.. Hope my fire never fades ..

Tiffany on November 18, 2011:

Well, me as an Asian girl of Chinese descendant I always admire pople with ginger hair because I don't see much people have that hair color. I think it's really silly inded if there is someone who always like to spat ginger abuse just bcause of their hair color, this is the stupidest attempt that I ever known. There are many beautiful ginger girls that I ever seen as well as th not so ones, just like any other girls with other hair color. Once I ever seen a bautiful ginger girl with green eye and she made me enchanted. The whole ginger "stigma" must cut-off from now on, so gingers won't be an insult anymore but to be embraced.

Jade on November 11, 2011:

I have red hair -more red then orange- and I was teased all the time growing up about my hair and my freckles, but it never really effected me. I didn't really care what others said, even now I get random teenagers scream 'Ranger' from their cars as they drive by and I laugh, I think its funny that they even bother.

All my friends, family and even strangers say that I have lovely hair and they wish they had it too, that's all that really matters to me. The hurtful comment don't mean anything and people who go out of their way to say them are just jealous.

I think your hair is lovely and you are too, I'm glad that you love your hair now. :)

Dilligaf on November 09, 2011:

The problem is red heads think they are different...really no one cares about your precious hair color. Usually they develop a chip on their shoulder and feel they have something to prove to themselves. Please, the fact that you put this much time into thinking about your hair color already says something about your insecurities and ego.

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on November 05, 2011:

Izzy-- I had some trouble when I was younger finding clothes that looked good with my hair color and skin tone. I have found that I look good in orange, yellow, brown and green. I also love turquoise. It isn't the first color choice for most redheads, but I love the way it looks with my hair. I hope this helps!

chris-- I don't like the idea of genetically engineering children. It can be taken way too far. I understand that it might be beneficial to weed out certain genetic defects, birth defects, and that sort of thing, but in general, it is the little differences that make us unique. It would be boring if we all looked exactly the same.

Laney-- It is a struggle. I understand this better than most. Don't dye your hair!! Be proud of who you are!! Listen to those people that tell you that you are gorgeous!! Most of the others are just jealous, or trying to get your attention. If you didn't have red hair, kids would find some other reason to tease's just what kids do. The South Park thing really added to it, I know. Play up your red hair. Wear clothes that really work well with your hair color, and maybe wear some makeup that will play up another feature that you are more proud of. It will take attention off your hair, and play on your natural beauty. Find someone you can talk to when things get rough. It helps, it really does. A close friend who understands you and supports you can put things in amazing perspective.

Laney Bruno on November 04, 2011:

Hi, i am a red head with like so many freckles, and blue eyes... i am in eighth grade right now and get made fun of almost everyday because, how much i hate to say it, i am a ginger. I hate it so much people tell me i am gorgeous and that they are jealous of my hair and would love to trade with me. At this point i would like to. Guys make fun of me they call me a ginger, say i have no soul and call me ugly and that no guy will ever like me. I know this is not true but it is very hard to go through. All this night i have been trying to find something that will help me. This is very helpful. Just like you I would love to dye my hair and my uncle, he calls me red. So basically I was wondering if you had any suggestions on how to get through the school year?

chris on October 29, 2011:

Unfortunately it sounds elite'ist but yes, well... Im not sayin they shouldn't, just use the whole gm stuff, you can use it to change eye, hair, height, skin tone, why not just get rid of the gene. easier fir eveyone

Izzy on October 29, 2011:

Also, just to add as I just read Chris' comment. I am in no way fiery because of my hair colour and how people made fun of it. Instead I've turned out shy with low confidence because of these comments. Also maybe if there wasn't people like you in the world these apparent 'fiery' gingers wouldn't be so fiery because they wouldn't get these comments?

Izzy on October 29, 2011:

I used to hate my red hair as for one thing people used to walk past me at school and say 'ginger' and then laugh.. and I know it probably sounds like nothing but to have someone judge you by just the way you looked upset me and really knocked my confidence! But now I'm older I hardly care that I have red hair and just feel like everyone else, the only thing I struggle with now is finding the right colour clothing to suit me without making me look washed out lol. Also people seem to find it suitable to talk about 'Does the carpet match the drapes?' (nicest way to put it, ha) and at least us redheads with quite a light colour don't have to pluck our eyebrows so much because they're so light ;)

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on October 29, 2011:

weary-- I don't know a large number of men with red hair, but I know a few, and out of the few I do know, a few of them are good looking.


