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The Silver Fox: Stunning Gray Hair Styles

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Once I reached the "over 50" mark, I knew it was time to embrace the idea of aging gracefully. I like to share beauty and health tips.

I love this cut which shows off the shine of silver hair to perfection.

I love this cut which shows off the shine of silver hair to perfection.

Gray Can Be Gorgeous

More women are discovering that allowing their hair to grow into natural gray is liberating. As one professional model, Maye Musk, put it, "Why didn't I do this 10 years ago?"

No, it isn't for every woman, but the ranks of those who choose freedom from chemical color and the tyranny of monthly touch-ups are growing! A new found confidence can come from those natural silver tones free from hair color chemicals.

More women today embrace their own sense of themselves when they allow their hair to become their natural gray color. Is the Silver Fox look for you?

Glamorous Gray

The whole package, from stylish cut, simply elegant clothing, and attractive well done makeup.

The whole package, from stylish cut, simply elegant clothing, and attractive well done makeup.

Highlight the Silvery Properties of your Gray Hair With Mild Silver Shampoo

This is the top product my readers are buying because it is mild and gentle on the hair while delivering beautiful results. I know I like that it is infused with vitamins.

Get A Great Cut

Short and Easy Care looks great in any weather or occasion. a professional cut makes styling easier and helps make the most of your crowning glory..

Short and Easy Care looks great in any weather or occasion. a professional cut makes styling easier and helps make the most of your crowning glory..

Target the Enemies of Healthy Hair - Especially Those That Dull and Yellow

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Get a 2-pack of this hair conditioner, styling creme.

Get a 2-pack of this hair conditioner, styling creme.

VO5 is tried and true and one of my personal favorites for moisturizing, giving sheen, and taming fly-aways. I used regular VO5 when I colored my hair, (better than "hair polishes") and then switched to the silver haired version. It is a quick way to shine up your strands while adding a silvery glow.

I now have longer length locks and the creme with blue tint holds my hair in place to reduce flyaways as well as give shine.

Good Bye Yellow

Internally, stress is one of the greatest enemies to your overall health, including your hair's health. Too much sun, vitamin deficiencies, illness are all on the list, but did you know that chemical dyes are too?

  • Shampoos that are harsh will make your hair feel dry, frizzy, and dull.
  • Using a yellowish-tinged shampoo or conditioner rather than a clear one may leave an offcast on your hair.
  • Smoking or sitting in a smoke-filled environment can lead to a yellowish cast also, which is very hard to remove.
  • Water with lots of iron content can stain the hair.
  • Chlorine in water reacts with sunlight to give a yellow tinge.
  • Oil buildup from your scalp can also cause discoloration.

You can counteract these effects by installing a filter on your shower, using hair products formulated for gray hair, and using a clarifying shampoo.

Gray Hair

Who knew it would become high style? And still a trend going strong in 2016, showing no signs of slowing down.

Aging Gracefully: Keeping Vibrancy and Beauty Alive

Salt and Pepper Hair Style

Salt and Pepper Hair Style

Salt and Pepper Smoothie

A great look for slat and pepper mixture is this sleek 'do. Serum will give you that silky smooth look. Very professional for worktime, but easy to keep for casual times. A sparkly barrette is all that is needed for special holiday occasions.

A great look for slat and pepper mixture is this sleek 'do. Serum will give you that silky smooth look. Very professional for worktime, but easy to keep for casual times. A sparkly barrette is all that is needed for special holiday occasions.

Sophisticated Angles

Short cut with long top layers. This is my favorite short hairstyle. The crown hair is kept long and angled toward the chin.

Short cut with long top layers. This is my favorite short hairstyle. The crown hair is kept long and angled toward the chin.

Maye Musk, Beauty Role Model

Maye Musk is a top model who makes aging look great with her silver white hair and sophisticated style.

She is gracious about sharing her secrets, too. Samples of her beauty advice are generously given in an article titled "Looking Great", taken from her book where she shares wardrobe, weight, and beauty tips.

Shampoo Tip

One tip for those who want to use brightening products: I switch out these for clarifying and non-color changing shampoos regularly. One of my favorites for in between is Paul Mitchell's Wild Ginger line. The fragrance and shine are amazing.

Use yellow canceling shampoo products when sun and surf time can stress your hair.

Use yellow canceling shampoo products when sun and surf time can stress your hair.

Shining Curls

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My Own Silver

Yes, I have gray hair.

Yes, I have gray hair.

My Transition to Gray Hair Freedom

What is it like to change from covering gray to going natural with silvery strands? I thought I would create a timeline of sorts with the most asked questions from acquaintances. These are things I wondered about myself, before taking the big step.

Going Gray, Hair Color F.A.Q.

  • What was the tipping point in making a decision to go "natural?"

    I felt for a long time that the look of a face and neck of a 50 or 60 something and the hair of a twenty-something is out of sync. I made the decision that when that disconnect seemed to be approaching I would stop coloring my hair.

    Happily, this decision coincided with the appearance of many attractive and influential women in the beauty world who also decided to "go gray." Those women and my own experience inspired this page.I thought, "I am sure there are lots more women who want this look and just need a little encouragement."

  • Was it hard to transition from the colored hair to natural?

    It wasn't hard, I just let the hair grow, and scheduled haircuts to keep the style and shape. A fresh haircut helps avoid that awkward "halfway point".

