How to Be Girly and More Feminine
How can you embrace a more typical girly girl and feminine image? Well, wearing the right clothes, obsessing over makeup and beauty, and doing all the other girly stuff that you possibly can could help!
From tips on your wardrobe and accessories to tips on how you to behave, this post is the ultimate guide on how to be more feminine and become a complete girly girl.
Clothes, Makeup, Looks, Beauty and More
For years, caring about your appearance has been traditionally associated with being more feminine. While this isn't necessarily true, you can choose to embrace the stereotype and make a big effort to adjust your appearance. Keep in mind, however, that caring about your appearance can be time-consuming. Choose the steps that give you joy, and skip the parts that seem like a chore!
1. Use Makeup and Cosmetic Products
Call it stereotypical or a result of popular culture, a girly girl never leaves the house without dabbing some makeup on and adjusting her appearance with a cosmetic product. Lip gloss, foundation, eyeliner, mascara, and powder are a few basic makeup items that you might want to carry in your handbag to touch up throughout the day. Wear more—such as eyeshadow, lipstick, foundation, and concealer—if you so wish!
Whether you are stepping out in your leggings to buy groceries at the supermarket or are hanging out with friends at the mall or park, take a quick look in the mirror and dab on a bit of makeup—it's the ultimate girly girl activity!
2. Facial or Body Hair Is a No-No
Traditionally, facial or body hair is an absolute no-no for girls. It may be impractical to be spotlessly clean every single day, but to embrace the stereotypically feminine image you have to do everything it takes to mask unwanted facial or body hair.
From your brows to lips to arms to legs, being free of body hair will help you look the part of the traditionally feminine girl. This can including tweezing, epilating, waxing, threading or shave—do what you have to do to get the look you want! Or, if you're feeling lazy, just cover up your legs when you don't want to shave. No one will know the difference.
3. Pay Attention to Your Nails, Hair, Skin and Everything Else
Wearing makeup and removing unwanted body hair aren't the only things girls are expected to make a habit of. The stereotypical girly girl also has to obsess over her nails, hair, skin, lips and other beauty-related aspects of her body.
To play into this image, you'll have to pay more attention to the nail color you wear, keep your skin moisturized at all times, style your hair and look at all the other minute details that contribute to your overall look and make you feel sexy.
Don't be shy of experimenting with bright and peppy colors for your nails. Don't back away from trying the latest hairstyles, and dye your hair a daring color. There are many different ways to subtly change your appearance.
4. Wear Girly Clothes: Bright and Peppy, Skinny and Light
From short skirts and tight leggings to skinny jeans and hot pants, from frilly tops to shrugs to frocks, fill your wardrobe with clothes that are stereotypically girly and feminine.
Throw on a pair of skintight leggings for a quick visit to the mall and switch them up for some cute skinny jeans for a preppy, "going to the movies" look. On a sunny day at the beach, you can try wearing a bright-colored bikini, and try incorporating a short skirt into your outfit for a fun date or outing. An oversized shirt is perfect for those lazy Sunday mornings. And, of course, a black dress is a must for formal evenings!
Bright colors like pink, lavender, yellow, lime green, shades of orange, blue, mustard, and red are traditionally considered feminine. Unless you are looking for evening or formal wear, avoid dark shades like navy blue, black, burgundy or brown—since these are stereotypically must-haves in a man's wardrobe. However, if those are the colors you prefer to wear, have at it!
5. Carry a Clutch or a Tote Bag Instead of a Backpack
Regardless of whether you need a bag to carry your books from the dorm to class or you want to take a few things for work, to be more feminine you will have to ditch the backpack for a tote bag or a clutch.
Avoid manly-looking satchels and briefcases. Unless you are traveling, replace your backpack or duffle bag with a chic tote or handbag.
6. Avoid Wearing Flats: Girls Like Their Heels!
Wearing heels will give your height a boost, lift your torso and accentuate your body lines in all the right places. To look more feminine, heels could possibly your best friend.
If you can't handle stilettos or are used to wearing flat-soled shoes, start by wearing heels that are just an inch high. Even a small lift will add definition to your legs if you step out wearing skinny jeans.
7. Wear Accessories or Jewelry
It is difficult to picture an image of a girly girl without fashion accessories or a piece of jewelry like a bracelet, necklace, ring, scarf, brooch, pin, wrist band, colored pantyhose, earrings, bangles, sunglasses, a watch, or more. There is a wide variety of accessories that you can choose to complement your style and personality. You can even have a separate jewelry box where you can carefully store your jewelry.
Apart from these, incorporate girly colors in the items that you use all the time. For example, buy a pink cover for your iPhone or get yourself a brightly patterned handbag.
8. Use Mild Floral and Fruity Fragrances
There are certain fragrances that are traditionally associated with men and women. For example, musk takes a strong note in men's perfumes, whereas tea lavender, tree oil, chamomile, orange zest, and sea-buckthorn are common notes in feminine fragrances.
Stay away from fragrances with an earthy, masculine smell. Traditionally feminine scents have light, fruity or flowery notes.
