Mens Facial Hair Grooming; Tips for Girlfriends and Wives

Updated on May 23, 2016
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Penelope is retired but teaches English in Rome. She is a published feature writer, playwright and poet. She loves local Italian customs.

His beard, mustache and wayward thinning hair
His beard, mustache and wayward thinning hair | Source

Mustache, Beard Trimming

I'm passionate about my man's facial hair. His beard cut just so, not too close to his face and not too shaggy is perfectly, masculinely soft when I get close to him. It's sexy to touch with my hands or when I put my cheek on his. His mustache, trimmed round his lips shows what a fine mouth he has. Un trimmed, it's no good at all. Not the mouth, not the mustache.

He's losing his hair now, hair that used to be unruly, growing upwards from his scalp instead of down (like Einstein's did). What hair he has left has gone gray and it's very fine. But he is a knock-out specimen of a man in his middle sixties to me; his beard, his mustache and his mad hair are still a total turn on. With any pair of scissors that I find laying around that still cut I take care of my fellah's grooming:

  • I take care of his hair, (gently trim it). He doesn't see a barber
  • I trim his beard after he shaves it with his electric razor - just so
  • I trim the hair that grows inside his ears and on his ear lobes
  • I trim his eyebrows because he had some crazy single hairs that curl upwards

I suggest investing in a very good pair of small scissors and keeping them in a safe place in the bathroom. I really must do the same. (Have made note).

Facial Hair Before Grooming

He needs a trim round his hair line near his ears. He also needs to have the hairs in his trimmed
He needs a trim round his hair line near his ears. He also needs to have the hairs in his trimmed | Source
He needs his side burns trimmed as well as his ear hairs ttrimmed
He needs his side burns trimmed as well as his ear hairs ttrimmed | Source
Wayward eyebrow hairs need cutting with some scissors
Wayward eyebrow hairs need cutting with some scissors | Source

Trimming Unwanted Facial Hair

Once you notice his beard or his mustache is getting too long, you start suggesting he trims it. Going to the barber is no longer an option, (hasn't been since he began losing his hair.)

Eventually, he will trim it and you will be able to get at all the bits that have begun to over-grow around his beard, his eyes, in his ears and on his ear lobes. I've found the hardest part of facial male hair maintenance is this persuasion faze.

I've found that there's a reluctance to shaving and trimming and a million excuses such as "It keeps me warm", "It looks alright", "I will, later", "I will tomorrow", "I will later, when I shower, Oops I forgot. Oh dear it's too late now".

This faze may last a few days but it is incredibly important not to argue over it.

He trims his beard to the 2 mm you like, (or however long or short it is that you've established makes him look good, over time).

Shortly afterwards, hopefully within the first 24 hours of the major beard- trimming performance, the occasion presents itself, such as the occasion in the photographs to the right, that he will allow you to get to work with the scissors. He is reading his newspaper, watching a game, or listening to a radio play and is a million miles away

Extra Facial Hair is Gone

Trimmed eye brow!
Trimmed eye brow! | Source
Trimmed round the ears and sideburns
Trimmed round the ears and sideburns | Source
Trimmed ear hairs and ear lobe hairs!
Trimmed ear hairs and ear lobe hairs! | Source

Tips for Mens Facial Hair Grooming

These are the tips:

  1. You very pleasantly notice that one unruly hair on his eyebrow has grown up to his forehead; you suggest you trim it. Swiftly, scissors in hand, you trim it. It is JUST one hair. There are two of them above each brow. You get to both sides and you trim them off. There!
  2. You notice the hair in his ears looks like it needs cutting. Trim the hair inside one ear close to the skin. There are not many snips. He will sit still for this.
  3. There will be a few hairs on the lobes. Get rid of those.
  4. All that remains now is to trim the hair that has lost shape round his ears and side burns. Simply trim it up to just above the ear and round the front of the ear. Tapering and easily leveling to the sideburns he has trimmed with his electric razor.

My Companion after His Beard, Mustache and Facial Hair Trimmed

My companion after his beard mustache and facial hair trimmed!
My companion after his beard mustache and facial hair trimmed! | Source

How much do you like a man with a beard and mustache?

Have you ever trimmed your man's facial hair?

See results

The Benefits of Trimming your Mans Facial Hair

It's economic.

Once you have found the way you both like the way he looks, and you've found a way to trim it right, you'll always have his hair, his beard and his mustache just the way you both like it.

He won't ever come back from the barbers looking like the wrong man.

It keeps you close.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

Questions & Answers


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      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        4 years ago from Rome, Italy

        Graham, your wife knows best. Vanity in a man can be really charming!

        Thanks commenting. Appreciated.

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        Graham Lee 

        4 years ago from Lancashire. England.

        Hi Penelope. A first class hub. I have worn a beard for 12 years now. I have recently trimmed the 'full set' down to a chin beard. I'm not sure if I like it. My wife does and says I look younger; O vanity, vanity. I think It will be regrown before to long. Tip Top.

        voted up and all.