    I won't lie: there has been a bit of humble pie and some attitude adjustment on my part to growing older.

    I have had both supportive and admiring comments, but then there was the time when a kid behind me in the grocery line phoned his mom that he was "standing behind the old lady."

    A lovely comment from a group of unknown bystanders in another grocery store (do people in grocery stores have more time to people watch?) who thought my hair was "gorgeous" made up for the shock of the other comment, however!

  • What are the best tips for having beautiful gray hair?

    I have included the top tips in this article. The products are those I and my readers have found the best for our silver hair. Information on caring for the qualities of maturing gray locks included under a number of the topics covered: the right shampoos, conditioners, and styling methods.

Thinking About Going Gray? Here is my pep talk

Tips From My Hairstylist

My hair stylist used " Forever Blonde" products to give shine and cancel out effects of yellowing. Loved the effect! And got compliments!

Grow It Long

Long locks are possible, but make sure to keep them healthy and shiny

Long locks are possible, but make sure to keep them healthy and shiny

5 Beauty Tips

  1. Be sure to include plenty of B vitamins and omega-3 fatty acids in your diet
  2. Going gray may require a warmer color palette for your makeup. Try a warmer blush or lipstick color.
  3. It can't be said enough: Keep it moisturized and in good condition to keep it great looking.
  4. Occasional color correction with a blue-tinted hair product to cancel yellowing
  5. Give a gloss with smoothing those frizzies:

    Even though you want to go easy on heat appliances, straightening gray hair can add some glitz to your look. Gray hair reflects light, which is highlighted by keeping it smooth.

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How Does the Color Turn?

What Makes Hair Turn Gray? Scientists Have Found the Cause

As part of the body's oxygen cycle, skin cells produce hydrogen peroxide . Hydrogen peroxide serves to kill bacteria, but as we age it builds up in the body. Researchers in UK found that this buildup causes the hair to turn gray. Some races, such as Caucasians, are more prone to the process. -Today's Health

Gerald Weissmann, professor of medicine at New York University predicts that soon products to remove hydrogen peroxide from the hair and the body will be developed.

Classic Meryl

If you doubted that this color could look glamorous, look at this picture of Meryl Streep to have your doubts washed away.

If you doubted that this color could look glamorous, look at this picture of Meryl Streep to have your doubts washed away.

Lee Meriwether: former Miss America

Lee Meriwether: former Miss America

Lee Meriwether: former Miss America

Ellen Burstyn

Another Glam Gray- spritely waves lift her face and give a vivacious feel.

Another Glam Gray- spritely waves lift her face and give a vivacious feel.

Gray-t Examples for the New Year

Women Who Have Gone Gray

Nothing tells the story like a picture can, and the beautiful women whose hair is shiny, gorgeous, and gray are the best illustration for making the point. It isn't necessary to get beauty from a bottle. The best, most attractive quality is healthiness. Chemicals are bound to be damaging, and they aren't necessary!

Some Fabulous Women Who Weren't Afraid of the Big Bad Gray:

  • Yasmina Rossi
  • Maye Musk
  • Emmy Lou Harris
  • Meryl Streep
  • Dame Judi Dench
  • Joan Baez
  • Susan Hersh
  • Kathleen Sebelius
  • Ellen Burstyn
  • Jamie Lee Curtis
  • Helen Mirren

Trendsetting hairstyles show up on the red carpet and in magazines. Take some tips from these celebrities for hair, makeup, and fashions that will look great with grey.

Fresh Looks To Try

What styles look fresh and new with silver locks?

  • Try a new bob, updated with layering to give it lift.
  • Medium length with fringy bangs.
  • Cute short, flipped up ends.
  • Bangs are in favor for the classic bob.
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Long layered bob with deep fringe of bangs looks fresh and polished

Long layered bob with deep fringe of bangs looks fresh and polished

Emmylou Harris

As you can see from the many products on this page, I like to change things up. It isn't that I am always looking for something different, but I find that rotating the shampoo and conditioner lines brings better results. On a trip out west I noticed the need for more conditioning, while in my own home state (where high humidity rules) I have more need for serums to smooth my hair.

I think you have to experiment to see what works best for your own look.

The one perennial rule for all of us with gray and silver is well conditioned, healthy hair. And because of all the environmental yellowing, knowing which products will restore a clear tone to the hair is one secret that will work wonders for your style.

Gray is Gorgeous

Katharine Hepburn was a trendsetter who had her own brand of fashion and style that remained to true to her own self.

Katharine Hepburn was a trendsetter who had her own brand of fashion and style that remained to true to her own self.

Going Shoulder Length

Sleek, smoothest possible, shoulder length

Sleek, smoothest possible, shoulder length

This perfect chignon is one of my favorites

This perfect chignon is one of my favorites

Long layers looks young and stylish

Long layers looks young and stylish

Similar cut, turned under. Very versatile

Similar cut, turned under. Very versatile

Slightly shorter version of layers with ends flipped up

Slightly shorter version of layers with ends flipped up

Taking Care of Your Hair

...Taking care of yourself (and why we go gray)

Some beauty tips are ageless: eat nutritionally valuable foods that have the vitamins, proteins, and the complex carbohydrates you need for good health; use mild and effective products on your skin and hair; and get your circulation going with plenty of exercise.