Ashley-- I agree.

Sarah-- Teasing is a big deal. You are absolutely right. Thank you!

pj-- My hair is naturally wavy. I would love curly hair. I had really curly hair when I was little...I looked like Little Orphan Annie...LOL

chris-- So you are saying redheads shouldn't have children, just so they don't have redheaded kids who might get teased...WTF??? That is like saying people with any other trait that gets discriminated against or teased shouldn't have kids. Like saying people who wear glasses shouldn't have kids, because their kids might need glasses or something stupid like that...yes, you are kind of a jerk...sorry...

pj on October 15, 2011:

So it looks to me as if your hair is straight. Beautiful straight hair. Hair that when you brush it, it looks brushed. When you pick a lock up, it falls back into place. Another "hair prejudice"; curly hair. I am blonde, dark blonde now, with some of the frizziest hair in the world. My hair is fine and light-weight. When I pick it up, it only falls back down half-way. It defies the laws of gravity.I was called frizz-ball, brillo pad, kinky, and have been asked many times if I stuck my finger in a socket. I can't brush my hair:the volume increase 100-fold. I wonder if there are less of us frizz-heads than red-heads? Thank goodness for some better hair products these days. All I had growing up was Dippety-Do.

Sarah on October 11, 2011:

First of all I want to say that I myself (now 25) was indeed at school a 'ginge' my hair was a light shade of red with blonde streaks and dark underneath which looked awesome all multicoloured, I started to dye it along with my other friends at tht age, a group of us 4 we wer all popular (not being bigheaded) just because we wer al confident and nice girls! I now regret ever dying it as I have got older my hair is a dull dark colour and I find myself dying it to red to get some ginger tones back as all the streaks have gone!

Fact- I was teased a few times n got called Ginger- My friend was teased a few times n got called 'Grey hound and a mouse'-my other friend was teased n got called 'fatty'- My other friend was teased and got called 'piggy' because of the shape of her nose, each and every one of us recalled getting 'picked on' as all kids at some point do. My point is every time one of us was teased or picked on by the bullie it hurt us all individually for our own reasons which we probably never understood unless it was ourselves, As an adult I find that all shapes and sizes, hair colours, skin colours, face shapes etc.. make us all different and intreeging in our own way, GIRLS....Tip for the opposite sex, yes they will say ur ginger as they follow the minority group so they don't get picked on, get a good response like yea n shes blonde? or shes brunnette? or say well ur friggen ugly n ur not ginger so what's ur reason?? GUYS.. yes unfortunately u have 2 take the piss more of urself but this is intreeging to girls, U can become the funny confident one to win the girls and when yu find a partner you show each other ur other qualities as we all do when we try to win people around!

I sorry this is an essay i just want every1 2 know it's a huge deal to you n i understand but 1 day It wont be, something els will be unfortuntelly and ul prob wish just 2 be called Ginge again. good luck EVERY1 Thru life ENJOY IT!!

Ashley on September 28, 2011:

Miguel you should get a life

Miguel on September 19, 2011:

So.......does the carpet match the drape?

weary on August 22, 2011:

Wow. I never saw your last section about coming to terms with it. I skipped too fast to the comment section :O

I dislike the summers too as it lightens my hair. Winter is great where I live (far north), pretty much darkness for several months and by that I get such a rich dark wibe to it :D

Being a redheaded girl must be funnier I think. A lot of guys adore it, not to mention girls find it cool as well. Long ginger hair is also better than short, since it adds power, and gets through in a better way if you know? You can also use makeup. Really glad you enjoy the attention after the struggle =) Sometimes I do too. But only sometimes. Being different is cool. I like it. Being different in a "mostly known as ugly" way to a lot of people is not.

Because I ask you, and this is truth for most people. Do you know many handsome, truly good-looking, redheaded guys? Most don't. Some even neglect the possibility of it ever happening! So.. when Im in a bad mood, and Im in a bad light, and I see the fugly coloring. It gets to me =(

Have you tried gingerbooth? The software that makes a persons portrait picture ginger.! Or, try imagine average looking guys as ginger. Its quite freaky actually. Not many at all could pull it off if you ask me. Making a redheaded guy hot from an objective standpoint is very difficult.