      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        Life wouldn't be worth living together without the love and the trust would it?


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        6 years ago from Australia

        Awesome hub, GoodLady. Isn't it wonderful when your fella trusts you! When my husband wants a trim he wanders outside into the garden with a chair and pair of scissors, and takes a seat in the sunshine. It has become as familiar and cozy as sharing a hot chocolate by a warm fire.

        I imagine for some couples, though, the process could be far more stressful. lol.

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        Glad you enjoyed it and many thanks for being so up about it with nice comments (especially about my handsome man!)

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        Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 

        6 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

        Good Lady, you are, and great handsome man you have! I really enjoyed the tips you've given here and so amused with the accompanying photos. Good job! Congratulations too!

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        Oh she'll be doing it again when she's sick of seeing you look like someone else often enough, Im sure.

        Thanks for dropping in.

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        6 years ago

        Mary used to do this for me but she's given up for the moment, lucky S.

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        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        True CozyPozy. A bit like chimpanzees really. Thanks for your sweet comment.

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        6 years ago from USA

        Your hub really made me smile. What a wonderful way to show your love & keep close.

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        Thanks so much for looking at and liking this post everyone!

        It's being a lot of fun. Fun to do, to write and share.

        Appreciate your comments Victoria Sheffield, The DirtFarmer, rebeccamealey, SimeyC, Toytasting, pinto2011,ytsenoh

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        6 years ago from Louisiana, Idaho, Kauai, Nebraska, South Dakota, Missouri

        Good for you and your subject and your companion's help on this subject--some people don't like to read about unwanted facial hair, BUT some people NEED to!! Love it and glad you made Hub of the Day. You earned it well. Tips and images and writing all nicely done. Have a good week!

      • pinto2011 profile image


        6 years ago from New Delhi, India

        Very nice ideas and interesting hub.

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        Toy Tasting 

        6 years ago from Mumbai

        Hey GoodLady, this is an interesting post. Congratulations on HOTD!

      • SimeyC profile image

        Simon Cook 

        6 years ago from NJ, USA

        Brilliant hub - and one I must show my wife!!!

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        Rebecca Mealey 

        6 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

        This is an evil thought, but this somehow reminds me of that scene in The Color Purple where Oprah "shaves Mista".

      • The Dirt Farmer profile image

        Jill Spencer 

        6 years ago from United States

        Congrats on HOTD! I sometimes shave my husband's neck between his haircuts, but maybe I should expand my repertoire. Thanks for the tips!

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        Author Victoria Sheffield 

        6 years ago from Georgia


      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        Beard rash hm? Too many minutes of being too up close? Nice problem wouldn't you think? Joking. Well, maybe. Thanks so much for dropping in and enjoying the party. I'm so enjoying all these stories.

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        Suzanne Ridgeway 

        6 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

        Hi Penelope,

        Great hub, congrats on a well deserved HOTD! Really interesting and what a hunk you have in Tuscany by your side! My partner only sees facial hair on the lazy days as I got beard rash and didn't know what the hell I had! Have done some trimming for him but will keep this close by for further tips you shared! Great hub, voted +++++

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        He's a very handsome man now, thanks!

        Appreciate stopping by.

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        6 years ago from Sarajevo, Bosnia

        Great job, now he is younger for 15 years at least. Congratulate for your HotD!

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        So we're two peas in the same pod then cclitgirl, now that's nice isn't it? Love finding folk who do the same things I do beecause I like doing those things! Nice of you to pop in and share. I appreciate it, thank you.

        So amazing to get the HOTD for this quirky Hub! I'm very pleased about it.

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        Cynthia Calhoun 

        6 years ago from Western NC

        Penelope - this is freaking awesome. I love this. :) My hubby has the same kind of mustache/beard and it's just so...wonderful, LOL. I love your tips, too. My hubby doesn't go to the barber, either...he actually trims his own and I trim my own hair, too. :D

        Congrats on your HOTD!

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        I got mine to let me take the pictures when he was watching a game and just too tired to resist. I sneaked on him with jut that one hair routine, then said, I'm going to make a hub of you. I think he's kind of vain (?). Anyway, it was all lovely to do and just so fun that it was turned into a HPTD.

        Your guy seems to have wonderful hair. Bless.

        Thanks for such a great share Sharkye11

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        Jayme Kinsey 

        6 years ago from Oklahoma

        Awww...beautiful hub. Great job with all the photos too. My husband will gladly let me trim his facial hair, but he would never allow me to take pictures. Not even for a hub! I love that you enjoy doing this for your partner. That is sweet!

        Great tips too. I recently talked my husband into growing his goatee into a full beard. He had had the goatee for years and all the other bikers had the same style. He already has beautiful shoulder-length gray hair that curls wonderfully. I get to do all the trimming on that, and have to help him with the beard and mustache in the growing-out stage to make sure the lines are even. It is a lot easier than doing a full shave on a guy--hated that job in the nursing home!