But there are a few tips that are especially important for gorgeous gray hair. One that is mentioned often is the use of a blue tinted hair product. Another is regular use of an effective hair conditioner- maybe more than one to keep hair soft and shiny. Carefully brushing or combing to prevent split ends and a good haircut doesn't hurt, either. Healthy hair also means going easy on heat applications through hair curling or straightening.

A Good Cut

I've been see-sawing between mid-length hair and trying to grow it out. Like every other color, growing hair longer while trying to keep it looking in shape and stylish is a challenge. I recently cut off the length and had my hair layered. It looks shinier and better groomed, which is important for gray hair.

A beauty secret to take better advantage of is to have a great cut. Not liking to fuss with hair, a medium length has always worked well for me, but no matter the length we choose, keeping the cut sharp and in shape makes the difference in how good gray hair looks.

Try A Different Shampoo

Consider trying a new shampoo made just for white and silver hair to really stand out and make a white hot statement.

A wonderful shampoo with mild ingredients and natural blue flower extract from Centaurea. Klorane is a venerable name in hair products and I have used (happily) their shampoo and conditioners for years. If one wants the tried and true for silver hair, this is a good choice.

Bring out the silver lights

Cute Short Cut with bangs and long top layers

Cute Short Cut with bangs and long top layers

One of the Best Shampoos for Gray Hair Styles

Keep your hair silvery with Phyto Phytargent Whitening Shampoo, Gray and White Hair , and its conditioner. Chamomile azulene brightens, while natural coconut oil conditions and cleanses your scalp.

These two results, moisturized hair and a light bluing tint, will give your gray luxurious shimmer which is all you need to look terrific. Phyto products have been my favorites for their quality and how manageable they leave my thick, wavy locks.

Which Shampoo And Conditioner ?

Besides the addition of a color corrector which is the best product for our hair? The answer will be directly related to your present condition, desired look, and personal preference.

I like the ingredients to be as natural as possible, but I like some luxury and fragrance,too. Those are qualities that influence my recommendations. If you are sensitive to perfumes, there are products for you that might be different.

Two more of the best brands are:

  • Pravana Pure Light Sulfate-free Brightening Shampoo is a silver hair shampoo, both mild and natural. My readers love it; I think the gray enhancing formula makes such a difference with no concerns about Parabens or other harmful additives.
  • Rene Furterer Okara Mild Silver Shampoo with corrective pigments, this product illuminates and revives silvery highlights. It also contains Vitamin B5 and Vitamin E.

The goal is healthy looking hair that has shine and clarity.

Solutions

Dry hair and skin?

Oils can cause yellowing, so strike a balance between the need to condition hair and overloading it with possible yellow cast. If you use a whitening agent every once in awhile, that will help.

I felt that using coconut oil to condition did not discolor my hair. Argan oil might be slightly yellowing (verdict not in on that, yet), but good for conditioning.

Helen Mirren

Smooth Updo

Smooth Updo

Helen Mirren's Style

Always an eye catcher on the Red carpet, her style elicits admiring comments. If you have quandaries on how to make the best of your looks as you age, Helen Mirren is a a role model of continuing to look great.

She changes her style subtly going from soft waves to styles with bangs and sometimes a straight bob, but always with panache.

Mirren always inspires those who wish for stylish gray hair styles ideas.

Helen Mirren lipcolor? Try L'Oreal Paris Colour Riche Le Balm, Pink Satin for a similar look.

Embracing My Grey, Another Woman's Story In Photos

Silver Belles

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Holiday Hairstyles

Updos have been a top choice for formal occasions because they instantly create a well groomed and feminine appearance.

While many women choose shorter hairstyles as they mature, the trend has been for longer lengths. Whether a haircut is short or long, sleek and shiny are two characteristics that give holiday hairdos glamorous fashion.

A Few Ideas For Elegant Polish

Classic French twist with a holiday comb.
Sparkly combs and clips dress up any style.

Polished hair slicked back from the face—Silver Fox to the max for holiday sophistication.

The smoothly rolled bun is a classic good look for the holidays, with or without hair ornaments. Either worn high on the crown or as a chignon, this is a beautiful sophisticated look.

Rock The Silver Strands

Bright silver hair with a sleek short cut

Bright silver hair with a sleek short cut

Mike Van Den Abbeel says,

"There are several professions for women that we recommend not get 100% gray coverage. Any woman working in law or dealing with money shouldn't try to cover up all her gray hair. In these cases, a little gray will help give a sense of experience and authority"

Cindy Joseph speaks out:

Shine and be all you can be at any age.

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If You Want The Whole Package

There is more to your appearance than just your hair, as important as that is!

As maturity affects skin tone and body shape, some changes must be made, a makeover of wardrobe, colors, and reviving some of the inner glow that is the real source of beauty for any age.

I like the new emphasis on helping older women find their best look.

Beautiful Silver Streaks

Reporter and mystery novelist

Reporter and mystery novelist

Get a Makeup Look to Match Gray Hair - Face Your Age Head On

There are a few changes to make to your makeup palette to best work with gray hair and matured skin tones.

  1. Pick brighter shades
  2. A soft pink or coral blush
  3. Rose, pink or coral lip gloss
  4. Dark brown or black liner

Maturing Skin

A BB cream is fantastic for an aging complexion. Complement your natural hair with some new makeup to brighten your complexion and lift your mood. Hair color is just one facet of the overall picture.