Another thing. Say I was to go to Asia. Like, Japan, maybe, INDIA!? I would like to travel without a big fuzz around my hair, which Im sure it would make. Then I'd be really tempted to just take it away for a while, because those people go crazy over it.

This may come off as whiny, and it kind of is whine. Its obvious I haven't come to terms with it completely myself. One thing though. I don't cut it away. I want to master it.

As a kid I felt very distanced from looking good. Living with that belief for such a long time, it's true poison for a young boys mind. It's something one shouldn't even have to be thinking about! But girls were never really interested despite my overall awesomeness, and that confirmed it very well for me. Something had to be done. So, I actually let it grow. And I tried to wear it like I was proud of it. I never was really was, maybe it showed, so I mostly ended up in misery. But as years passed, I was sometimes able to see the niceness in it every now and then.. so

Like loneliness only has one cure, this hair is in need of the same treatment. It's love! So with all the hate, neglection, uglyness and whatnot this hair will be faceing, it will also face love from others and myself. Yes. There will be fond thoughts. Those thoughts I have to truly treasure!

It's kinda like telling a girl with anorexia it's ok to eat. But. Who knows. Maybe with time.

Sorry, for long wall of text. To make it easier on you somehow, if you even read this (lol). Im going shopping clothes very soon. Dark blue is my definite favorite. Darkish blue is one of the colors I can wear on torso to nicely accompany my eyes and hair! I heard about dark green also. But I was never convinced. What colors do you like?

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on August 21, 2011:

weary-- When I wrote this, I was coming to terms with issues I was facing regarding my hair color. I guess we all have our own journey to self-acceptance regarding various issues we have. I agree, it does tend towards the superficial. There are a lot of great things about me, and you as well, I am sure, that have nothing to do with superficial issues like hair color and skin tone.

weary on August 19, 2011:

Jacey. Tan or pale, neither I or colors will care :D I believe your pale can knock out most tanned girls. Its about wearing it as ones own. Sometimes you don't even know it yourself, but to others... A simple trait like paleness can be a big, big turnon. So can my red hair, I think, even if its with a "limited ammount of women!" who knows, maybe I'll turn a few doubters!

Screw the haters, shall we Jacey? We have a life to live!

Yeah Anna. This hair of mine, actually made me who I am. Theoretically. Say I could go back, and be a light-brown haired one. Would I do it? Would I have turned out differently? Im sure I'd be quite different somehow. That's scary to think about. A shame, kind of. Being directed by haircolor like that. There are pros and cons to this haircolor. But the way things turned out for me, I'd definitely do the switch. Hate to say it, but I would. The pain it caused me is too much. The few pros to having red hair, I would just have to be without =(

Unfortunately, I don't have such an offer. So I can only play with what I've got. Im gonna find my way to be comfortable with it, confident about myself as a _person_ again.

The twosidedness of this entire hair-complexity is annoying! So I wouldn't say I've ever turned my head around about it. I've had some goods and bads, there will still be. But at what point does it involve intoxication of my self-respect? This toxic is driven by pretty superficial stuff. Its a result of today's society, focus on looks, fitting in. We all loose touch with ourselves. That's been a big one for me. I've been so concerned about this. I forgot about shining from simply being myself.

Not gonna make a bigger wall of text this time. Thanks for the replies girls!

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on August 18, 2011:

weary-- Wow..that was quite a bit to read. Thank you for stopping by and leaving some in depth comments. I am glad you are turning your mind around on your red hair. A lot of what attracts girls is confidence...not too much confidence, mind you, but a healthy self respect. Work that and all the rest is details.

Jacey-- Ginger=spicy...I like that!!! I understand your frustrations with stereotypes, and I am sure there are a lot of other people who do as well.

Jacey on August 18, 2011:

@ weary: I'm not saying it isn't hard either way, I'm just saying that a lot of people think it's easy for blondes and kind of forget the stereotypes that come with it. Sorry if it came across that way, but I didn't mean to imply that redheads have it easy.

To be honest, I really don't know what its like for guys with red hair, and I can see how that would be hard. But, you even said at the end of your post that there are positives to being a redhead. If you're good-looking, then there's no reason to feel insecure about your red hair.

"Every sane human knows there is no link to haircolor and being stupid."