Behavior, Body Language, Attitude and More
Besides the way you look, there is a wide variety of behaviors traditionally associated with being feminine that. These stereotypical behaviors are perpetuated by movies, tv shows, magazines, and more. If the image of being a girly girl is what you want to portray, adopting some of these habits will help you get there.
9. Sit Like a Woman: Legs Crossed or Knees Close With a Straight Back
One of the classic traits of a girly girl is that she sits with her legs crossed. Women who sit with their legs wide apart may not appear as feminine as those who tactfully cross their legs. It is more "womanly," it feels sexier, and it's much more graceful.
There are many advantages of sitting with your legs crossed. It can make a woman's figure look more curvaceous while also preventing an unwanted flashing when she's wearing miniskirts and short dresses.
10. Play With Your Hair
The typical scene of a Hollywood-crafted girly girl is not complete without a pretty lady sitting by herself while she twirls her hair. Playing with your hair is a clichéd feminine trait which basically conveys that a girl is fragile and sensitive yet very beautiful.
Simply twirl your locks with your fingers or maybe even sweep your hair from one shoulder to another. This is one way to look girly without putting in much effort at all.
11. Shield Yourself From the Elements
Regardless of what you look like, it's important to stay warm and dry during harsh winter storms or cold blasts. Wear gloves and mufflers in winter to shield yourself from the icy cold breeze! Accessories like gloves, mufflers, hats, umbrellas, and more can both protect you from the elements while also keeping you chic and stylish.
If, in your quest to appear like a girly girl, you have already put a lot of effort into your appearance, it would be a shame if the rain ruined all of your hard work. However, if it doesn't bother you, skip the umbrella and let the wind blow in your hair!
In movies, men are often portrayed giving their lady love their jackets when it is cold or sharing umbrellas when it is raining. However, this doesn't always happen in real life, so it's important to be prepared. If you find yourself caught in the middle of a rainstorm, pull out your umbrella or button up your raincoat. Otherwise, feel free to run for cover!
12. Don't Shy Away From Gossip
Both men and women gossip, but unfortunately, it is seen as a rather girly thing to do. You can blame your favorite TV shows for that stereotype. Whether it is in the schoolyard, your dorm room or at the coffee machine in an office, girls are expected not to shy away from gossip. However, if it doesn't come to you naturally, don't force it! There's no use being someone you're not.
13. Steer Away From Dirt and Filth
Do you scream "Eww!" when you see something gross? Does a disgusted expression cross your face when you walk into a messy house? Do you hate people who score low on hygiene and cleanliness?
If you have been nodding, you already have one of these most stereotypically feminine traits. Women are often portrayed as disgusted by the sight of anything dirty, unhygienic or filthy. Whether it is a dirty bathroom or messy sheets, make sure you stick to what you're comfortable with.
14. Avoid Swearing Excessively
In most social environments, it's important not to use swear words in every other sentence. Both women and men should think before using swear words in front of others, especially in more formal environments like offices and workplaces.
However, in popular culture, women are often associated with speaking more politely all the time. However, you should be yourself and express yourself the way you want to when you're with your friends and family!
15. Don't Be Seen Chugging Beer, Hogging Food, or Picking Fights
You may have to put a lot of effort into constructing a feminine image, but popular culture has even made certain actions associated more with masculinity than feminity. In Hollywood, a beautiful damsel is not typically seen chugging away on a pint of beer or savagely chomping on a big piece of meat.
Being girly should not stop you from doing what you like. If you are a beer lover, be sure to enjoy your favorite brew on the weekend! However, if you're trying to appear more feminine you can sip at your glass gracefully instead of pounding glass after glass of beer. If you really want to play up the girly image (or if you just like the way it tastes), choose a glass of red or a fruity cocktail instead.
16. Read Women's Magazines
Because the media helps shape what is considered girly and what's not, reading women's magazines will help you find out what the typical woman is "supposed" to be like. Tuning into the latest style, fashion, relationship advice, dating trends and more will really help you know what women are traditionally expected to behave and look like in today's society.
As you flip through one glossy page after another, be sure to stay true to yourself and not to take every claim in these magazines as truth—they are designed to advertise, not to advise.
17. Be Expressive and Show Emotion Through Your Body Language
A girl's smile can say a lot about how she is feeling. For reasons that cannot be explained, a smiling girl sends out the message that she is approachable and friendly—just the characteristics women are expected to display.
Body language is a great way to express yourself when you don't feel there is much to be said. With your eyes, you can look flirty or angry; changing the way you walk can make you appear sexier, or you can give off a quirky smirk to let others know that you like or dislike something.
However, don't hold back on expressing yourself! You can't rely on body language for everything, and it's important that you tell people what you're thinking in a straightforward way in order to avoid miscommunication.
Whether you're already a girly girl or if you consider yourself a tom boy,
Your attitude and personality make you special. To give it a girly tweak, be a girl who is romantic, occasionally moody, bubbly, easy to console, seemingly innocent, sometimes vulnerable, and nice to others.
A girly girl also knows exactly the people who she should hang out with and the type of people to stay away from, so she chooses her friends carefully.
Don't go overboard with the attitude but remember to let your inner feminine side shine through all the time.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.