And most of all, I think I've finally gotten the message that beauty emanates from within.

Accept yourself, love your life, celebrate the moments, and you might find that gray hair is more of a silver halo that crowns a life worth living!


Silver Fox Attributes

Good grooming

Healthy habits

A becoming wardrobe

....all work together for the beauty of maturity to shine through.

Questions & Answers

Question: I'm 57 and have been saying I look forward to greying but it is still just along the hairline. What do we do when waiting for the full grey?

Answer: Everyone's different. Some play up the contrast, like a gray streak. Gray showing up with natural hair does not have the unfortunate look of gray peeking out from colored locks. You could experiment with different hairstyles which hide or accentuate the gray. I have a definite white streak on one side, and how I part my hair makes it either more or less apparent.

For you, layers may be more attractive? Check in with your hair stylist for ideas that are unique to your look.

Question: Why are there not any long, curly silver-haired people? Why does everyone think just because you're grey you have to go short?

Answer: There are examples of long and curly out there, but it is challenging for older women with gray hair to manage longer styles. It requires more work to keep from yellowing and to look youthful with long styles. I know, because I tried it the past couple years. Not everyone has to go short, but the majority do.

Question: How do I keep a spiky pixie cut looking chic and not like a helmet head or like an "old lady"?

Answer: Start with your cut. Ask your stylist to give you wisps and layers, then use hair molding products to add texture.

Question: My hair is graying, but not evenly should I highlight?

Answer: That purely depends on what you most would like. Highlights could create a more even look until the gray increases, or you could enjoy the salt and pepper look.

© 2011 Ilona E

Your opinions are worth silver - Figuratively speaking, that is.

Naz on January 14, 2020:

Hi All

Two years ago I dyed my hair fully blond and my white and grey hair began to appear. From time to time my hair stylist did her job to maintain my haircut and last year I was totally white on the top.

I wish I had done it before!!

La Vetta Williams on December 15, 2019:

I stopped having my stylist color my hair in the Fall of 2014 The adjustment period was something that I was resolved to endure I’m loving my natural color with lots of gray streaks—especially around my hairline No regrets at all My hair stylist does an amazing job with my long hair She keeps it trimmed, silky and shiny. Would be glad to share a recent photo of my hair if it were possible.

Anna on October 28, 2019:

I started letting my hair go gray November 2018, and I am loving it. I get stopped on the street and women ask me if it’s natural or did I highlight I silver. I say no it’s all natural. It’s coming out silver and I think it looks beautiful. I’m 58 and I may say I don’t feel it or look it.

Debbie Perkins on September 21, 2019:

I started graying early. I did the color thing, hated trying to keep up with the roots. I gave up an embraces my natural color. I have mid should we hair that I wear up in a clip and do the fluffed up hair in the front. I get compliments all the time about the color and my hair. Had an older African American man tell me one day that I had beautiful hair.

Nola Darlin from ARLINGTON on May 21, 2019:

Article is great. I started graying at 13. By my 20's I was fully gray. I've never colored my hair. Gray is all I know. Though the article is fabulous, not much attention was given to the African American community (pictures and information). I have loved and embraced my gray hair be it long, short, natural, relaxed, straight, twisted, no matter what. It has always been ME! Welcome aboard ladies.

LJ on January 09, 2019:

Stopped using hair dye a year ago after an allergic reaction that caused my hair to fall out. Started with a pixie cut. Seven months later, the dye was all gone. Hadn't seen my real hair color in years. Surprisingly there's still a lot of brown amongst the gray. I've grown it back into a short a-line bob now. It looks shiny and healthy. I read a lot of these going gray stories to get me through it. That really helped. Sometimes it's still a little weird seeing the gray in the mirror, but it's all good. Would rather be gray than bald.

Rowany on December 10, 2018:

I'm nearly there with growing in my white / silver...after years of dark brown dye...had the base lightened gradually to platinum and next visit to the salon should match everything up so my hair is white / silver all over...then comes the best part...partial dreadlocks...nearly 56, still keeping it real

Cynthia on September 21, 2018:

Thank -you for this article got some useful information.

Looking to be the best I can be naturally.

Patricia Stover on June 25, 2018:

I became tired of fighting mother nature. She was winning and so I gave in. Although I had reservations at first, I finally decided to let my gray hair show. My grand children didn't like my wigs.So I needed to do something. I'm proud of wearing my gray. I have gotten so many compliments. Some people say that it has made me look younger. My oldest grandson told me that no sixth year old woman should have black hair. That let me know that I was on the right track. I have embraced my gray hair and I love it. I am free and I feel great and look great !!!!

Shara Alden on May 13, 2018:

I love my gray hair. I've been growing it out for the past two and a half years and it looks stunning!

Irene Smallwood-Bosma on April 03, 2018:

I love the liberated feeling I get from not having to schedule another hair color appointment! I haven't colored my hair since 2008! Gosh 10 years now and I still feel liberated!

My reason had to do with the fact that I looked so extremely different then my close in age 3 brothers. My father took a group photo of us and I looked hideous with solid chestnut color when my 3 brothers had this magnificent amount of variety of grays mixed in dark brown hair! Their hair was maybe 1/2"-2" long and I wondered what my hair would look like if I let mine grow out longer so I could actually see the shaft of the various gray hair with my own eyes and not in a mirror. Since my hair was short and in a pixie to begin with, it was easy to transition in to the gray hair within 2-3 months cutting off color at frequent visits till the color was gone. To my surprise, and for many who know me, I received various compliments from 'beautiful color' to 'are you sure you want to do this?' Well, it was a easy decision and I have not looked back. My hair is softer and way more manageable and healthy! I'm a happy silver sister and say go for it! No one is immune~! Embrace it!