I'm 16 years old...not everyone my age is really mature enough to realize that, lol. I realize that it sounded like I said that a lot of people believe in the dumb blonde stereotype, and that wasn't what I meant. I just meant that beauty and brains aren't really associated with one another, and since blondes are generally pretty attractive, they can be judged a bit.

"Blondes on the other hand. Can use a lot of colors. Can look good in pretty much any lighting."

I believe you're thinking of tan blondes. I'm pale, and as a blonde that kind of made me fade into the background.

I didn't mean to say being a blonde was the worst possible thing. I'm just saying it's not perfect, like you and a lot of other people say it is. My post was partly a result of frustration with stereotypes of any kind. You might not think being called a dumb blonde is insulting, but it is to me. Just like I don't think "ginger" is a huge insult while you feel that it is.

I'm somebody that really doesn't care about looks, so it's just frustrating when people think that it's all you've got going for you. Everyone's gonna be judged for something, but if you're comfortable with yourself then don't worry about it!

P.S.: I always associated ginger with the spice, and therefore redheads=spicy! haha that's just what I think when I hear it so I always found the name harmless.

weary on August 18, 2011:

And its redhead! Not readhead. haha.

Also. I forgot to add. Im 21 years old now. So the "life ruined" is an overstatement. It has been hurting me for a lot of years. But I can turn this around, I really believe I can, sometimes.

I truly sympathize with Jeremiah. Me too, I've been so sad about it myself. To the point I feel like hell is growing on my head. I've dreaded it so much. And theres no escape from it. Even if you dye it, it'll just come back out for all eternity.

But Jeremiah! There are actually girls who will like you. Its all in our heads, mostly. Make the best of your features, who you are, and things will happen. Im sure.

Can you believe. The first girl I started talking to online. We had a very good tone. I had told her I was a redhead, and eventually she wanted my pics as well. The first thing she told me was, I quote, "YOUR HAIR IS AWESOME". After, she was definitely still interested. Though... she told me she didn't expect me to be "good looking" or whatever. This girl is actually one of the hottest girls I've encountered in me life. We met, I was unsecure, she still liked me and my hair. We hooked up.

This was such a mind-opener for me. If I could turn my red hair into a positive trait with the first girl I truly talked to online. Why shouldn't I be able to do it with tons of other girls?

Hope the doublepost is ok. Love from a wearied soul.

weary on August 18, 2011:

To Jacey.

I literally laughed out pretty bad reading your post. Every sane human knows there is no link to haircolor and being stupid.

"Believe me, nothing's worse than being a blonde growing up."

The blonde stereotype is nothing compared to the readheaded truth. I know opinions may vary, but Im a readhead myself. And the colors of a typical copper/orange ginger is not complimented by a whole lot... The color is not even intense, only with special lighting.

Blondes on the other hand. Can use a lot of colors. Can look good in pretty much any lighting. Oh wait. Did I mention, blondes are associated with being hot. Its "every guys" dream (ofc not all over the world, but you catch my drift) to be with a blonde.

As a copper-readhead, slightly brown/red. Being a guy. Im at the bottom of the foodchain with a whole lot of girls. Its devastating. Cause, Im sure I would be killer as light-brown haired. I get compliments every now and then with my current hair. But its very difficult to make it look good grown out as long I have it. (short is not an option, I wanna show everyone Im a readhead and able to rock it)

I only find it very difficult, and demoralizing at times. Its like a burden to me. Example, I don't even want to have kids. The thought of them turning out ginger like me. Im not comfortable with it. It breaks my confidence. What if they're not blessed with the overall good looks I have, they'll be one of those nasty gingerkids

Because all in all. The namecalling is NOTHING. Call me whatever. I don't mind it. What hurts the most is the fact my personal preferrence don't find my own gingerness appealing (very often) Its ok to mention. I say, very often. Because, as I stated before. My hair can look pretty awesome on occation. But its not enough to feed my confidence. When I cant even go shopping the clothes I would like to wear.

Ginger hair kind of ruined my life tbh. Its pathetic, I know. But it is true. The insecurity and the way it never pleased me set a lot of barriers for me.

So. I just wanted to tell Jacey that. I believe shes wrong telling anyone being a blonde is the worst possible thing. Dumb blonde. lol who gives a shit? Those silly comments are out of jealousy or envy, because blondes are top tier. Contrary... Ginger comments are very often true. Because gingers do not generally look good, especially guys. That's why its truly insulting. Theres also a big difference in having the red color of choice (like you), and being a true copper/red ginger.