        Great hub! You do a wonderful job keeping your guy handsome. Congrats on HOTD!

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        Thanks, SAM ELDER, we're pretty close! The beard is a major attraction of course. Thanks for comment.

        moronkee. I know what you mean about trimming our children's hair. We know how cute they are, so we know how to make them look just great. It doesn't cost a thing! Yea.

        dellea- I like a bit of humor in a comment. Thanks. Getting that balance just right sounds like a fun challenge.

        ComfortB. Glad you enjoyed my Hub. I had a lot of fun doing it too. Thanks you for comments and congrats.

        Natashalh. Hi! Your guy in college had a mind of his own. I wonder where he is no and how he keeps his hair. Maybe he's cut it all off and likes a bald look. Wonder how he'll be when he gets to his sixties. It all changes then and they have to make do with what they have (left?). Thanks for share.

        Greatly appreciate your comments and so enjoy this HOTD surprise!

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        6 years ago from Hawaii

        Congrats on your hub of the day! I'm used to seeing your recipes and such, so this was certainly a change of pace!

        I dated a guy in college who was a grooming nightmare! He would let his hair go for years without cutting it. It looked great shoulder length, but not back length! He would do basically the same with his beard.

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        Comfort Babatola 

        6 years ago from Bonaire, GA, USA

        You are good! Love the details and the images in this hub. Used to help clip my husband hair when there was hair. He's gone bald now, totally!

        Enjoyed reading this, and congrats on the HOTD award.

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        6 years ago

        This is a difficult topic for me. When I shave my face gets prickly and it makes my wife's face itch when we kiss... but when I let it grow too long it gets fuzzy, annoying and itchy for me... it's hard to have an equal balance. What's funny is the fact that I smoke cigars... if my mustache gets too long and bushy I occasionally catch part of it on fire, then I have to trim it up :)

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        Moronke Oluwatoyin 

        6 years ago

        Your hubby looks cooool after the trimming. I like trimming my son's hair because it is economical.

        An interesting hub.

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        SAM ELDER 

        6 years ago from Home

        LOL , Very close couple :) nice article :)

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        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        Yea! Thanks Yvonne!

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        Yvonne Spence 

        6 years ago from UK

        Yay! Congrats on your HOTD Goodlady!

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        It can happen to the best of us! Enjoy it all as it happens. It's all fun really.

        Nice of you to stop by thank you.

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        Devika Primić 

        6 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

        I am glad I don't have those issues, so far so good.

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        6 years ago

        will have to prod her as she doesn't think she can do it

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        Glad you agree that 's fun; you have to get your partner going on this then!

        Thanks for you comment and welcome to Hub Pages bretthov

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        6 years ago

        nice post - good reminder for us guys to pay attention to the details. wish my partner would trim me up - would be kind of fun to have her in control with the trimmers and scissors!

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        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        It sounds as though you have a great relationship too. Letting you get near their balding hair is quite tender isn't it. Nobody ever imagined getting thin on top, but to share it with your wife or girlfriend is really sweet I've always felt.

        Oh, you can do it divacratus!

        Many thanks for reading and commenting on my article. Appreciated.

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        Kalpana Iyer 

        6 years ago from India

        Wow! You have done a really good job. I wouldn't trust myself with this task at all considering how clumsy I can get with a pair of scissors.

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        Pamela Oglesby 

        6 years ago from Sunny Florida

        I think it is nice that you trim his facial hair. I have trimmed my husbands and given him haircuts as well. I've only done that since he started losing some of his hair, but it is nice that he trusts me to come near him with a trimmer. I am no barber. I enjoyed your hub. It sounds like you two have a great relationship.

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        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        It get's us close! I like being in control too. Love the way he looks and thanks for liking him too Susan. (I'm not telling him).

        tillsotitan, thanks for votes fellow cutter/trimmer. Do you prefer him without a beard? Mine has to look the way I like him too, though he thinks he does what he likes. It's just a great game really.

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        Mary Craig 

        6 years ago from New York

        And I am the third, nice job Goodlady. My hubby hasn't been to a barber in over twenty years, I do all the cutting and trimming. He gave up his beard though, said it made him too hot!

        Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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        Susan Zutautas 

        6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

        I know Al wouldn't let me trim his beard or mustache but he might let me trim his hair. I agree with Melovy that your man looks great!

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        Compliment taken kind man! Thanks for linking - that's just great.

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        Jimmy the jock 

        6 years ago from Scotland

        Another well presented and written Hub by you Goodlady, link recriprocated.....jimmy

      • GoodLady profile imageAUTHOR

        Penelope Hart 

        6 years ago from Rome, Italy

        It's easy, well it is for us Maybe because his hair is thinning!

        Many thanks for commenting!

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        Yvonne Spence 

        6 years ago from UK

        Interesting hub. I'm not sure my hubbie would let me near his facial hair though, I don't think I've got your skills with scissors. The before and after photos show you did a great job!


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