Tara from Australia on January 26, 2018:

Im 43 and have been a very gracious grey (undyed) for 2yrs now. I have been growing out a pixie cut into a short bob (naturally curly!) AND now I'm getting married. I keep thinking I'm still chocolate brown up top! And people I haven't seen for ages, first thing they say is 'wow you're grey!' which doesnt help.

I'm having trouble finding hair accessory ideas so the accessory doesnt blend in. Any hints??

Susan from Canada on January 07, 2018:

Thank you! This was just the push I needed to stop colouring my grey.

Milly on December 14, 2017:

I was diagnosed with cancer in early 2016, and after my first chemo treatment, my hair brown and almost shoulder length, came out in hands full. After chemo and my hair started growing back, it was salt and pepper and curly! Not my normal hair! Now, my hair is still salt and pepper and my friends that color their hair, told me to never color again! I almost want to hurry and loose the pepper.

Jade Stone on November 25, 2017:

Starting to let my grey grow out. I understand the need for taking care of grey hair and use all natural products.

Now, I'm trying to figure out the right cut, as I have a long, narrow face and my hair is wavy, cury, frizzy, and thick...

Pam Seigler on October 22, 2017:

I love my going grey and white mixture still mixed with a little brown. I have let it grow long and have been taking very good care of. It is all one length and almost to the center of my back. I have gotten more complimentsvon my hair than I ever have. I did this once before and I received an email from a family member to another family member talking about my old ugly long hair and how it just makes me look older. All I can say about that is nobody but you two feel that way. Let it grow and be natural...be you and you will love the way it makes you feel when men and women walk up to you just to tell you your has is beautiful or gotgeous and is it natural and I guess to say "Yes it is...thank you for the compliment".

Trish on October 17, 2017:

Add Your Comment. MY hair started going gray when I was 22. I loved the salt and pepper look and embraced my colour until it was mostly white. I then had dark highlights put in my hair which I loved form many years. I am now 71 and

I was persuaded by my hair stylist to let the highlights grow out. It took a while. My hair is white and I probably won't have the dark highlights again.. however I don't particularly like the white hair which often looks yellow despite using the silver shampoo. I will look at using other products

Linda on October 16, 2017:

Just today I went in for my cut and color and decided while driving there that I cannot continue this every 4 week coloring ritual. For TWENTY-FIVE YEARS I've been doing this! Hairdresser worked some magic over almost 3 hours and now my hair is close enough to gray that growing it out will be less painful. I feel so liberated, being on this trajectory!

Jeannie B on August 30, 2017:

I also was mostly dyed brown with occasional bouts of blonde. My amazing stylist lightened the top/outer layers to blonde so the grow out wouldn't be as noticeable as the brown. (I have thick curly/wavy hair & it was just silly to worry about.all of it - although she did add some highlights underneath in the event I wore it up.) A month later, she used a product to basically strip the color from my hair. I'm sorry I don't know the name of it. My hair is below shoulder length & I didn't want to cut it OR deal with that grow out phase. There is a very subtle hint of the brown in the under layer, and she thinks another treatment will remove the rest. I am very pleased with the outcome & look forward to the final outcome and freedom from root touch-ups! (I'm still surprised when I look in the mirror, but my daughters tell me I look younger, whereas before I LOOKED like I was trying to look younger!)

joyce faranda on August 23, 2017:

I have been thinking of letting my hair go gray for about 6 months now. I have been dying my hair dark brown for some time since I started going gray in my late 30's I am 64 now and people tell me I look like late 40's. My only fear is my hair is very fine and when the roots start to come in my hair appears very thin on the top. I want to let it grow out but am afraid it will look too thin. It is shoulder length right now and I don't look good with short hair so I am thinking on getting gray highlights to prevent the skunk as it grows out. It appears my hair will be white in the front when I look at the roots before I color it. Any suggestions as what to do so I can make the transition as smooth and painless as possible? thanks for listening

Edel Codd on August 06, 2017:

I love my salt and pepper hair! I got it cut very short (like Jamie Lee Curtis), and it's such a different look for me, because I always wore it long (to tie it back), but I love it. Oddly, while I've always been told I look younger than I am, I have been getting a lot of comments suggesting I look 10-15 years younger. I can live with that. :D

Esther on April 26, 2017:

I had my hair grey. I loved it! Then I let someone talk me into coloring. Biggest mistake! I am now letting my hair grow out and will not color again.

Norma on April 13, 2017:

I went back to my natural color in 2015 , and so many compliments about my white hair, and I am loving not having to color.

silverJane on March 12, 2017:

Dont buy expensive shampoos for grey hair just because it contains vitamins...! You need these on the INSIDE of your body not the dead keratin that is dead on your head. LOL. Please stop being fooled by these marketing scams. Get a blue/grey tinted shampoo yes, but there are cheaper ones out there. Also beware most of them condition your hair making it thinner and limp. Why dont these compaies make a body building shampoo that brightens grey????? It is a no brainer money maker

Lynn on October 30, 2016:

Love the beautiful styles and your discussion of being gray. I did it a couple years ago. Cut it really short, watched the color get cut off over a few cuts and voila. A new me. Like others, I wish I'd done it a long time ago. Letting it grow out is frustrating but, hope it becomes a pretty style like one that you're showing.