Also, I don't like the word ginger. What's its origin? Like the root vegetable? the spice? like sort of filthy? I think ginger is very negatively bound these days. That's why I don't like it. Even when a friend tells me Im ginger, with a positive tone.

Myself. Im working on overcoming this. Im sometimes considering enhancing my red color. With sligthly more intensity, but Im a guy.. So Im not so sure about it. Also I wanna focus on being more than my looks. But I enjoy stuff like this, style, etc. I want to make the look of my own, a look Im satisfied with!

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on August 11, 2011:

Jacey-- I often wonder what it would be like to be a blond, or a brunette. It would be an interesting experiment.

Ellie-- Great points!! I don't understand why people feel the need to stereotype anyone, or call them hurtful names. I have never understood it. Guess I never will. Thank you for reading!

Ellie on August 11, 2011:

i've been called everything from ginger whore, to just ginger, and went through all the 'do the carpets match the drapes' comments, the 'call the fire deparment, your hairs on fire!' and finally, 'i heard red heads are feisty in bed, i wanna test it' growing up red haired is hard, but growing up any hair color is hard. My best friend Maria is blonde and she is called stupid and easy too, even though she is in all advanced classes, an all A student, and has been dating the same boy for two years. We all get bullied, every hair color has a steorytype.

Jacey on August 10, 2011:

To be honest, even though I am a natural blonde, I can't see myself going back to that color! It's interesting when you've been both, because you really do get treated differently. Red hair suits me, and it's great that you have a natural color that suits you, too. (:

Anna Marie Bowman (author) from Florida on August 10, 2011:

Jacey-- You are right. No one should be stereotyped because of anything about them. Each person is unique. I could never see myself as a blond. I just don't think it would suit me. Brunette, maybe, but even then, it might not look right. I have known many beautiful women with all shades of skin tone and hair color. It's just about what works for you. I understand your feelings about the whole idea of blondes being dumb. Some are, and some aren't. Same with everything.

Jacey on August 10, 2011:

I grew up as a blonde. It's way more difficult than being a redhead, trust me. Now that I'm in high school I've been called dumb, easy, and superficial, even though I'm none of those things. You'd be surprised at how many people believe the stereotype "dumb blonde."

I've been dyeing my hair red for about a year now, and trust me, hearing "dumb blonde" jokes is much worse than hearing the term "ginger." The term "ginger" really isn't that bad, by the way. All my friends call me that now and I really don't care. It doesn't imply anything bad about redheads. "Dumb blonde," however, does. While redheads are portrayed as feisty and brunettes as down-to-earth, blondes are simply portrayed as stupid. Some are, some aren't, but even the most intelligent people hold the belief that all of them are. Believe me, nothing's worse than being a blonde growing up.

I like my red hair better than my blonde hair. This is only because I think it suits me, there's nothing wrong with blonde hair. It's beautiful, just like brown hair, just like red hair. Saying you wouldn't want to be a blonde because its "too common" doesn't make any sense to me. Brown hair is more common than both blonde and red, but I've always wanted to dye it that color, and probably will after I'm done with my red phase. I'm not desperate to be different than everyone, I just think red hair suits me. I've got a hot temper and I am admittedly a little manipulative, but I was called stupid and superficial just because I was a blonde. By the way, the most gorgeous girl in my class is a brunette, and the ugliest is a redhead. On the other hand, I have a gorgeous friend, an exchange student from Chile, who has beautiful long, curly red hair.

Blonde, brown, black, and red hair can all be beautiful! I don't feel common just because I was born a blonde. I'm one of four girls, and both my parents and all my sisters have brown hair and brown eyes. I was the one who came out a green-eyed blonde. The rest of my family is olive-skinned, and though I am a natural blonde, I have VERY fair skin and freckles. Tanning is impossible for me, and I don't have the patience anyway.

Feel lucky that you've got beautiful red hair and just try not to stereotype others. I've met beautiful brunettes, stunning blondes, and gorgeous redheads. Everyone should love their hair even if it's not a rare color like red. (:

Ellie on August 09, 2011:

Thanks! I'm the only red head at my school so its really bad sometimes.

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