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on March 31, 2016:

That is a very different way of making the transition, lol! Kudos to your mom. I agree that we see beauty differently as we get used to different looks. Diversity rules..

craftybegonia from Southwestern, United States on February 21, 2016:

Very good article, encouraging women to let their silver grow out and stop hiding what everybody already knows! I was used to seeing my mom as a redhead and then she became a platinum blond on her way to letting her gray grow out, at the beginning it took some getting used to but later it became beautiful to me.

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on October 18, 2015:

yes, go girl :) Embrace your own beauty. That is the best thing - to be free to be yourself.

Adele on October 07, 2015:

All I have to say is, I have lived and earned every strand of my grey/silver hair, AND I am so Tired of covering it up with BOXED Dye Products !!! Thank you for this site, for I have now let myself be free and feel the most Beautiful that I have ever felt in years, seeing how I started getting grey at the young age of 18, hahaha !!! I've done all the coloring's , bleach jobs, etc.... through out my life

AyitaSage on March 10, 2015:

Love beautiful gray hair. In transitioning stages right now but look forward to that great look.

Cristen Iris from Boise, Idaho on December 17, 2014:

Ilona, I love this article. My mother has stunning silver hair like yours. I can't wait for mine to go all silver. And I think women with grey hair are some of the most beautiful. I'm glad you demonstrated that beauty is not just for the young.

Lisa on November 06, 2014:

I am 43 and am slowly going grey because I found myself in a situation where I no longer had a choice, as all synthetic hair dyes and natural hair dyes cause my Fibromyalgia to flare up.I decided to embrace the idea of healthier treatments for my scalp so I also started using the No Poo way to wash and condition my hair.I wash my hair with a mixture of Bi Carbonate Soda mixed with some warm water in a cup which I apply all through my hair and massage in then wash out.Then I apply a mixture of Apple Cider Vinegar and warm water as a conditioning treatment and rinse it out.I have been using this method for over a year and I don't feel like my hair is really clean unless I wash and condition it this way now.I keep my hair in a short bob and love how healthy it feels and looks.

Sharon Berry from Michigan on August 11, 2014:

I'm sitting on the fence. Do I cut my long hair or not. I'm going to be 70 soon and my gray hair is all most waist length. Some of these photo's are helping me with this decision. Why is it that we think we need short hair if we are over 60? By the way, I stopped coloring my hair in my late 50's and loved not having to spend all that money in a salon every 6 weeks. Great lens.

carabec on July 23, 2014:

Whatever happened to Clariol Silk and Silver? My Mother used it on gray I used it on blonde. Loved it!

symbolix lm on July 18, 2014:

Great pics. Silver hair can look classy on women.

judith-treacy on June 06, 2014:

For My brave friends who are Au natural........

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on April 11, 2014:

@Heidi Vincent: :)

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on April 11, 2014:

@connie-crites-7: Thanks for you input- I appreciate the added tips, those products are some I've not heard of yet.

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on April 11, 2014:

@cocoloco256: Such a change in our perspectives in the last few years- it can be beautiful!

cocoloco256 on April 09, 2014:

Now I'm tempted to have gray hair just for its beauty!

connie-crites-7 on March 26, 2014:

I went Gray sometime back. Not sure how long ago. Maybe a year. I first had my hair cut like Jamie Lee Curtis (just love her hair). It took about 2-3 more cuts to be sure it was all my gray color. I'm more salt and pepper right now. I want to get some violet tones in it to get rid of the yellow. I found this product online called Fudge Clean Blonde Violet toning Shampoo and Fudge Dynamite Conditioner. My products have yet to arrive but I can't wait to try them. I funny to me how many young girls are bleaching their hair so they can have it silver. Just goes to show we are some hot Fox Ladies with our gray tresses. I have embraced it. Thanks for all your helpful ideas.

Heidi Vincent from GRENADA on March 12, 2014:

I will be going naturally grey. I see no need to hide the aging process. One can still look beautiful with grey hair as these courageous and beautiful women have shown. I also think that the look is wonderfully natural as opposed to what was said in the beginning of your lens, "...there is something odd looking when the look of a face or a neck is somewhere within the 5th or 6th decade of life and the hair is attempting to replicate a twenty-something".

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on February 03, 2014:

@anonymous: Thanks :) I like that:"Yay for grey".

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on February 03, 2014:

@AnonymousC831: I've grown to like the look, myself, too.

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on February 03, 2014:

@kkkub313: Our ideas of beauty are definitely a learned thing, and older women's looks, as well as other variations on feminine beauty are subject to those perspectives when we judge what looks good or not. That's ok- I think self acceptance is of greater value than temporary ideals of beauty. And that is why I wrote this lens. Maybe someday in the future you will feel differently?

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on February 03, 2014:

@Marcel W: You are welcome!

anonymous on January 28, 2014:

I actually put a temporary Grey/Silver rinse in my hair yesterday so I'm in the 'I would' camp.

Grey is a beautiful colour just like any other hair colour, it's a shame that people always have to divide every characteristic, making some seem desirable and others less so or even abnormal/disadvantageous. I personally don't mind Yellow, it's my favourite in the Blonde spectrum but I've always had it Gold, sometimes mixed with Copper though nowadays I'm more Platinum. Or for those who like to be derisive towards blondes and those who apparently 'can't colour/bleach properly - Orange, Yellow and White. Well I've added Grey/Silver to my spectrum now and I'm quite happy with it.

Yay for Grey and at any age since I'm youngish.

Great post and very informative!

AnonymousC831 from Kentucky on January 12, 2014:

I think it's beautiful.

kkkub313 on January 05, 2014:

I don't thing it looks good in all.

Marcel White on December 17, 2013:

@jiancara: Yes, you got the point!

Marcel White on December 17, 2013:

How refreshing it was to âwalkâ through your lens watching all those beautiful women who have gone gray and incredibly sexy. Thanks for those moments of pure enjoyment.

tonyleather on November 25, 2013:

Nothing is more attractive to me than silvery grey hair, however it is styled!

Stanley Green from Czech Republic on November 12, 2013:

There is something special in gray hair styles. I can't say what exactly, but I like silver hair style.

JessicaBonn on October 16, 2013:

I love woman with grey hair, we can see that they have experience and also we feel they are strong enough to assume who they are.

jiancara on October 12, 2013:

though my hair is not yet gray, I am now assured that as my hair turns gray too it can be fashionable and still be the crown of glory

anonymous on September 18, 2013:

Wow reading these articles sure helps with this grey & silver hair process. I'm 52 an have been putting in low lights to my grey & silver due to my self consciousness of looking old. But after getting some tips on shampoos etc I'm going 4ward!

Angela Hobbs from The TARDIS on September 11, 2013:

Have lots of gray myself, but not a fox yet

anonymous on September 01, 2013:

I love your lens. I've been going gray already, but salt and pepper can be a great look

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on September 01, 2013:

@anonymous: Hang in there- when I think of the time and money I save no longer coloring my hair, the fact that I no longer struggle with the unflattering look of gray roots and hair damaged by dyes, I am always glad the decision was made to go gray.

anonymous on August 31, 2013:

I needed to read this... I am letting my natural gray hair grow... but it is very tough at times... I am still having a hard time coming to terms that I am getting old... but I have always loved the color silver... why not wear it, right?

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on July 16, 2013:

@Erin Mellor: I hear you on the need for courage. It is a transition from what we have gotten used to and if you color your hair, there is a bit of an ugly growing out process. I came across some pictures of me at that stage. But I encourage you to takes the step- it is so worth it in looks AND time and money.

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on July 16, 2013:

@SBPI Inc: Hey can you write for me? Just kidding, but so well said. that is exactly what I hoped this lens would portray: women happy with who they are and making the most of it. Thanks so much for your comment.

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on July 16, 2013:

@anonymous: I found the same thing. Glad you are comfortable with the beauty of who you are now. I see more and more women who go gray and look healthy and beautiful with their natural hair color.

anonymous on July 13, 2013:

I am already on this journey...it is so liberating to not become a slave to the dye gods and the cost of constant upkeep. My hair seems to be healthier also.

SBPI Inc on July 05, 2013:

You have a great lens and many beautiful gray and/or silver haired women. How they obviously feel about themselves shines through and their hair is reflective of the love they have for themselves and others by being who they are. Absolutely gorgeous. I don't normally do not look at hairstyle lenses but yours is an eyeopener and a real pleasure. Thank you.

Cyrus Solomons on June 22, 2013:

Unique ideas so rare to be found. Great lens

Erin Mellor from Europe on May 22, 2013:

I'm trying to pluck up the courage to go "silver fox", it would save s much time and money.

Birthday Wishes from Here on May 16, 2013:

My wife just loves gray hair styles! Thanks a lot for sharing this wonderful lens!!!

anonymous on April 27, 2013:

I've been grey for nearly 20 years now and wouldn't trade my grey hair for any amount of color. My hairdresser understands my desire to be natural and together we keep my style updated.

janfran_50 on April 01, 2013:

Wow, you've got me thinking! All I have are a few gray streaks but I'm going to ask my hairdresser to play them up at my next appointment.

LadyDuck on March 09, 2013:

I stopped coloring my hairs about 8 years ago. Now I get compliments on my hairs, they are healthy and shine.

anonymous on February 11, 2013:

I have short textured grey hair that I love. It has a lot of body so it holds a look well. I've been thinking about adding light lavender highlights here and there around my face and as under tones. I would love feed back and/or information on this. Thanks

johnny-knox on February 10, 2013:

Grey hair look really amazing,, loved these pictures of ladies embracing the grey!

Giovanna from UK on January 19, 2013:

My husband told em to look up this lens because I'm always complaining when it's time to henna my hair! I can't use chemicals because I'm totally allergic. My mum has gone gray now, but she was in her late 70s when she stopped dying her hair! She looks much better with grey. I'll certainly look into some products to see if we can make it look even prettier. My turn soon....I think! What a lovely lens thanks you.

anonymous on January 15, 2013:

I am so glad I found this site!! I have been gray for quite a while, after giving birth to my youngest at 37 I was done with coloring my hair!, even now, I get comments to color? it is everyone else's issue, not mine!! I would like to find a shampoo and conditioner. I am turning 50 this year, but my hair has been very dry looking, and a little out of control, very wiry. I love my color! I have tried the "blue`shampoos, but did not the results I would have liked, so now I can check on here and get some beautiful photos of women with grey, silver and white hair!!! Love it!!!!! thank you

NathalieM on December 11, 2012:

I can't wait to have grey hair. I think it looks so cool x

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on December 07, 2012:

@SheilaSchnauzies: I can so understand! I have had very thick hair that with the gray became wiry with some frizziness. It has been mandatory for me to take good care of it and I found that the combo of a good hair serum after washing ( and washing often) along with a good moisturizer like VO5 or Argan oil makes all the difference. I also like to add a hair polish for extra shine. Hair straighteners take some of the wildness out, too. Like everything else it is adjusting to the change and using new methods and products. Don't give up on your natural beauty :)

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on December 07, 2012:

@jenny-archer-9: One reason I wrote this lens is because our ideas of beauty and what is attractive are so influenced by attitude. Sometimes we, or what we see is only as beautiful as we believe it to be. That is more true of this matter of gray hair than many thing, since it reflects how we view the aging process. And you are right- we struggle to be happy with what we have... although I think we can change those attitudes with time and mindfulness :)

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on December 07, 2012:

@rattie lm: You are right- skin does need extra care as we age. Another reason exercise is so important , to get the circulation going and bring more color into our face, as well as revitalize the body's cells.

rattie lm on December 06, 2012:

The trouble with grey hair is it often accompanies grey skin! But, having said that, it's time for all of us to reject chemicals and concentrate on wonderful hair cuts!

jenny-archer-9 on November 16, 2012:

All over grey is glorious,the pepper and salt look not so,have not been blessed with elegant grey,just odd strands so have to lighten from a bottle,my husband has lovely grey but hates it...are we ever happy with what comes naturally?

Sheila from Omaha, NE on November 08, 2012:

Back for another visit... still fighting with growing out my silver/white hair! One thing I have found that helps me cope is to use "deposit only" color. My sister, a hairdresser, recommended it to me. It doesn't lift at all, just deposits color. My hair without color is a melange of wildness! I have thought so many times of just whacking it all just beyond the gray line, but I'd have 3" long hair! I've had beyond shoulder length for so long now that I don't think I could deal with that! So... now and then I pop back in here for a dose of encouragement:) Again, a fabulous lens.

Beverly Rodriguez from Albany New York on November 05, 2012:

Those women look beautiful with gray hair. I tried it some years ago and just looked old! I might try it again with some your your great tips.

Howcanigetagirl on October 26, 2012:

This is a very motivational lens for all those dye lovers out there..... Grey can be so beautiful!

anonymous on October 24, 2012:

I'm on my third and last time to let the silver grow... finally have all the 'other' color cut out and it's just above collar length, ready to grow some more... and loving it, loving the compliments, loving the style... natural.

Angela F from Seattle, WA on October 09, 2012:

Helen Mirren and Jamie Lee Curtis are great examples of gray done right. *blessed

lbuben on September 29, 2012:

@sunlightseer: I agree, nice to see the double standard going away....

junie12 on September 18, 2012:

Grey hair can look so amazing! The pictures of these lucky ladies look fantastic!

sunlightseer on September 16, 2012:

It's about time!! The double standard of grey haired men looking distinguished and grey haired women looking old is finally evening out. As I get a little greyer I enjoy my grey haired award of long life :-)

Gayle Dowell from Kansas on September 15, 2012:

I stopped highlighting my hair a few years ago and I am pleased with my natural gray highlights. I wouldn't go back to the time and effort it takes for the artificial highlights or coloring.

Jessica Barst from Dallas, TX on September 14, 2012:

So many beautiful silver haired mavens! I look forward to wearing my silver when it takes over :) Thanks for all the tips for enhancing natural grey hair!

BossJacob LM on September 14, 2012:

Lovely lens, women with gray manes are beautiful in their own right

Carol Brooks from Florida on September 14, 2012:

I love this lens. I was silvery-grey for years, and I loved my hair, but then I needed a change, so I went blonde. Wow! I don't know if blondes have more fun, but I feel ten years younger. I still loved my silver though. In another few years will probably go silver again.

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on September 13, 2012:

@fastpass2disney: Thanks- when I went gray I didn't have much of an idea what products were best for me- but have been learning that they make a difference.

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on September 13, 2012:

@EpicFarms: Congrats and best wishes for your continued health and may your locks long grow :)

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on September 13, 2012:

@queenofduvetcover: Yes!

Ilona E (author) from Ohio on September 13, 2012:

@BillyPilgrim LM: Thanks- I think our eye and sensibility gets trained to what looks good... and these women are proof that gray can be attractive.

EpicFarms on September 12, 2012:

I've opted to let my "splendor" show (gray hair, biblically speaking ;o) After chemo I was so proud to have hair that didn't come out of a box, I didn't CARE what color it was. *laugh* I really enjoyed this lens, and sure do love those gorgeous silver haircuts!

Faye Rutledge from Concord VA on September 12, 2012:

I've always loved gray hair, which is good because now I have a head full of it! Love these hairstyles. :)

Lee Hansen from Vermont on September 12, 2012:

I love my grey hair ... I was never able to grow long hair until I stopped coloring to hide the grey. Now I have softer, longer grey hair with lots of natural white highlights in the front.